gamocdili maswavlebeli

disciplina
riTac Tavidan icilebs arasasurvel qcevas. magaliTad, `axla kabinetSi mivdivarT. Tqveni
azriT, ra gvelodeba iq? ra unda gavakeToT? ra unda gaviTvaliswinoT Cvens qcevaSi?~ an:
`kargiT, axla mzad varT sportul darbazSi wasasvlelad. raze vfiqrobT, roca darbazSi
varT? ratom?~
dadebiTi molodinis damokidebuleba maswavlebelma SeiZleba Yim sityvebiT gaamyaros,
romliTac moswavles mimarTavs. aseT pozitiur molodins ori aspeqti aqvs. pirvelSi SeniRbulia
kiTxva, `ratom unda gaakeToT es aucileblad~, romelsac maswavlebeli pirdapir ar
ambobs, magram gadascems JestebiTa da damokidebulebiT. dadebiTi molodinis meore aspeqti
ki aris gamxneveba, rwmena, `vici, rom amis gakeTeba SegiZliaT~, rac, xSirad, ufro specifikuri
saqcielis an kiTxvebis dadebiT debulebebTan (`ar dagaviwydeT xelis aweva~) asocirdeba
da ara pirdapir akrZalvasTan (`SewyviteT wamoZaxeba!~).
dadebiTi molodinis gadacemis kidev erTi gza aris Tavdajerebuloba Sesatyvisi qcevis
moTxovnisas. Tavdajerebulobis efeqtisaTvis li kanteri (Lee Canter) gvirCevs: yuradRebis
oTxi moZraobis Sejerebas, rogoric aris TvaliT kontaqti, xelis Jesti, moswavlis saxelis
warmoTqma da Sexeba:
maswavlebelma SeamCnia, rom stivi uxeSad hkravda xels mwkrivSi mis gverdiT mdgom
bavSvebs. is stivTan mivida, TvalebSi Caxeda, mxarze xeli daado da uTxra: `stiv, xe-
lebi gaaCere~ (da aCvena sasurveli mdgomareoba) (Canter 1977, gv. 75)*
Tu moswavleebi Tavis marTlebiT an sxva TavSesaqcevi moZraobebiT SegvekamaTebian, kanteri
gvirCevs `gafuWebuli patefonis~ teqnikas:
maswavlebeli: `siu, minda, rom xeli aswio da daicado, sanam gamogiZaxeben~. (survilis
debuleba)
siu: `ase arc erTi moswavle ar akeTebs~.
maswavlebeli: `amas mniSvneloba ar aqvs. minda, rom Sen xeli aswio~. (gafuWebuli patefoni)
siu: `Tqven me arasodes miZaxebT~.
maswavlebeli: `amas mniSvneloba ar aqvs. me minda, rom Sen xeli aswio~. (gafuWebuli patefoni)
siu: `kargiT, avwev~.
am dialogSi maswavlebeli ubralod imeorebda (gafuWebuli patefoni) imas, rasac bavSvisgan
moiTxovda da sius pasuxebis gamo gzidan ar gadauxvevia. maswavlebelma SeinarCuna
bavSvTan urTierTobis kontroli.
gafuWebuli patefonis gamoyenebis dros, pirvel yovlisa, saWiroa gansazRvroT, ra
gsurT moswavlisgan (`minda, sium aswios xeli~. es xdeba Tqveni survilisa da Tqveni urTierTobis
arsis gamoxatva. SegiZliaT Tqveni survilis debulebas win waumZRvaroT: `amas
mniSvneloba ar aqvs, magram me minda, rom Sen aswio xeli~, an `mesmis, magram minda, rom Sen aswio
xeli~.) mniSvneloba ara aqvs, ra manipulaciur pasuxs warmoadgens moswavle, Tu Tqven
survilis debulebiT upasuxebT _ `mniSvneloba ara aqvs, minda, rom Sen~, an `mesmis, magram
minda, rom Sen~ _ riTac Tqveni debuleba ufro efeqturi gaxdeba (Canter, gv. 79-80).*
es teqnika SeiZleba saocrad efeqtiani iyos, gansakuTrebiT swavlis verbaluri stilis
mqone moswavleebTan. Tumca, misi gamoyenebisas unda gaxsovdeT, ra SedegisTvis (SedegTa
jaWvisTvis) unda iyoT mzad, arasasurveli saqcielis gagrZelebis SemTxvevaSi. amis gareSe
Tavdajerebuloba usafuZvlo iqneba. metic, molodinis samjer gameorebis Semdeg, umjobesia,
maswavlebeli mzad iyos Sedegis gansaxorcieleblad.
* ibeWdeba nebarTviT. Canter, L. (with M. Canter). Assertive Discipline. Santa Monica, Calif.: Canter and Associates, 1977).
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