Grade 11 Healthy Active Living Education Additional Supports ...
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• there is a sense of security because they know they can share their feelings openly<br />
• they care about one another and they do not want things to build up and fester<br />
However there are some ground rules that will help a couple fight fair, resolve the<br />
conflict and increase the likelihood that both parties will come out the other end intact.<br />
Ground Rules for <strong>Healthy</strong> Non-Violent Relationships<br />
Rule One<br />
Avoid physical aggression such as hitting, pushing, grabbing, throwing things, shoving, kicking or<br />
beating up<br />
Rule Two<br />
Stay focussed on the issue at hand and avoid bringing other issues that have accumulated into the<br />
disagreement. Work out disagreements as they occur. Do not wait for things to build up. Work<br />
out other issues at a later time, not in the heat of the moment.<br />
Rule Three<br />
Avoid name-calling. Conflict never gets resolved when people use name-calling as a retaliation<br />
technique. Feelings only get hurt and the conflict escalates. Name-calling is a manipulation of the<br />
real issue. It only serves to re-direct the focus and avoid the situation at hand.<br />
Rule Four<br />
Avoid putting the blame on the other person. Using ÒIÓ Statements shifts the blame and helps the<br />
individual assume some of the responsibility for the issues at hand. ÒIÓ statements also help you<br />
say how a situation makes you feel, what your perceptions of a situation are and what your needs<br />
are. Defensiveness on behalf of both parties involved is also eliminated.<br />
Adapted from ÒElements of a <strong>Healthy</strong> RelationshipÓ from Warning! Dating May be<br />
Hazardous to Your Health! Mother Courage Press, WI, 1998<br />
<strong>Grade</strong> <strong>11</strong> <strong>Healthy</strong> <strong>Active</strong> <strong>Living</strong> <strong>Education</strong> (PPL30), Module #3 Violence and Risk Taking Behaviour<br />
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