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I asked him if I would not get pregnant, and he said no. I did not want to<br />
sleep [have sex voluntarily] with him but because a man is stronger than a<br />
woman, he started struggling with me, then he broke me (broke my virginity).<br />
I did not shout but was very hurt about the incident. However, because<br />
we had been together for a long time I dropped it. I became very scared of<br />
him and was afraid I would become pregnant.<br />
The respondent seemed to negotiate with her boyfriend, rather than<br />
making it clear from the outset that she would not have the encounter.<br />
Her resistance was half-hearted, but there was a struggle which clearly<br />
suggests rape. There had been a relationship, and significantly the victim<br />
dropped the matter, though her attitude towards the man changed.<br />
Loving the friend’s brother who raped you<br />
An unmarried 22 year old girl described her first sex experience. Her<br />
rapist was her friend’s brother and the two had colluded. To excite her,<br />
the boy showed a pornographic film and in the process raped her. The<br />
matter did not end there; she was angry but eventually she and her rapist<br />
began a regular relationship.<br />
He then said I should follow him and that he had something to tell me. I<br />
asked him why, but he said one of his sisters had brought a video disc .....<br />
We were watching the films when he put his head on me. ... I angrily asked<br />
him to get up ..because if someone enters and sees us like that I would not<br />
like that. He started doing some things... he was struggling with me ... In<br />
the end he had sex with me ... It was after that we started walking as boyfriend<br />
and girlfriend.<br />
The story shows that the rapist may have collaborators, and these may<br />
be people related to the victim or rapist, and their task is to set up the<br />
encounter. Men sometimes tried to excite women into having sex with<br />
them by showing the victim pornographic films or literature. It is clear<br />
that the rape was not always planned from the onset; however, it appears<br />
that by the time the victim rejected the proposal it was too late to<br />
stop.<br />
Raped by a Church Member<br />
This story shows clearly that gestures can be misunderstood and unwanted<br />
incidents can result. An apparently committed Christian girl got<br />
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