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but I’d definitely meet up with her for a beer: I think
we’d have a few laughs. And perhaps exchange some
sex tips too.
Do you think there’s more room for more women
to write sex blogs? Is it good education for men to
be reading this stuff so they can get more of a clue
about what women are really after?
I think there’s room for everyone to write sex blogs,
not just women. I am overjoyed that there seem to be
so many female voices out there though: it’s about time
that a different – non-sexist, non-passive, progressive
female – perspective on sexuality broke though into the
mainstream, so the more of us doing it, the better.
As for men reading and learning, well, from the
amount of emails I get from men, it does appear that
this is the case; that they really DO want to know what
women want, not just so they can please women, but
so they can enjoy sex more themselves. If just one
couple have better sex as a result of a guy reading my
blog, then I think that’s an achievement and something
to be applauded.
If a girl wanted to start out writing her own thing
or getting involved with talking to others on their
own blog, what would you advise?
Would it sound corny if I said “just do it”? Because
really, that’s all she’d need to do: just start up a blog
and write – that’s all I did. I wrote for myself, from
the heart; I have always been honest and open about
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my thoughts, and somehow, picked up readers along
the way who wanted to read what I wrote about. And
whilst doing it, I learned of others doing the same, and
have made some good online friends as a result. It’s
worth doing – if you have something to say, and the
time and dedication to say it.
Given your anonymity, how peculiar did it feel to
meet up with Lex from Naked Loft Party when he’s
already familiar with your entire sexual gamut?
Is there something liberating about that? Does it
create new taboos? Or does it just make everything
exceedingly polite?
It was brilliant fun meeting up with Lex from
Naked Loft Party [NSFW, unsurprisingly]. It was a
bit odd, with both of us having pseudonyms and not
knowing what each other looked like – it felt like a
blind date when we met – but it was wonderful to
finally meet in the flesh, so to speak, the man whose
writing I had admired.
It wasn’t odd at all that he knew of my entire sexual
history, because firstly, I also knew of his, and secondly,
I knew from his writing that he was very open-minded
person and would think nothing of any of my sexual
escapades. So when we met, I felt relaxed in his presence;
it was a meeting of minds – of like-minded minds
– and the connection we had online, translated into a
face-to-face one immediately.
It actually did feel very liberating meeting him, be-
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