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he was not going to divorce her. “I treat my wife as an employee whom I cannot fire. I have my own bedroom and avoid being alone with her.” Elsa<br />
was upset that Einstein did not want to marry her, and she was fearful of how an illicit relationship would affect her daughters, but Einstein insisted it<br />
was for the best. 72<br />
Mari was understandably depressed by the prospect of moving to Berlin. There she would have to deal with Einstein’s mother, who had never<br />
liked her, and his cousin, whom she rightly suspected of being a rival. In addition, Berlin had sometimes been less tolerant to Slavs than it was even<br />
to Jews. “My wife whines to me incessantly about Berlin and her fear of the relatives,” Einstein wrote Elsa. “Well, there is some truth in this.” In<br />
another letter, when he noted that Mari was afraid of her, he added, “Rightly so I hope!” 73<br />
Indeed, by this point all of the women in his life—his mother, sister, wife, and kissing cousin—were at war with one another. As Christmas 1913<br />
neared, Einstein’s struggle to generalize relativity had the added benefit of being a way to avoid family emotions. The effort produced yet another<br />
eloquent restatement of how science could rescue him from the merely personal. “The love of science thrives under these circumstances,” he told<br />
Elsa, “for it lifts me impersonally from the vale of tears into peaceful spheres.” 74<br />
With the approach of the spring of 1914 and their move to Berlin, Eduard came down with an ear infection that made it necessary for Mari to<br />
take him to an Alpine resort to recover. “This has a good side,” Einstein told Elsa. He would initially be traveling to Berlin alone, and “in order to<br />
savor that,” he decided to skip a conference in Paris so that he could arrive earlier.<br />
On one of their last evenings in Zurich, he and Mari went to the Hurwitz house for a farewell musical evening. Once again, the program featured<br />
Schumann, in an attempt to cheer her up. It didn’t. She instead sat by herself in a corner and did not speak to anyone. 75<br />
Berlin, 1914<br />
By April 1914, Einstein had settled into a spacious apartment just west of Berlin’s city center. Mari had picked it out when she visited Berlin over<br />
Christmas vacation, and she arrived in late April, after Eduard’s ear infection had subsided. 76<br />
The tensions in Einstein’s domestic life were exacerbated by overwork and mental strain. He was settling into a new job—actually three new jobs<br />
—and still struggling with his fitful attempts to generalize his theory of relativity and tie it into a theory of gravity. That first April in Berlin, for example,<br />
he engaged in an intense correspondence with Paul Ehrenfest over ways to calculate the forces affecting rotating electrons in a magnetic field. He<br />
started writing a theory for such situations, then realized it was wrong. “The angel had unveiled itself halfway in its magnificence,” he told Ehrenfest,<br />
“then on further unveiling a cloven hoof appeared and I ran away.”<br />
Even more revealing, perhaps more than he meant it to be, was his comment to Ehrenfest about his personal life in Berlin.“I really delight in my<br />
local relatives,” he reported, “especially in a cousin of my age.” 77<br />
When Ehrenfest came for a visit at the end of April, Mari had just arrived, and he found her gloomy and yearning for Zurich. Einstein, on the other<br />
hand, had thrown himself into his work. “He had the impression that the family was taking a bit too much of his time, and that he had the duty to<br />
concentrate completely on his work,” his son Hans Albert later recollected about that fateful spring of 1914. 78<br />
Personal relationships involve nature’s most mysterious forces. Outside judgments are easy to make and hard to verify. Einstein repeatedly and<br />
plaintively stressed to all of their mutual friends—especially the Bessos, Habers, and Zanggers—that they should try to see the breakup of his<br />
marriage from his perspective, despite his own apparent culpability.<br />
It is probably true that he was not solely to blame. The decline of the marriage was a downward spiral. He had become emotionally withdrawn,<br />
Mari had become more depressed and dark, and each action reinforced the other. Einstein tended to avoid painful personal emotions by<br />
immersing himself in his work. Mari , for her part, was bitter about the collapse of her own dreams and increasingly resentful of her husband’s<br />
success. Her jealousy made her hostile toward anyone else who was close to Einstein, including his mother (the feeling was reciprocal) and his<br />
friends. Her mistrustful nature was, understandably, to some extent an effect of Einstein’s detachment, but it was also a cause.<br />
By the time they moved to Berlin, Mari had developed at least one personal involvement of her own, with a mathematics professor in Zagreb<br />
named Vladimir Vari ak, who had challenged Einstein’s interpretations of how special relativity applied to a rotating disk. Einstein was aware of<br />
the situation. “He had a kind of relationship with my wife, which can’t be held against either of them,” he wrote to Zangger in June. “It only made me<br />
feel my sense of isolation doubly painfully.” 79<br />
The end came in July. Amid the turmoil, Mari moved with her two boys into the house of Fritz Haber, the chemist who’d recruited Einstein and<br />
who ran the institute where his office was located. Haber had his own experience with domestic discord. His wife, Clara, would end up committing<br />
suicide the following year after a fight over Haber’s participation in the war. But for the time being, she was Mileva Mari ’s only friend in Berlin, and<br />
Fritz Haber became the intermediary as the Einsteins’ battles broke into the open.<br />
Through the Habers, Einstein delivered to Mari in mid-July a brutal cease-fire ultimatum. It was in the form of a proposed contract, one in which<br />
Einstein’s cold scientific approach combined with his personal hostility and emotional alienation to produce an astonishing document. It read in full:<br />
Conditions.<br />
A. You will make sure<br />
1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order;<br />
2. that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room;<br />
3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only.<br />
B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, you will forego<br />
1. my sitting at home with you;<br />
2. my going out or traveling with you.<br />
C. You will obey the following points in your relations with me:<br />
1. you will not expect any intimacy from me, nor will you reproach me in any way;<br />
2. you will stop talking to me if I request it;<br />
3. you will leave my bedroom or study immediately without protest if I request it.<br />
D. You will undertake not to belittle me in front of our children, either through words or behavior. 80