Rendah Hati - ROCK Sydney Indonesian Church

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By Eddy Suki
About Marriage...
have been married for 12 years, in comparison with
I some of the elders in the church, my marriage is like a
year 6 student. However, I always believe that the quality
of marriage life is not determined by how long you have
been married but rather on the willingness of each partner
to commit, to love and to support each other in their
marriage.
For the last couple of years, my wife and I have been
approached by several younger married couples for
advices; we are delighted to be able to be a blessing for
others. In addition, we are able to appreciate more the
importance of understanding about marriage life before
any one commit to it. In this article, I would like to share
some basic Q&A to couples before they say “I do”.
How do you know if you are ready
for marriage?
I like to dedicate this answer to the “Groom to be”.
Why? Because man is the leader in the family and God
hold him accountable for his family. Every man needs to
realise that they are created by God to be a father. It is not
a choice but rather inherent and privilege as a man. As
a man (father), he needs to understand his purpose as:
• Source – to provide shelter, food, clothes, etc
• Nourisher – to help your family grow spiritually,
mentally and physically
• Sustainer – to help them overcome all the challenges
in life
• Supporter – to support them in circumstances
• Founder – to exercise authority and set an
example
• Protector – to protect them even to the extent of
surrendering your life for your family
If you are not ready for any of the above then you may
want to think again before walking down the aisle.
and gave Himself up for it”. That’s it, as Christ comes
to serve not to be served so the husband should serve
his wife needs. Yes, as a husband you should know the
needs of your wife and children without them having to
open their mouth and ask from you.
But, we should share the work load.
It is not fair!
Marriage is a covenant not a contract. In marriage life
there is no such thing as “You do the cooking and I wash
the dishes”. Marriage is more than that. As Jesus still love
us when we disobey or fall into sin, so husband or wife
should love, support and help each other regardless of
the circumstances.
Why does it sounds so difficult?
I thought marriage should be fun?
There are fun parts in marriage life but there are also
commitment, sacrifice, love, loyalty, submission, etc. If
you think marriage is all about fun, sex and having a baby
then you have missed the big picture. In a short statement
– Marriage is one of God’s ways to fulfil His destiny in you.
The question does not stop there, but rather continue
and get more interested. I wish I have all the 16 pages of
ROCK Sydney Bulletin just for the Q&A, but I don’t. So,
if you wish to learn more, please join our ROCK Sydney
School of Ministry (SOM). a
Source:
- The Fatherhood Principle (Priority, Position and the Role of the Male),
2008, 2.
- The Covenant Marriage (Building Communication and Intimacy), 2003,
B&H Publishing Group, Dr Gary Chapman Whitaker House, Dr Myles Munroe
As a husband, I am the head of family
therefore my wife should obey what I say?
The above statement is partly true but missing the important
point. In Ephesians 5:25 Paul stated, “Husbands,
love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church,
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