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CHAPTER TEN<br />
DIVORCE<br />
1916–1919<br />
With Elsa, June 1922<br />
“The Narrow Whirlpool of Personal Experience”<br />
As a young man, Einstein had predicted, in a letter to the mother of his first girlfriend, that the joys of science would be a refuge from painful<br />
personal emotions. And thus it was. His conquest of general relativity proved easier than finding the formulas for the forces swirling within his family.<br />
Those forces were complex. At the very moment he was finalizing his field equations—the last week of November 1915—his son Hans Albert<br />
was telling Michele Besso that he wanted to spend time alone with his father over Christmas, preferably on Zugerberg mountain or someplace<br />
similarly isolated. But simultaneously, the boy was writing his father a nasty letter saying he did not want him to come to Switzerland at all. 1<br />
How to explain the contradiction? Hans Albert’s mind seemed at times to display a duality—he was, after all, only 11—and he had powerfully<br />
conflicted attitudes toward his father. That was no surprise. Einstein was intense and compelling and at times charismatic. He was also aloof and<br />
distracted and had distanced himself, physically and emotionally, from the boy, who was guarded by a doting mother who felt humiliated.<br />
The stubborn patience that Einstein displayed when dealing with scientific problems was equaled by his impatience when dealing with personal<br />
entanglements. So he informed the boy he was canceling the trip. “The unkind tone of your letter dismays me very much,” Einstein wrote just days<br />
after finishing his last lecture on general relativity. “I see that my visit would bring you little joy, therefore I think it’s wrong to sit in a train for two hours<br />
and 20 minutes.”<br />
There was also the question of a Christmas present. Hans Albert had become an avid little skier, and Mari gave him a set of equipment that<br />
cost 70 francs. “Mama bought them for me on condition that you also contribute,” he wrote. “I consider them a Christmas present.” This did not<br />
please Einstein. He replied that he would send him a gift in cash, “but I do think that a luxury gift costing 70 francs does not match our modest<br />
circumstances,” Einstein wrote, underlining the phrase. 2<br />
Besso put on what he called his “pastoral manner” to mediate. “You should not take serious offense at the boy,” he said. The source of the friction<br />
was Mari , Besso believed, but he asked Einstein to remember that she was composed “not only of meanness but of goodness.” He should try to<br />
understand, Besso urged, how difficult it was for Mari to deal with him. “The role as the wife of a genius is never easy.” 3 In the case of Einstein, that<br />
was certainly true.<br />
The anxiety surrounding Einstein’s proposed visit was partly due to a misunderstanding. Einstein had assumed that the plan to have him and his<br />
son meet at the Bessos’ had been arranged because Mari and Hans Albert wanted it that way. Instead, the boy had no desire to be a bystander<br />
while his father and Besso discussed physics. Just the opposite: he wanted his father to himself.<br />
Mari ended up writing to clear up the matter, which Einstein appreciated. “I was likewise a bit disappointed that I would not get Albert to myself<br />
but only under Besso’s protection,” he said.<br />
So Einstein reinstated his plan to visit Zurich, and he promised it would be one of many such trips to see his son. “[Hans] Albert* is now entering<br />
the age at which I can mean very much to him,” he said. “I want mainly to teach him to think, judge and appreciate things objectively.” A week later,<br />
in another letter to Mari , he reaffirmed that he was happy to make the trip, “for there is a faint chance that I’ll please Albert by coming.” He did,<br />
however, add rather pointedly, “See to it that he receives me fairly cheerfully. I am quite tired and overworked, and not capable of enduring new<br />
agitations and disappointments.” 4<br />
It was not to be. Einstein’s exhaustion lingered, and the war made the border crossing from Germany difficult. Two days before Christmas of<br />
1915, when he was supposed to be departing for Switzerland, Einstein instead wrote his son a letter. “I have been working so hard in the last few<br />
months that I urgently need a rest during the Christmas holidays,” he said. “Aside from this, coming across the border is very uncertain at present,<br />
since it has been almost constantly closed recently. That is why I must unfortunately deprive myself of visiting you now.”<br />
Einstein spent Christmas at home. That day, he took out of his satchel some of the drawings that Hans Albert had sent him and wrote the boy a<br />
postcard saying how much they pleased him. He would come for Easter, he promised, and he expressed delight that his son enjoyed playing piano.<br />
“Maybe you can practice something to accompany a violin, and then we can play at Easter when we are together.” 5<br />
After he and Mari separated, Einstein had initially decided not to seek a divorce. One reason was that he had no desire to marry Elsa.<br />
Companionship without commitment suited him just fine. “The attempts to force me into marriage come from my cousin’s parents and is mainly<br />
attributable to vanity, though moral prejudice, which is still very much alive in the old generation, plays a part,” Einstein wrote Zangger the day after<br />
presenting his climactic November 1915 lecture. “If I let myself become trapped, my life would become complicated, and above all it would probably