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There also seems to be a burgeoning community
of other sex bloggers (for want of a better phrase) –
has that let you meet new friends online or off?
I’ve met quite a few bloggers actually, both sex
writers, and non-sex writers. I’m not sure if we’re a
‘community’ as such, but there does seem to be a kind
of ‘blogger’s code’ which we all uphold: respecting
privacy and anonymity, regardless of the subject matter
we write about. It has been very refreshing to meet
other sex bloggers – to know that I am not alone in my
thoughts – and I count a few of them as good friends.
Ironically, the bloggers I’ve met are the only people
that know ‘me’ as well as know my blogging persona;
none of my offline friends know I write the blog.
Can you talk as frankly to your real life friends
about your feelings as you can write them down for
the blog?
Sadly, no. I am reasonably open with my friends
generally, but the explicitness of my thoughts – both
sexual and emotional – are hidden from them. I’d love
to tell them all about the blog and book, but it would
really be like them reading my personal diary, which is
not something I want to happen!
What’s your best / worst experiences to come
out of writing the blog and being a minor net celeb
(albeit anonymous)?
The best thing to come out of writing the blog, is to
know that I have, in some way, touched some people.
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Receiving emails from both women and men telling me
I have struck a chord with them, or that they empathise
with me, or that they have learned from my experiences,
makes what I do seem so worthwhile. I never thought
that there would be so many people who connected to
my writing; with the thousands of emails sent to me,
saying exactly that, I guess I was wrong.
The worst thing to come out of writing the blog, is,
I suppose, the fact that I – and my life – still have to
remain so hidden, and that I can’t enjoy the success
my writing has achieved. I’m in no rush to lose my
anonymity – I really do need to uphold my, and others’
privacy – but it’s frustrating that I can’t proudly state
out in the open, that the blog and book are my doing.
So, sadly, there’ll be no book signings, or meeting my
readers, or anything like that. It’s a shame, but I’ve
made this bed now, so to speak, so I’ll just have to lie
in it…
With the blog to book angle and the witty explicit
sex discussions angle, there will be inevitable comparisons
to Belle De Jour’s debut. Did you read and/
or rate her book?
I’ve been reading Belle’s blog since she began writing
it; it was what inspired me to start my own. I haven’t
read her book, so couldn’t comment, though I would
say from her blog, that I think she’s a superb writer and
although her writing is a bit emotionally distant, I love
her style. I have no idea what she’s like as a person,
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