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MAY 2024 | NISSAN • IYAR 5784<br />
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Contents<br />
MAY 2024 | NISSAN • IYAR 5784<br />
Features<br />
23 26<br />
24 Congregation Beth Israel Honors the Goldbergs<br />
26 Love on a Leash<br />
29 Embracing Inclusivity: The Annual Friendship Walk<br />
Brings Joy to All<br />
30 Direct Flights From Iran<br />
32 Which Way Do We Go?<br />
Columns<br />
11 From the Editor | With Thanks<br />
16 Israeli Lifestyle | The Cost<br />
18 Literature | Gentle Rebel<br />
20 Parenting | Celebrating <strong>Jewish</strong> American Heritage Month<br />
With Kids<br />
42 Advice | Call Me “Platinum”<br />
Departments<br />
14 Our Town<br />
23 Spotlight: JFest 2024<br />
36 Local Arts<br />
39 Diversions<br />
40 Food<br />
Cover Frank and Lee Golberg.<br />
Photo by Melissa Jacobs, courtesy of Beth Israel.<br />
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Makayla Hoppe<br />
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Eileen Sondak<br />
CREATIVE DIRECTOR<br />
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SENIOR CONSULTANT<br />
Ronnie Weisberg<br />
CONTRIBUTING WRITERS<br />
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Leorah Gavidor, Emily Gould,<br />
Patricia Goldblatt, Sharon Rosen Leib,<br />
Andrea Simantov, Marnie Macauley,<br />
Lisa McGuigan, Rabbi Jacob Rupp,<br />
Rachel Eden, T.S. McNeil, Sybil Kaplan.<br />
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AFTER 76 YEARS, WE’RE STILL<br />
FIGHTING FOR A JEWISH STATE.<br />
In 1948, as Israel fought for its independence, the medics of Magen David Adom were there, treating<br />
In wounded 1948, as soldiers Israel fought and civilians for its independence, alike. Today, as the Israel medics celebrates of Magen Yom David HaAtzma’ut, Adom were MDA there, is still treating the<br />
wounded injured — even soldiers under and fire. civilians But for alike. MDA Today, to continue as Israel being celebrates there for Yom Israel, HaAtzma’ut, we need MDA to be is there still treating for MDA. the<br />
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fire. But for MDA to continue being there for Israel, we need to be there for MDA.<br />
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BETH ISRAEL'S<br />
ANNUAL<br />
FUNDRAISER<br />
l ’chaim<br />
to life<br />
LEE & FRANK<br />
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active in, supportive of, and demonstrated leadership in the synagogue and the larger <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> community.<br />
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SUSAN EDELSTEIN<br />
With Thanks<br />
The month of May includes a few notable days like Mother’s Day and Memorial Day which<br />
certainly raise our gratitude levels to new heights. It is the perfect month for our <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> <strong>Journal</strong> to focus on giving as we all owe our moms and our vets, and a few more<br />
givers, our unending gratitude.<br />
In our community, we are fortunate to have the Goldbergs, Lee and Frank, who, over<br />
the course of decades, have given abundantly to many worthy causes and have enhanced<br />
the quality of life in <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong>. They are particularly passionate about the arts and have<br />
been devoted to the <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> Opera and its educational and outreach programs. For years,<br />
they have been sharing and spreading their love of opera and have attracted hundreds of<br />
new fans to this centuries-old performance art, which uplifts our whole city.<br />
Then there are the volunteers who give their time and effort to many causes and groups<br />
throughout our community and our country. They are legion, and so are their causes.<br />
They are our heroes. Friendship Circle is one such group that recently held its annual<br />
Friendship Walk. This event brought together the friends and families of the members<br />
of the Circle, young people with special needs, to participate in and belong to the fun and<br />
excitement of a beautiful spring day. Friendship Circle and its special day would not be<br />
possible without the scores of volunteers who come together to spread joy and promote<br />
diversity and inclusion.<br />
Heart-warming were the stories about the pure, natural and unconditional love that<br />
comes from the volunteer teams of visiting dogs and their people and given to those who<br />
really need it. Love on a Leash volunteers, both canine and human, give the simplest of<br />
things, like the joy of petting a dog. Touch can be so comforting; it’s conducted through<br />
our largest organ straight to the heart, and nothing feels better than the weight, warmth<br />
and stability of a lovely dog.<br />
And this summer, we’ll welcome Israeli volunteers. According to the <strong>Jewish</strong> Agency<br />
for Israel, about 1500 Israelis, most aged 20 to 23, will volunteer at <strong>Jewish</strong> summer camps<br />
across the U.S. this year. Many of these emissaries will arrive here after experiencing<br />
months of war, and their very presence will demonstrate their strength and resilience,<br />
their devotion to Israel, and their intention to infuse pride into the hearts and minds of<br />
young <strong>Jewish</strong> Americans.<br />
Here’s to all the givers. A<br />
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WE WANT TO SAY...<br />
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Our Town<br />
by Linda Bennett and Emily Bartell<br />
The <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> Center for <strong>Jewish</strong> Culture presented<br />
“Tapestry: A Day of <strong>Jewish</strong> Community, Learning and<br />
Exploration” at the Lawrence Family JCC on Sunday,<br />
April 7. This new approach to the traditional “Day of<br />
Learning” format was very well received by the crowd.<br />
With so many outstanding presentations to choose<br />
from, some of those we were particularly fond of were<br />
“How Can We Recognize the Awe and Wonder in the<br />
Everyday?” by Hanan Harchol, “Last Train to Auschwitz:<br />
The French National Railways and the Journey to<br />
Accountability” by Sarah Federman, and a lovely music<br />
performance by Susan L. Lipson accompanied by Beth<br />
Faber Jacobs.<br />
Kudos to the extraordinary committee that created such<br />
an entertaining program for our educational enjoyment.<br />
Led by Committee Chair, Hannah Cohen, the committee,<br />
consisting of Kerry Freshman, David Rafsky, Marie<br />
Raftery and Randy Savarese, truly outdid themselves.<br />
Enjoying the program with us were Elana Levens-Craig,<br />
Ron Reff, Eileen Wingard, Seth Krosner, Fran Lobman,<br />
Jack Greenspun, Maxine Endy, Rebecca Myers,<br />
Marcia Diamond, Rabbi Sheldon Moss, Judith Shufro,<br />
Jay Berkowitz, Daniellla Abbott, Al Lefcourt, Daniel<br />
Gordon and many more.<br />
A new opportunity to participate and help to combat<br />
antisemitism is now available in <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong>. Called<br />
Combat Antisemitism Now (CAN), the local Steering<br />
Committee for this informative program includes<br />
Franklin Gaylis, Pamela Nathan, Lara Woolf Grusd,<br />
Rashel Michan and Ivor Weiner. CAN programming<br />
features discussions with local and national antisemitism<br />
experts on our <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> K-12 schools, university<br />
campuses in California and nationwide. It also offers<br />
information on what actions are being taken to combat<br />
antisemitism and what still needs to be done.<br />
Mazel Tov to Lisa and Nate Stein and Carla and<br />
Philippe Kopf on the birth of their first grandchild, Lyla<br />
Shai Stein. Lyla was born on May 30. Parents Danny<br />
Stein and Miriam Kopf are overjoyed!<br />
Yom Huledets Sameach to...<br />
Diana Hahn celebrating her 100th birthday.<br />
Cyla Horn celebrating her 93rd birthday.<br />
Roz Freedman celebrating her 88th birthday.<br />
Bud Kader celebrating his 85th birthday.<br />
Paul Schulman celebrating his 81st birthday.<br />
CELEBRATING<br />
Wedding Anniversaries<br />
with infinite love & happiness, Mazel Tov to…<br />
Ina and Irwin Rubenstein, 68 years.<br />
Roz and Marty Freedman, 66 years.<br />
Phyllis and Dan Epsten, 60 years.<br />
Helene and David Schlafman, 60 years.<br />
Joan and Peter Winokur, 59 years.<br />
Linda and Michael Bennett, 55 years.<br />
Joyce and Robert Blumberg, 55 years.<br />
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ISRAELI<br />
LIFESTYLE<br />
LIVING ON THE FRONT PAGE<br />
by Andrea Simantov | andreasimantov@gmail.com<br />
The Cost<br />
AGoogle search led me to this<br />
explanation of Memorial Day<br />
in America: Memorial Day<br />
weekend marks the unofficial beginning<br />
of summer. Many people attend parades,<br />
go to the beach or have cookouts with<br />
friends and family. But at its heart,<br />
Memorial Day is a day when Americans<br />
reflect on the sacrifice of those who<br />
have given their lives in military service.<br />
I found page upon page of Memorial<br />
Day barbecue recipes and many teasers<br />
for upcoming Memorial Day sales. I was<br />
not unfamiliar with these methods of<br />
commemoration because I am a child of<br />
America.<br />
Growing up, I paid little attention to<br />
the unimaginable sacrifices that helped<br />
form the fragile roots of a blossoming<br />
America. I shopped and beached and met<br />
up with like-minded teens or attended<br />
family backyard barbecues where my<br />
cousins and I rolled our eyes at our<br />
embarrassing parents. We awaited the<br />
exciting lives that lay ahead because we<br />
were secure in our beauty, brilliance and<br />
the promise of America. Memorial Day<br />
didn’t weigh very much.<br />
Many of these intro-to-summer<br />
shindigs happened in the home that<br />
my parents contracted for and custombuilt<br />
on Long Island in 1969. There had<br />
been a mighty disagreement about the<br />
placement of the front door, which would<br />
determine our address: Would we forever<br />
live on the blah-ly named Third Street or<br />
a more dramatic Waukena Avenue?<br />
Twenty-six years later, I would build<br />
my own Jerusalem home and the street<br />
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name was a non-issue. What<br />
mattered was the placement<br />
of the bomb shelter, window<br />
gates, and proximity to<br />
security forces. We didn’t<br />
worry about our educational<br />
and spiritual needs because,<br />
by law, every community —<br />
secular or Torah observant<br />
— boasted two synagogues,<br />
a mikveh (ritual bath), along<br />
with kindergartens, and<br />
public religious and secular<br />
schools.<br />
In Israel, I would discover that every<br />
family boasted a soldier or few and/<br />
or post-high school teens who were<br />
performing national service. The Israeli<br />
Defense Force (IDF) is a constant presence<br />
and, when not on the battlefield, the<br />
soldiers are home on leave. In uniform,<br />
they drive their children to school, sing<br />
zmirot at the Sabbath table, shop for<br />
working wives and schmooze with old<br />
friends over endless cups of black coffee<br />
and shesh besh (backgammon) while<br />
sitting in the town square, awaiting their<br />
military posting. Our army is a people’s<br />
army, and it forms the most glorious section<br />
of our Israeli tapestry, khaki-green<br />
and gorgeous.<br />
Standing in solidarity with the rest<br />
of our nation, it is incumbent on us to<br />
reflect upon the cost of holding onto our<br />
isolated <strong>Jewish</strong> nation. We’ve attended<br />
funerals, including those for the parent<br />
or sibling of our child’s classmate. We<br />
comfort the mourners at the shiva homes<br />
and offer sincere words of comfort. But<br />
can a parent, spouse or child of a dead<br />
soldier ever feel comfort? We “soldier<br />
on” because we are a nation of righteous<br />
warriors.<br />
Those who gave their lives in defense<br />
of the only <strong>Jewish</strong> nation are revered<br />
and studied by schoolchildren and<br />
the adult populace. Our restaurants<br />
and shopping malls are closed on<br />
Yom HaZicharon, open only for groceries<br />
in the late afternoons for the upcoming<br />
Yom HaAtzmaut (Independence Day),<br />
which will joyously erupt immediately<br />
after the official closure of the day<br />
of national remembrance. We dare<br />
not celebrate our establishment and<br />
autonomy without paying homage to<br />
those who paid the ultimate price.<br />
In Israel, history and faith are<br />
intrinsically woven into a vibrant hodgepodge<br />
of mirth and mourning. We owe<br />
our miraculous existence to God’s divine<br />
plan. Together, we can acknowledge the<br />
unbridled sacrifices that brought us to<br />
this day, united and without hubris. A
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LITERATURE<br />
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Gentle Rebel<br />
It is dangerously easy to get caught<br />
up in the present moment, as if<br />
what is going on right now is how it<br />
has always been, and the problems we<br />
have are as bad as they have ever been.<br />
One of the best cures for this condition<br />
is even a brief look at history. There are<br />
few things better than discovering how<br />
things used to be to give context to the<br />
present. One of the best chronicles of<br />
her own place and time was the British<br />
author Grace Aguilar.<br />
Born into a <strong>Jewish</strong> Portuguese family<br />
in the London district of Hackney in<br />
1816, Aguilar’s father was the lay leader of<br />
the only Spanish-speaking synagogue in<br />
London. Because illness spared Aguilar<br />
the horrors of a Georgian-era public<br />
education in which the strap and the<br />
paddle were as common educational<br />
tools as chalk and the pencil, she was<br />
home-schooled. Soon surpassing other<br />
children her age in terms of general<br />
knowledge base, Aguilar also kept<br />
up with other middle-class girls her<br />
age by learning the dances of the day,<br />
popularized in modern times by Jane<br />
Austen adaptations, as well as how to<br />
play the piano.<br />
As so often happened in those days,<br />
Aguilar’s decision to become a writer was<br />
made mostly out of necessity rather than<br />
any sense of a calling. As her parents fell<br />
ill, their condition only getting worse,<br />
it became clear that the family would<br />
need another income, so she started<br />
to write, which was one of the very few<br />
professions available to women at the<br />
time. A trail blazed by earlier British<br />
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Despite coming<br />
out after Aguilar<br />
was already gone,<br />
much of her work<br />
nonetheless reflects<br />
the times in which<br />
they were written like<br />
few others.<br />
authors such as Charlotte Bronte<br />
and the first known feminist, Mary<br />
Wollstonecraft.<br />
Starting small, she published several<br />
poems and short stories in local London<br />
magazines, of which there were hundreds<br />
at the time, work that culminated with<br />
her first book, “Spirit of Judaism,” in<br />
1842. One of the first tracts in terms<br />
of the Reform movement in European<br />
Judaism, “Spirit of Judaism” was heavily<br />
critical of the Orthodox Judaism of the<br />
time for its emphasis on ceremony and<br />
ancient tradition. Despite this religious<br />
criticism, much of her writing was<br />
strongly influenced by her religious<br />
upbringing; Aguilar managed to remain<br />
mostly free of any obvious religious bias.<br />
It was also the only of her six novels to be<br />
published in her lifetime, Aguilar dying<br />
from complications from a serious case<br />
of measles in 1847 at the age of 31.<br />
Despite coming out after Aguilar<br />
was already gone, much of her work<br />
(published by her supportive mother<br />
who managed to outlive her) nonetheless<br />
reflects the times in which they were<br />
written, touching on themes of women’s<br />
place in society and the domestic<br />
space like few others. The first of these<br />
posthumous works was “Woman’s<br />
Friendship: A Story of Domestic Life,”<br />
which finally saw print in 1850. It was<br />
an early allegory of cross-cultural<br />
friendship that was considered shocking<br />
by London society at the time. Rather<br />
than focusing on a racial or religious<br />
divide, Aguilar took an even bigger<br />
risk by taking on Britain’s notorious<br />
class system that seemed to deem the<br />
privileged as a slightly higher form of<br />
life. Despite being from very different<br />
backgrounds, with Rachel being the<br />
daughter of a wealthy family while Leah<br />
is an orphan from the factory class, they<br />
manage to forge a lifelong friendship that<br />
sees them through the hardest of times<br />
as they come to live together in a loving<br />
but platonic relationship.<br />
Later that year, “The Vale of Cedars,<br />
or the Martyr: A Story of Spain in<br />
the Fifteenth Century” is a work of<br />
historical fiction, one of the first, that<br />
carries on some of the themes set down<br />
by “Ivanhoe” while also adding some<br />
then-modern ideas, gently mocking the<br />
300-year-old sensibilities. With one of<br />
the longest developments in literary<br />
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Literature continued<br />
history, Aguilar began work on the book in 1816 and finally<br />
finished it in 1835 before it finally saw print in 1850.<br />
There is a lot of disagreement about when “Home<br />
Influence: A Tale for Mothers and Daughters” was published,<br />
not least because, as was common practice at the time, it<br />
was published in two volumes. Dates range from 1847 to<br />
1859. According to the edition on Project Gutenberg, the<br />
first American edition was published by Harper Brothers<br />
Publishers of New York in 1856. Whatever the exact date,<br />
it was definitely after the author’s death, and there is no<br />
question as to the primary influence on the contents.<br />
“The Days of Bruce: A Story From Scottish History”<br />
was another crack at historical fiction. Only getting one<br />
numbered volume, most likely first published in 1871, it<br />
follows a version of the life of the Scottish rebel and eventual<br />
king, Robert the Bruce. Starting with his boyhood, the<br />
narrative was meant to follow the trials he went through,<br />
especially while resisting the English, to reach his exalted<br />
position.<br />
The final posthumous volume, “Home Scenes and Heart<br />
Studies,” takes things back to the beginning with another<br />
meditation on the little-acknowledged domestic space long<br />
thought to be the domain of women, an area Aguilar was well<br />
acquainted with, rarely leaving her family’s circle given her<br />
fragile health. What she lacked in experience was more than<br />
made up for with scholarship and imagination and a general<br />
detachment from the culture of the day that allowed her to<br />
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who were mired in it. A<br />
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SPOTLIGHT<br />
JFest 2024<br />
by Alejandra Enciso<br />
Festival headliner Mandy Patinkin.<br />
PHOTO: JOAN MARCUS<br />
The highly anticipated Lipinsky<br />
Family <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> <strong>Jewish</strong> Arts<br />
Festival (JFest) is set to charm<br />
audiences once again, fostering a<br />
celebration of <strong>Jewish</strong> heritage and<br />
creativity that transcends boundaries.<br />
From May 30 to June 30, <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> will<br />
come alive with the vibrant sounds and<br />
sights of <strong>Jewish</strong> music, theatre, dance<br />
and performances, marking its 31st year<br />
of artistic excellence.<br />
This year’s festival promises a<br />
mesmerizing celebration of the rich<br />
diversity of <strong>Jewish</strong> people, history and<br />
ideas through virtuoso performances.<br />
Festival venues span the county and<br />
include Balboa Theatre, The Old Globe,<br />
Lawrence Family JCC, the Unitarian<br />
Church in Hillcrest, UCSD Hillel,<br />
Coastal Roots Farm, and Leichtag<br />
Commons.<br />
Festival founding artistic director<br />
Todd Salovey remarks, “Last year, we<br />
rebirthed JFest and were amazed at the<br />
size and passion of our audiences. This<br />
year, the festival is growing with one of<br />
the most celebrated and beloved <strong>Jewish</strong><br />
performers, Mandy Patinkin, and nine<br />
unique programs meant to heal, bring<br />
joy and inspire.”<br />
International hip-hop artist Nissim<br />
Black returns to <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> to kick off<br />
JFest on May 30. With a musical style<br />
that ranges from rap to pop to world<br />
music, Nissim Black’s unique sound<br />
has uplifted audiences worldwide. This<br />
year’s headline performer is the Tony<br />
and Emmy Award-winning actor/singer/<br />
storyteller Mandy Patinkin, presenting<br />
his most electrifying role: concert<br />
performer in Being Alive at the Balboa<br />
Theatre.<br />
The Community Concert Refuah will<br />
take place at the JCC, featuring talented<br />
performers from across <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
sharing healing through song, dance,<br />
poetry and more. Klezmer Summit this<br />
year presents From the Shuk to the<br />
Shtetl, a concert that traces how the<br />
strains of Middle Eastern folk music<br />
heard in the busy shuks influenced<br />
the Klezmer musicians who played<br />
throughout Eastern Europe. Punto y<br />
Coma Theatre takes the stage with the<br />
play La Obra, in Spanish, at The Old<br />
Globe, and the 15th Women of Valor<br />
returns to showcase six inspiring women<br />
who have impacted our community.<br />
LA funnyman Avi Liberman will host<br />
Comedy for Koby, which has become<br />
Israel’s most popular English standup<br />
comedy tour. JFest will host a culinary<br />
theatre experience with chef Benedetta<br />
Jasmine Guetta of <strong>San</strong>ta Monica’s Café<br />
Lovi, where playwright Ali Viterbi<br />
intertwines the historical, personal<br />
and fictional dedicated to Italian Jews<br />
through the Generations.<br />
An Eco-Performance Fest in its<br />
second edition, REGENERATE!, will<br />
wrap up JFest showcasing eco-theater,<br />
dance and music by some of California’s<br />
most exciting, forward-thinking artists.<br />
JFest Producing Director Rebecca<br />
Myers reflects, “This year, sharing<br />
stories that bring people together feels<br />
more important than ever. Seeing<br />
communities come together at JFest<br />
events is an important reminder of the<br />
beauty and joy of being <strong>Jewish</strong> and how<br />
essential it is to support <strong>Jewish</strong> art.”<br />
Year after year, JFest continues<br />
to shine a light on the richness of<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> culture by welcoming all<br />
individuals and cultures, fostering<br />
inclusivity, and creating high-quality<br />
cultural experiences for the entire<br />
community. A<br />
Tickets for each event range from $18 to $140<br />
and are available for purchase at sdjfest.org.<br />
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Congregation<br />
Beth Israel Honors<br />
the Goldbergs<br />
by Makayla Hoppe<br />
Lee And Frank Goldberg Family Religious School at Beth Israel. Photos courtesy of Congregation Beth Israel.
FEATURE<br />
This June, Congregation<br />
Beth Israel will hold its<br />
annual fundraising gala,<br />
“L’Chaim To Life.” The<br />
gala will honor Lee and<br />
Frank z”l Goldberg, longtime <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
residents and philanthropists who have<br />
spent many years with the temple. Four<br />
generations of the Goldberg family have<br />
been a part of Beth Israel.<br />
Lee and Frank z”l will receive the<br />
Carl M. Esenoff Memorial Award.<br />
According to Beth Israel, recipients<br />
of the award “are outstanding<br />
individuals who maintain a meaningful<br />
membership in the congregation and<br />
have been active in, supportive of,<br />
and demonstrated leadership in the<br />
synagogue and the larger <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
community.”<br />
“When Rabbi Jason called, I burst<br />
into tears,” Lee said. “I never expected<br />
this; it’s such a wonderful, prestigious<br />
honor.”<br />
Lee moved to <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> as a child<br />
and still lives here today at the age of<br />
91. She has been a member of Beth<br />
Israel for over 65 years and had her<br />
confirmation there.<br />
“[My] experience was wonderful at<br />
the temple,” Lee said. “When we were<br />
teens, we had temple afternoon...We<br />
would take the bus, and we would dance<br />
to records that were playing. So, it was<br />
wonderful growing up here and having<br />
the congregation there for us.”<br />
In addition to Lee’s own history with<br />
Beth Israel, her children have all shared<br />
their life milestones at the temple,<br />
including schooling, B’nei Mitzvah and<br />
weddings.<br />
Lee and Frank z”l always felt that<br />
education was the most important<br />
thing they could offer children, which<br />
When we were<br />
teens, we had<br />
Temple afternoon...<br />
We would take<br />
the bus, and we<br />
would dance to<br />
records that were<br />
playing. So, it was<br />
wonderful growing<br />
up here and having<br />
the congregation<br />
there for us.<br />
led to the new temple school. The Lee<br />
& Frank Goldberg Family Religious<br />
School “teaches core <strong>Jewish</strong> values and<br />
competencies, and nurtures <strong>Jewish</strong><br />
identity, a sense of belonging to the<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> people, a connection to Israel,<br />
and a commitment to Judaism.”<br />
“It’s a beautiful, beautiful building,”<br />
Lee said, “and we’re very proud of the<br />
fact that we have the school with our<br />
name on it... A wonderful thing was that<br />
I got notes in Hebrew, saying, ‘Thank<br />
you,’ from all the children.”<br />
Lee and Frank z”l are also being<br />
recognized for their work with the<br />
greater <strong>Jewish</strong> <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> community.<br />
They were instrumental in the growth<br />
of Seacrest Retirement Village, where<br />
Frank z”l served as president for many<br />
years. Lee is a former president of<br />
Hadassah and lifelong member of the<br />
organization. They have also shown<br />
great support for the <strong>Jewish</strong> Federation,<br />
which they believe helps the community<br />
here in <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> as well as Israel. Hillel<br />
has also received support from Lee and<br />
Frank z”l over the years.<br />
Throughout the decades in<br />
<strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong>, Lee and Frank z”l have also<br />
given back to the city they call home.<br />
After both attending <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> State<br />
University, they made a donation to the<br />
school to help with student scholarships.<br />
The Lee & Frank Goldberg Courtyard<br />
now sits just inside the SDSU Student<br />
Union. The courtyard is filled with<br />
beautiful foliage, fountains and seating<br />
for all students to enjoy.<br />
The Moores Cancer Center at the<br />
University of California <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
was also made possible with the help<br />
of Lee and Frank z”l. The center was<br />
established in 1978, and they both<br />
served on the board.<br />
The Goldbergs have also been great<br />
proponents and supporters of the arts,<br />
notably the <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> Opera, as well as<br />
North Coast Repertory Theatre.<br />
“It’s just a wonderful thing that<br />
everyone can love, no matter what<br />
language it’s in,” Lee said about the<br />
Opera. She served as a board member<br />
for many years; it brought both her and<br />
Frank z”l great joy.<br />
From the local <strong>Jewish</strong> community<br />
to the greater <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> area, Lee<br />
and Frank z”l Goldberg have been<br />
instrumental in the city’s growth and<br />
development. It’s easy to see why they<br />
are being honored—they have shown<br />
time and time again just how much<br />
they love <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> and Congregation<br />
Beth Israel.<br />
“I’ve had a wonderful, wonderful life,<br />
and this just puts the frosting on the<br />
cake, getting this award,” Lee said. A<br />
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Recently, my friend and her dog,<br />
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on a Leash trains and certifies teams<br />
whose primary function is to brighten<br />
someone’s day or lighten their burden.<br />
This is called pet therapy. Love on a<br />
Leash dogs (and some cats and a rabbit<br />
or two) visit many settings, including<br />
hospitals, VA Homes, senior centers,<br />
schools, libraries and jails.<br />
Sue has been involved with Love<br />
on a Leash for 15 years and, with great<br />
warmth and enthusiasm, shared some of<br />
her special encounters. Sue honors her<br />
veteran father’s memory by frequenting<br />
the VA Hospital where the vets are<br />
waiting, so appreciative and eager to<br />
share their memories of their own dogs.<br />
When Sue visits the Sheriff’s<br />
Department Peer Support group<br />
The dogs seem<br />
to know who’s<br />
really hurting<br />
and needs a little<br />
extra love.<br />
meetings where 20-30 men and women<br />
are seated in a circle, and the dogs walk<br />
around, a dog will eventually plop down<br />
beside one person and stay there. The<br />
dogs seem to seek out and know who’s<br />
really hurting and needs a little extra<br />
love. That lucky person will invariably<br />
say, “How did your dog know?!” They just<br />
do, that’s all.<br />
At Together We Grow, a day center<br />
for medically fragile young people, one<br />
member named Julia, who is blind, deaf<br />
and nonverbal, smells the dogs when<br />
they arrive and squeals with delight.<br />
When Sue visits a hospice, the dogs give<br />
a last bit of comfort, warmth and love,<br />
and Sue herself takes comfort in the fact<br />
that someone did not die alone.<br />
Some of Sue’s favorite spots to visit<br />
are jails like the Richard J. Donovan<br />
Correctional Facility, Las Colinas<br />
Detention Center and the George F.<br />
Bailey Detention Center, where she jokes<br />
that she has a captive audience. These<br />
inmates are incredibly appreciative<br />
as they get few, if any, visitors. One<br />
inmate told Sue that he hadn’t seen or<br />
touched a dog in 22 years. Love on a<br />
Leash is part of the prison’s recreational<br />
therapy, and inmates sign up for visits<br />
twice a month. One prison has a point<br />
system where inmates earn points for<br />
ordinary things like making their bed or<br />
tucking in their shirt, and it takes 5000<br />
points for a Love on a Leash visit. One<br />
man told Sue, “I never thought I’d see a<br />
dog again.” Another said, “I use all my<br />
points on the dogs.” Another inmate who<br />
hadn’t seen the dogs since before COVID<br />
remembered Sue’s dog’s name and<br />
shouted, “Hey! Is that Charlie?!”<br />
Love on a Leash works to increase<br />
public awareness of the benefits of pet<br />
therapy, and they will visit wherever they<br />
are invited. Dogs come in and bring with<br />
them pure love: nothing more, nothing<br />
less. The people lucky enough to meet<br />
these dogs become flooded with warmth,<br />
with stories and memories of their youth,<br />
their home, how much they loved their<br />
own dogs. It’s almost like magic, the<br />
wonder of dogs. A<br />
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FEATURE<br />
Embracing Inclusivity:<br />
The Annual Friendship Walk Brings Joy to All<br />
by Muka Rodal<br />
Friendship Circle’s Annual<br />
Friendship Walk, a cherished<br />
event in our community, once<br />
again brought together families, friends<br />
and volunteers to celebrate the spirit of<br />
friendship and inclusivity. Held at Nobel<br />
Park in <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong> on Sunday, April 7, this<br />
year’s walk was a resounding success,<br />
drawing participants of all ages and<br />
backgrounds.<br />
Among the many families who<br />
attended, the Ceitlin family shared<br />
their heartwarming experience of the<br />
day. Mrs. Ceitlin expressed, “The kids<br />
and I greatly enjoyed the walk. It was so<br />
nice, right when we started the walk, to<br />
have a volunteer walk around with us<br />
and keep pumping my kids up with his<br />
enthusiasm.” She continued, “After the<br />
walk, the volunteer also took my kids to<br />
the obstacle course, which they loved,<br />
and the petting zoo. My boys especially<br />
loved sitting down in the quiet center<br />
“The kids and I greatly<br />
enjoyed the walk. It<br />
was so nice to have<br />
a volunteer walk with us<br />
and pump my kids up<br />
with his enthusiasm.”<br />
and playing with the cars and toys. The<br />
highlight for them was eating the yummy<br />
Kona ice.”<br />
This sentiment echoes the feelings<br />
of many participants who found joy in<br />
the various activities and interactions<br />
throughout the day. From the carnival<br />
and inflatables to the excitement of the<br />
walk, obstacle course, and petting zoo, to<br />
the food and relaxing quiet centers, there<br />
was something for everyone to enjoy.<br />
The Annual Friendship Walk not<br />
only provides an opportunity for fun<br />
and entertainment but also serves as<br />
a platform for fostering connections,<br />
promoting understanding within our<br />
community and supporting individuals<br />
with special needs through future<br />
programs and events. Through shared<br />
experiences and moments of laughter,<br />
participants come together to celebrate<br />
diversity and embrace the value of<br />
inclusion.<br />
The success of the Friendship<br />
Walk would not have been possible<br />
without the dedication and support<br />
of our fundraisers, volunteers,<br />
sponsors and community partners.<br />
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FEATURE<br />
Direct Flights From Iran<br />
by Galia Miller Sprung<br />
How was Saturday night’s missile<br />
attack from Iran different<br />
from all other attacks? On all<br />
other nights, missile attacks come from<br />
the south or the north. On this night,<br />
missiles came from the east.<br />
What do you do when hundreds of<br />
armed drones and missiles are heading<br />
towards your country, your home?<br />
You wait.<br />
Not much else to do. Our secure<br />
room, mamad, has been ready for over<br />
six months — comfort, sustainable<br />
food, water and important items (old 8<br />
and Super 8 movies!). We watch news<br />
stations, listen to reports and share<br />
funny memes and jokes on social media<br />
groups. It’s amazing how quickly these<br />
get written and sent. “First direct flights<br />
from Iran to Israel since 1979.” We laugh<br />
and wait with varying degrees of anxiety.<br />
At 1 a.m., I decide I have time to take<br />
a shower before the 2 a.m. ETA for Iran’s<br />
missiles. If we lose electricity, there’s no<br />
hot water.<br />
At 1:55 a.m., the house shakes with<br />
loud booms. I admit I am somewhat<br />
surprised. We live in the middle of the<br />
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What do you do<br />
when hundreds<br />
of armed drones<br />
and missiles are<br />
heading towards<br />
your country,<br />
your home?<br />
country, and “routine” missiles from<br />
Gaza in the south or Lebanon in the<br />
north don’t usually make it to us. My<br />
husband and I look at each other, “It’s<br />
started.” We did not hear an air raid<br />
siren, not even faintly. Our community’s<br />
name did not automatically appear<br />
on the TV screen. This happens if a<br />
community is under the immediate<br />
threat of being hit by missiles, or, more<br />
likely, being hit by deadly pieces of<br />
shrapnel after our anti-missile missiles<br />
intercept them. So no, we do not grab our<br />
laptops and run to our mamad.<br />
“We had loud booms. Did you?” ask<br />
social media messages from various<br />
parts of Israel. We continue to watch<br />
TV, and I get a sense of which areas are<br />
experiencing the same. Another boom.<br />
And another. I text my daughters, who<br />
live 50 miles away. It’s 3 a.m. No one<br />
is sleeping. They live somewhere on<br />
the long border with Jordan and, like<br />
us, are low on the list of our enemies’<br />
targets. But this night is different from<br />
all other nights. They get a chance to<br />
experience shattering explosions from<br />
interceptions. 3:30 a.m. A text from one<br />
of our granddaughters from her base,<br />
checking up on us.<br />
Were we afraid? Not so much. In<br />
denial? No. No denial after October 7.<br />
Still, by 4 a.m., awake, talking and texting<br />
with family and friends in America, we<br />
decided to sleep in our mamad. Truth<br />
be told, it’s mainly because the bedroom<br />
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is upstairs, and we didn’t want to have to jump out of bed<br />
and run down the stairs if we had a Red Alert. We didn’t<br />
expect any in our sparsely populated area, but since Israel<br />
had purposely created havoc with GPS systems to literally<br />
“confuse the enemy,” we weren’t sure where missiles might<br />
fall. Even our own GPS devices were affected over the last<br />
weeks. No matter your destination, WAZE gave directions to<br />
Beirut airport!<br />
We focused our worries on those whose night was<br />
shattered by repeated Red Alerts. On those who suffer from<br />
anxiety attacks or post trauma, or don’t have a secure room.<br />
On our security forces out in the open — always there for us.<br />
We are filled with concern for friends who were scheduled<br />
to fly Sunday to various destinations and for friends waiting<br />
for relatives to arrive in Israel for Pesach. Airlines are<br />
canceling flights. Yes, there is a war. No, we do not lead<br />
normal lives. But we must continue living. The saying here is:<br />
Choose life.<br />
Humor survives. A message on one of my social media<br />
groups: “Now that we survived another night...where can<br />
I get decent corned beef for our seder?” Yes, we must also<br />
tend to the mundane. I call my regular fish monger in<br />
Ra’anana and order ground carp so I can make my traditional<br />
gefilte fish for Pesach — and so I can feel that something is as<br />
it should be. We look for a balance.<br />
On Pesach eve, as our extended family sits around<br />
our seder table, we will have some balance. Our soldier<br />
grandchildren will be home. We’ll have our traditions,<br />
including the gefilte fish. Three generations will read the<br />
Haggadah with strong, proud voices.<br />
“We survived Pharoah,” the motto goes, and we will<br />
survive now, too. A<br />
Friendship Walk continued<br />
Their contributions play a vital role in making this event a<br />
memorable and impactful experience for all involved.<br />
As we reflect on another wonderful year of the Friendship<br />
Walk, we are filled with gratitude for the opportunity to<br />
come together and celebrate the bonds of friendship and<br />
inclusivity.<br />
We look forward to continuing this tradition for years to<br />
come, spreading joy and making a positive difference in the<br />
lives of individuals and families within our community. A<br />
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between children, teens and adults with disabilities and their typically<br />
developing peers by providing social, recreational, vocational and<br />
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annual events, school, business and private workshops, vocational<br />
training through our bakery, Brigitte’s Bakery, and providing resources<br />
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FEATURE<br />
Which Way Do We Go?<br />
by Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort<br />
The Exodus from Egypt is<br />
celebrated on Passover, which<br />
is arguably the most universally<br />
observed of our holidays. This is logical<br />
as it represents our birth as a nation,<br />
as well as our transformation from<br />
oppressed slaves to “A Nation of Priests;<br />
a Holy Nation.” The Biblical narrative<br />
of the Exodus is not only dramatic but,<br />
more importantly, it is full of meaning<br />
for us, even these days more than 3,300<br />
years later.<br />
Let’s take a deep dive into the story of<br />
the Exodus, or perhaps more accurately,<br />
let’s pick up the narrative immediately<br />
following the departure of the Children<br />
of Israel from Egypt.<br />
The nation, following the inspired<br />
leadership of Moses, headed towards the<br />
Promised Land, albeit via a circuitous<br />
route. A week after leaving, they came<br />
upon the Yam Suf and Sea of Reeds. Once<br />
there, the <strong>Jewish</strong> people faced a severe<br />
test. In front of them was the Sea. Behind<br />
them was the quickly approaching<br />
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No one was killed,<br />
and 99% of the<br />
missiles were<br />
successfully<br />
defended against.<br />
Surely, this is an<br />
open miracle.<br />
Egyptian Army (Pharoah had had a<br />
change of heart and was pursuing the<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> people to bring them back as<br />
slaves to Egypt). The Jews were hemmed<br />
in by mountains on either side.<br />
What should they do?<br />
One group said, “Let’s pray to G-d for<br />
some divine intervention.” One group<br />
said, “Let’s fight the Egyptians!” One<br />
group said, “Let’s beg the Egyptians for<br />
mercy and resume our status as slaves.”<br />
And one group said, “There is nothing for<br />
it. Let’s commit suicide.”<br />
G-d answered Moses by saying, and<br />
I paraphrase here, “Now is not the time<br />
for prayer (or any other strategizing).<br />
Proceed (ahead, through the Sea!), as you<br />
were instructed.”<br />
A very courageous man named<br />
Nachshon, the son of Aminadav, started<br />
marching into the Sea, filled with faith<br />
that he was on the path to redemption<br />
because he was following the path<br />
dictated by the Almighty. Miraculously,<br />
when the water was up to his nose,<br />
the Sea split and all the Children of<br />
Israel followed Nachshon into the Sea,<br />
ultimately coming out safely on the far<br />
bank. The Egyptians, despite seeing<br />
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these open miracles of G-d on behalf of<br />
the <strong>Jewish</strong> people, foolishly pursued<br />
them and were swiftly drowned by the<br />
walls of water crashing down upon them.<br />
Today, as I sit in my office pondering<br />
this ancient story and its relevance in our<br />
times, I am struck with a thought.<br />
The Islamic Republic of Iran<br />
showered the Holy Land, including<br />
densely populated areas, with hundreds<br />
of ballistic missiles, cruise missiles and<br />
suicide drones. No one was killed, and<br />
99% of the missiles were successfully<br />
defended against. Surely, this is an open<br />
miracle, just like when the Egyptians’<br />
arrows and spears fired at the <strong>Jewish</strong><br />
people crossing the Sea were repelled,<br />
causing damage to the Egyptians and<br />
leaving the Israelites unharmed.<br />
But let us examine the debate<br />
going on as Israel faces the implacable<br />
antisemitic hatred of Iran, its minions<br />
and other antisemites around the world.<br />
As an aside, is it not telling that many<br />
of the pro-ceasefire protesters started<br />
cheering wildly when they heard of the<br />
Iranian attack? Perhaps they are not propeace<br />
after all? Perhaps, and this is just a<br />
wild guess, they are antisemites cheering<br />
for the demise of the <strong>Jewish</strong> state, G-d<br />
forbid! Don’t take my word for it; they<br />
will tell you themselves.<br />
There is certainly a contingent of<br />
our people who are praying to G-d for<br />
salvation, and who can blame them?<br />
They will tell you that everything is in<br />
G-d’s hands, and they are right. However,<br />
right now, it seems that we humans have<br />
a part to play. Never forget: G-d helps<br />
those who help themselves.<br />
There is another contingent of people<br />
who, as strange as this may sound, are<br />
afraid of being free. They are willing<br />
even to “return to Egypt.” In this case,<br />
that would mean that they are amenable<br />
to Jews being subservient to the hostile<br />
forces that surround Israel and even to<br />
those forces who reside here in the U.S.<br />
Skeptical? Check out what is going on in<br />
American universities right now, where<br />
many <strong>Jewish</strong> students are taking the<br />
side of Israel’s enemies. These people<br />
logically reason: how can we possibly<br />
We view peace as<br />
the ultimate goal,<br />
but it must be true<br />
peace, peace built on<br />
the truth. No room<br />
for false narratives<br />
like Palestinian<br />
statehood must be<br />
reconvened. There<br />
has never been<br />
a Palestinian state.<br />
win this battle when we are frightfully<br />
outnumbered?<br />
There are many who are blaming<br />
Israel for the hatred of her enemies.<br />
Some are offering every conceivable<br />
excuse and argument to the blood-thirsty<br />
enemy and do whatever they can to<br />
weaken Israel. We have failed them, for<br />
somehow, we never were able to teach<br />
all our <strong>Jewish</strong> children <strong>Jewish</strong> morality.<br />
The Talmud says that he who is kind to<br />
those who deserve strict judgment will<br />
end up being cruel to those who deserve<br />
kindness. We are seeing that played out<br />
before our eyes, as the woke mob has<br />
turned on Israel and the <strong>Jewish</strong> people<br />
in a very big way, and all in the name of<br />
kindness.<br />
Well, in response, I would state<br />
that I am not willing to be a dhimmi<br />
(a second-class citizen in the Islamic<br />
religious/political system), who must<br />
conceal his place of worship, cannot<br />
ride a horse, has no right to true justice<br />
when in a legal battle with a Muslim, may<br />
not be armed, and must pay the jizya (a<br />
special tax reserved for non-Muslims).<br />
Never mind me; there are millions of<br />
proud Jews around the world, and a<br />
massive number in Israel, who will never<br />
give up on <strong>Jewish</strong> independence. “Once<br />
you’re free, there is no going back.” The<br />
eradication of the <strong>Jewish</strong> state, G-d<br />
forbid, is simply not an option. So, when<br />
you hear someone chant, “From the river<br />
to the sea, Palestine will be free,” that is<br />
a clarion call for the destruction of the<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> state and the death of any Jew<br />
who wants to fight for its existence. It is,<br />
by definition, an antisemitic cheer.<br />
And then we have a strong contingent<br />
who wants to fight it out, no matter<br />
the cost and consequences. They are<br />
thinking, “Kill everyone first, ask<br />
questions later.” Accuse our allies, since<br />
they may be imperfect allies, of duplicity<br />
and antisemitism. Take no prisoners!<br />
Push the button and annihilate everyone<br />
in our way!<br />
We Jews do not share the vision of<br />
an end-of-days, apocalyptic destruction<br />
of all humanity with other religions.<br />
We view peace as the ultimate goal, but<br />
it must be true peace, meaning peace<br />
built on the truth. No room for false<br />
narratives like the one that claims Israel<br />
is a colonialist state and that Palestinian<br />
statehood must be reconvened. There<br />
has never been a Palestinian state,<br />
and furthermore, there has never<br />
been a group of people known as Arab<br />
Palestinians who are distinct from other<br />
Arabs, like Syrians, Jordanians and<br />
Egyptians. Israel should offer peace for<br />
peace. Nothing more.<br />
Finally, we have those who are ready<br />
to pack it in: Let’s commit national<br />
suicide. Let us assimilate and lose our<br />
unique <strong>Jewish</strong> identity. Let’s embrace<br />
the ideology of this political party or that<br />
one. Let us emulate the ways of our non-<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> neighbors. Maybe then the haters<br />
will let us live in peace, no?<br />
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SPECIAL TO THE SAN DIEGO JEWISH JOURNAL<br />
Meeting Israel’s New Trauma Needs<br />
Hebrew University’s unique mental health trauma center was spurred by the<br />
singularity of the Oct. 7 attack<br />
by Elana Sztokman<br />
How do you deal with the trauma of the deadliest day Jews<br />
have experienced since the Holocaust?<br />
This was the question Israeli trauma experts faced in the<br />
wake of Oct. 7, 2023, when over 1,200 Israelis were killed<br />
and some 250 taken captive in Hamas’s attack on Israel.<br />
The massive attack by terrorists immediately was<br />
followed by additional traumas: The displacement of tens<br />
of thousands of Israelis from their homes in the conflict<br />
zones. The subsequent war has left hundreds more soldiers<br />
dead and thousands wounded. Emotional scarring on a<br />
national scale.<br />
At the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, some of Israel’s<br />
foremost trauma experts set to work to design new clinical<br />
approaches and train therapists to deal with these traumas.<br />
“These experiences are beyond anything we have seen,”<br />
said Professor Asher Ben-Arieh, dean of the university’s Paul<br />
Baerwald School of Social Work and Social Welfare and CEO<br />
of the Haruv Institute for the Study of Child Maltreatment,<br />
noting that some children were taken hostage and witnessed<br />
their parents’ murder or kidnapping. “The tools we have<br />
used until now are not sufficient. We need new solutions and<br />
new ideas for how to treat these traumas.”<br />
Ben-Arieh estimates that 25% to 50% of those who<br />
experienced trauma were likely to develop problems such<br />
as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression,<br />
anxiety, complex grief, or difficulties in marital, social, or<br />
occupational adjustments.<br />
To meet these new needs, Hebrew University’s Israel<br />
Center for Addiction and Mental Health set about to launch<br />
the Institute for Traumatic Stress and Recovery to create a<br />
multidisciplinary, academic-clinical hub to address traumarelated<br />
research, training, prevention, treatment, and<br />
resilience promotion.<br />
The Institute for Traumatic Stress and Recovery aims<br />
to give therapists and trauma survivors evidence-based<br />
practices and technologies, accessible via Israel’s public<br />
health system, to enhance the healing and recovery of<br />
Israelis grappling with the enormity of these traumas. The<br />
institute will conduct research, train therapists in new<br />
evidence-based practices, and provide patient-centered,<br />
comprehensive, coordinated care.<br />
“This proactive approach will not only enhance the<br />
capacity for timely and effective trauma intervention, but<br />
also contribute to a more informed and resilient community<br />
as a whole,” said Hebrew University psychology professor<br />
Jonathan Huppert, who is involved in the project.<br />
“Trauma manifests in many ways and can be different for<br />
different people,” Huppert said. “Not everyone has PTSD.<br />
Some have stress, grief, difficulty coping with the effects<br />
of being evacuated. Since Oct. 7 people are more stressed<br />
in general. They may experience more negative thinking,<br />
trouble sleeping, more physical aches and pains, muscle<br />
tension. Things may set them off more easily.”<br />
Many experts in the field say it long has been clear that<br />
Israel needs to improve its overall approach to mental<br />
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health. There has been insufficient training of mental health<br />
professionals using evidence-based best practices treating<br />
trauma, a lack of integration between research and practice,<br />
and a lack of awareness among the public at large about the<br />
impacts of collective traumatic stress.<br />
The events of Oct. 7 drew attention to those problems<br />
while adding the urgent need for new approaches to trauma<br />
specific to this historical event.<br />
The new institute, which will offer a rare combination<br />
of research with clinical practice, training, and advocacy,<br />
has raised 25% of its budget so far and is actively seeking<br />
support for the remainder.<br />
“We need enough money to have a stable center to think<br />
out of the box,” Ben-Arieh said. “And we need it urgently.<br />
We’re not even post trauma. We are not past this. It’s still<br />
happening.”<br />
After the shock of the initial Hamas attack, Ben‐Arieh<br />
and his colleague Ofrit Shapira Berman, a Hebrew<br />
University professor who specializes in treating adult<br />
survivors of complex childhood trauma, joined an October 7<br />
National Task Force to care for children who were abducted.<br />
Working with Israel’s Ministry of Social Services and<br />
other governmental bodies, the task force trained the<br />
security services who first greeted the abducted children<br />
upon their release in late November 2023 to ensure the<br />
children would not be retraumatized in the process of their<br />
release. They also worked with their parents.<br />
The task force identified six groups of children at high<br />
risk since Oct. 7: child hostages; those who witnessed severe<br />
violence and murders; newly orphaned children; children<br />
who lost a parent, sibling, or other relatives; children whose<br />
friends or peers were killed or kidnapped; and children<br />
displaced from their homes.<br />
“There is a deep issue of betrayal in childhood trauma,”<br />
said Ben-Arieh. “In these cases, these events often happened<br />
in places that their parents said were the safest in the world.<br />
Parents could not save their children. Or they had to choose.<br />
We have new forms of trauma that we don’t understand.”<br />
He added, “We need to change the field.”<br />
To learn more, please contact Justin Pressman,<br />
AFHU Western Region Executive Director at<br />
western@afhu.org or 310.843.3100.<br />
This approach clearly will not work due to the robust love<br />
of life that so many of us Jews feel. We ain’t goin’ nowhere.<br />
Besides, we know from history that the haters will find<br />
different reasons to hate us. Maybe it will be because of our<br />
“<strong>Jewish</strong> blood,” or maybe because of our over-achievement<br />
in the business world, or disproportionate representation in<br />
institutions of higher learning. It matters not; the haters will<br />
continue to hate.<br />
The correct approach in modern times is... None of the<br />
above.<br />
Now, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t an element of<br />
truth in some of the above-mentioned approaches. Certainly,<br />
we need to remain in close communication with G-d. Of<br />
course, we must be prepared to fight gallantly. Yes, we should<br />
work diligently to find favor in our neighbors’ eyes.<br />
But we must follow the lead of Nachshon. The way forward<br />
is in front of us. There is no turning back. We must find the<br />
courage to embrace our independence. We are a unique<br />
nation, set apart from the others. We have a specific role<br />
to play in the world. Yes, we are going to have to defend<br />
ourselves forcefully, continually, or at least until the moment<br />
when G-d’s presence is openly revealed for all to see.<br />
Our job is to make steady progress towards the era of<br />
universal peace and brotherhood. No kidding, we must strive<br />
for peace. Sometimes, one must fight to achieve peace (think<br />
of WWII). We must steadfastly remember that the role of the<br />
IDF is to protect the citizens of Israel, not feed or provide<br />
water and electricity to our sworn enemies, and that is the<br />
fact no matter what anyone says. It is both sad and pathetic<br />
that our enemies hate us more than they love their own. That<br />
is their problem. Antisemitism is about a malignancy in the<br />
antisemite. It isn’t about us. The only way we can defeat it<br />
is through proudly living as Jews. This, more than anything<br />
else, brings the nations to respect the <strong>Jewish</strong> people. We must<br />
stop the pandering.<br />
And every one of us has a sacred obligation to teach these<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> morals to our children. Our children must be made<br />
immune to the moral confusion so prevalent in today’s world.<br />
We must always be mindful where our morals come from:<br />
they come from the Torah and nowhere else. We must strive<br />
like never before to come together and stand together as a<br />
community, for our full strength is realized when we work<br />
together.<br />
We will win. Since we will each fulfill our mandate, we<br />
cannot lose. The best thing is when we win, the whole world<br />
wins. A<br />
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Local Arts<br />
BY EILEEN SONDAK<br />
THE OLD GLOBE<br />
THEATRE<br />
theoldglobe.org<br />
The Old Globe will unveil a world<br />
premiere play about family, food and<br />
healing on May 4. “Stir,” a Globecommissioned<br />
work, is about two<br />
siblings who get together to form<br />
a surprising connection as they<br />
reminisce and reveal secrets of their<br />
own. The play will be ensconced at the<br />
White Theater through May 26.<br />
The Globe’s Shiley Stage is set for<br />
“Fat Ham,” a Pulitzer Prize-winning<br />
take on Shakespeare’s “Hamlet.” This<br />
fresh and funny comedy uses hilarity<br />
and profound insight to explore<br />
the conflict between your family<br />
obligations and your sense of self.<br />
This exciting new play sounds like<br />
a must-see for theater buffs. It will<br />
entertain audiences May 25 through<br />
June 23.<br />
“Stir” co-playwrights Joel Perez and Melinda<br />
Lopez. Photo of Lopez by Adam DeTour.<br />
La Jolla Music Society’s Annual<br />
Community Arts Open House<br />
THE LA JOLLA<br />
MUSIC SOCIETY<br />
theconrad.org<br />
The La Jolla Music Society will start<br />
the month off on May 4 with Kaki King<br />
as part of the Kids Series, followed<br />
on May 5 by Junction Trio. There’s<br />
a free community arts open house<br />
slated for May 11, and Ballets Jazz<br />
Montreal performs on May 15. Cellist<br />
Pablo Ferrandez is due on May 16,<br />
while Charles and Friends is on tap<br />
for May 18. Guitarist JUI is next on<br />
May 19, and Terry Virts speaks on<br />
May 23. Pianist Bruce Liu rounds out<br />
the month on May 31.<br />
NORTH COAST REP<br />
northcoastrep.org<br />
North Coast Repertory Theatre<br />
is featuring the world premiere of<br />
“Sense of Decency,” a play based<br />
on the book, “The Nazi and the<br />
Psychiatrist.” This new work, directed<br />
by David Ellenstein, promises to be<br />
a surprise-laden exploration full of<br />
insights and theatrical sparks. If<br />
you’re fascinated by this storyline, you<br />
can see the show through May 12.<br />
North Coast Rep will follow that up<br />
with “Camelot,” an enchanting musical<br />
that brings the iconic characters King<br />
Arthur and Sir Lancelot to life. This<br />
Tony Award-winning fairytale musical<br />
will play from May 29 through<br />
June 23.<br />
Brendan Ford and Frank Corrado in “Sense of<br />
Decency” at North Coast Rep. Photo: Aaron<br />
Rumley.<br />
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“Respect” at Lamb’s Players Theatre.<br />
CYGNET THEATRE<br />
cygnettheatre.com<br />
Cygnet is featuring ‘an electropop<br />
opera’ titled, “Natasha, Pierre, and<br />
the Great Comet of 1812.” This<br />
bold and wildly original musical —<br />
adapted from Tolstoy’s “War and<br />
Peace,” will be performed at Cygnet’s<br />
Old Town Theater through May 26.<br />
The show has been described as the<br />
most innovative new musical since<br />
“Hamilton.”<br />
LAMB’S PLAYERS<br />
THEATRE<br />
lambsplayers.org<br />
The Lamb’s Players smash hit,<br />
“Respect,” will get a new lease<br />
on life at UCSD’s Epstein Family<br />
Amphitheater May 15-25.<br />
CORONADO<br />
PLAYHOUSE<br />
coronadoplayhouse.org<br />
Coronado Playhouse has taken on a<br />
children’s classic this month. “Tuck<br />
Everlasting,” a musical based on<br />
the novel, will be ensconced at the<br />
Playhouse through May 19.<br />
LA JOLLA<br />
PLAYHOUSE<br />
lajollaplayhouse.org<br />
La Jolla Playhouse is rolling out the<br />
red carpet for the world premiere of<br />
“The Ballad of Johnny and June,” a<br />
musical based on the lives of country<br />
music’s royal couple, Johnny Cash and<br />
June Carter. The story, told through<br />
the eyes of their son, covers their<br />
childhoods, their meeting in 1956 at<br />
the Grand Ole Opry, and all the highs<br />
and lows of their lives. Their beloved<br />
hits will be among the songs and<br />
the show will mark the long-awaited<br />
return of director Des McAnuff.<br />
Sounds like a winner, and you have<br />
from May 28 to July 7 to check it out.<br />
“The Ballad of Johnny and June” premieres at<br />
La Jolla Playhouse.<br />
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Irwin Gellman – <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
Ruth Levinson – <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
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Tamara Bennet – <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
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Oru Braun – Bonita<br />
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DIVERSIONS<br />
PHOTO: HAPPYHAHA STUDIO<br />
<strong>Jewish</strong> Teen Choir’s Carnegie Hall<br />
Performance Offered a Powerful Musical<br />
Statement of Support for Israel<br />
by Zamir Choral Foundation<br />
Participants from local California HaZamir chapters<br />
joined hundreds of other teen members of HaZamir: The<br />
International <strong>Jewish</strong> Teen Choir from 35 chapters across the<br />
U.S. and Israel as they sang in an uplifting concert featuring<br />
classical, contemporary and popular music on April 7 at<br />
Carnegie Hall in New York City. The moving performance<br />
evoked a feeling of hope, resilience and support for Israel<br />
and for one another, with the theme of solidarity interwoven<br />
through song as well as in heartfelt words from the young<br />
people. A rousing revamped “Am Yisrael Chai” was a concert<br />
highlight. A<br />
HaZamir, a program of the Zamir Choral Foundation, provides an opportunity for accomplished young singers to perform <strong>Jewish</strong> music. HaZamir has long<br />
served as a training ground for the next generation of singers, conductors and leaders, investing in young people so that they have a deeper understanding<br />
of the values and traditions of Judaism through artistic expression. For more information visit www.hazamir.org<br />
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Food<br />
Cinnamon Roll Challah<br />
by Micah Silva<br />
Mother’s Day is just around the corner. This year, Mother’s Day is particularly special, as it marks my<br />
first as a mom to my 5-month-old son, Ari. In Mother’s Days past, I dreamed of sunny brunches with<br />
overflowing mimosas and days spent doing activities...but with my own little guy, I’m dreaming of sleeping<br />
in an hour (past 7...if I’m lucky!), breakfast made by someone other than me, and no dishes for 24 hours<br />
(including bottles!). Every birthday and special occasion was marked by a morning cinnamon roll, and<br />
this year, I’m hoping that the tradition continues with a sweet, bready Cinnamon Roll Challah, the perfect<br />
Saturday or Sunday morning bake!<br />
MAKES 1 LARGE CHALLAH<br />
INGREDIENTS<br />
• 1, 7g package instant yeast<br />
• 1 tbsp. granulated sugar<br />
• 1 cup lukewarm water<br />
• 1 large egg<br />
• 2 egg yolk, whites reserved for<br />
brushing on top<br />
• cup maple syrup<br />
• cup vegetable oil<br />
• 1 tbsp. vanilla extract<br />
• 1 tsp. kosher salt<br />
• 4 – 5 cups all-purpose flour<br />
• 2 tbsp. coarse sanding sugar,<br />
to sprinkle before baking<br />
Filling<br />
• cup unsalted butter, softened<br />
• cup brown sugar<br />
• 2 tbsp. tahini<br />
• 1 tbsp. cinnamon<br />
Egg wash<br />
• Reserved egg whites<br />
• Coarse sugar<br />
PREPARATION<br />
1. Combine yeast, sugar, and water in a bowl of a stand mixer. Let sit for<br />
5 – 10 minutes, or until the yeast starts to foam or “bloom.” If the yeast<br />
does not bloom, you may need to get fresher yeast.<br />
2. Add the egg, egg yolks, maple syrup, oil, vanilla extract and salt, mixing<br />
on low to combine. Replace the paddle for the dough hook.<br />
3. Add flour, one cup at a time, mix on low using the dough hook. Knead the<br />
dough until smooth and no longer sticky, adding more flour as needed.<br />
The dough should be smooth and slightly sticky. Transfer to a clean,<br />
oiled bowl. Cover with a clean, damp towel, and let rise until doubled in<br />
size, about 1 hour.<br />
4. Preheat the oven to 350F. Line a baking tray with parchment paper, or<br />
grease a 9-inch cast iron pan.<br />
5. Punch down dough to remove any air bubbles, and transfer to a floured<br />
surface.<br />
6. Cut into 6 even pieces. Roll each piece into a rope, approximately<br />
12 inches long. Cover with a damp cloth and let rest for 10 – 15 minutes.<br />
7. Meanwhile, make the filling: combine the butter, sugar, tahini, and<br />
cinnamon.<br />
8. Flatten the dough strands with your fingers, place a line of filling in the<br />
center, and pinch to seal.<br />
9. Braid the ropes into 2 braids of 3 strands each. Coil into a circle, and<br />
pinch together.<br />
10. Make the egg wash: whisk the egg white, and brush on the loaf. Top with<br />
coarse sugar.<br />
11. Bake in a cast iron pan or baking tray for 40 minutes, turning the tray<br />
halfway through and brushing with additional egg wash.<br />
12. Serve with optional cream cheese frosting.<br />
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ADVICE<br />
ASK MARNIE<br />
by Marnie Macauley<br />
marniemacauley@gmail.com<br />
Call Me “Platinum”<br />
My dear <strong>San</strong> Diegans,<br />
Today, we deal with old people like<br />
me. I will attempt to be politically<br />
correct, although most of us are too<br />
old to care. I loathe “senior” and “old<br />
person.” So how about levels, like<br />
Platinum, as in “I’m a Platinum! You,<br />
millennial, you’re an Aluminum.” After<br />
Platinum comes “You can eat an entire<br />
Sara Lee and lose weight!” Now on to<br />
today’s subjects of vital importance: sex<br />
and appearance.<br />
Feature: uh-oh naturel — seniors<br />
and sexuality.<br />
The other night on one of the cable<br />
channels, I heard the moderator ask the<br />
panel a question. He wanted to know if<br />
all this Viagra might not be anti-nature.<br />
I presume he was wondering whether<br />
Mother Nature may have had a method<br />
to her madness when she doomed<br />
some September males to the land of<br />
limpi-osis. Put delicately, perhaps the<br />
“soft” approach is “Mother’s” way of<br />
preventing 75-year-olds from losing a<br />
lung (or perhaps a prostate) should they<br />
attempt to hoist a baby sling onto their<br />
osteoarthritic spines. What a fascinating<br />
question! Indeed, I had a friend who<br />
was a social worker in a home for the<br />
aged. The facility was divided into a<br />
housing area and a hospital area. She<br />
recommended that a patient who had<br />
turned 105 be moved to the hospital<br />
for closer attention, given her age.<br />
Her request was denied. The official<br />
response . . . ? “We don’t want to start a<br />
dangerous precedent.” Hey, you let one<br />
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Instead of sheep,<br />
I dreamt of<br />
operations to<br />
tighten, lop and<br />
plump up the<br />
right places.<br />
105-year-old in, and I am telling you,<br />
floodgates! Open that creaky door, and<br />
three bazillion centenarians will be<br />
lobbing Fasteeth at every nursing home<br />
in America.<br />
And now we wish to give seniors<br />
back their. . . sexuality? Do you realize<br />
what this unnatural act would lead<br />
to? A pediatric division of Medicare!<br />
Condom distribution at elder hostels!<br />
Warning labels on the correct use of<br />
Porcelana! Baby intercoms equipped<br />
with Clappers! For obviously, such an<br />
inane idea would lead to a massive world<br />
population explosion caused by the<br />
Silver Set leaping and creaking upon one<br />
another like juiced-up bullfrogs. Hey,<br />
we all know how irresponsible we AARP<br />
members are. Why, we’ll be depositing<br />
our bounty all over Miami Beach,<br />
Scottsdale and <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong>...then hopping<br />
a Harley in case of “accident.” Jumping<br />
Geriatrics! Think of all the poor babes<br />
that shall be deposited in the Depends<br />
bin behind all those Shady Rest homes.<br />
(Not deliberately of course, we geezers<br />
just forgot where we left them.)<br />
And what about that balance thing?<br />
Do you have any idea what would<br />
happen to the economy of senior areas<br />
if the entire population of Golden Vista<br />
suddenly reveled in early bird specials<br />
that didn’t involve a 2 p.m. pot roast and<br />
lasagna buffet for $3.99? (Although, you<br />
could shoot my relatives with enough<br />
Viagra to put a permanent crease in their<br />
polyester Bermudas, and they wouldn’t<br />
miss the salad bar if Miss Senior Nude<br />
America were lying in the pickled beets.)<br />
I tell you, we’ve got to nip this stuff in<br />
the walker stage. I mean, if we continue<br />
to allow science to overtake us, we<br />
seniors might actually throw the whole<br />
carbon footprint thing out of whack.<br />
Horrors! We could live longer through<br />
the magic of moving in lustful joy, but is<br />
this anti-nature? Oh dear! Now, I’ll be<br />
forced to stay up past nine. Along with<br />
contemplating world hunger, peace in<br />
the Middle East, and a Covid 2024 spritz<br />
from terrorists, I must now add what is<br />
“natural” to my list of “good excuses for<br />
devouring an entire carton of Chunky<br />
Monkey at 2 a.m. since the world is going<br />
to Hades in a Keto fat burner handbasket<br />
anyway.”<br />
Of course, I could . . . adjust my<br />
list. Give Platinums getting it on and<br />
causing a world hunger problem due<br />
consideration and assign it the priority it
Advice continued<br />
deserves: somewhere between contemplating the extinction<br />
of the beefalo and the mystery of white chocolate.<br />
How old do I look? No really, it’s OK! Just tell me.<br />
It started when people started sending me truly scary forms<br />
like offers for burial insurance and coupons for adult diapers.<br />
Worse, the other day, I got an ad for cremation including<br />
a special luncheon held (I swear) at a barbecue restaurant.<br />
So, I started reading those mags that say look in a mirror<br />
and applaud yourself naked. I stopped at the clapping part<br />
and ordered an applause machine on eBay. It laughed. I was<br />
now unofficially “an old lady.” Or was I? I was a widow. Would<br />
my aging looks stop guys from looking? I started asking<br />
strangers, “So tell me, you’re a butcher (they know body<br />
parts), how old do I look? No, really, it’s OK.” Forget beauty.<br />
Let’s say I wasn’t winning any Miss Congeniality awards.<br />
“I don’t know, lady. You want the liver from the chicken?”<br />
Could I blame him? It’s one of those “Am I getting fatter?”<br />
loser questions. Who, including me, doesn’t hate hearing<br />
“How old do I look? No really. It’s OK.” Here’s the results:<br />
1. Some people got my right age within a year! No good.<br />
I told that cashier at K-Mart, “May you be forever<br />
banned from dealing with the public! Afraid I might’ve<br />
overreacted, I kindly suggested she visit a retina<br />
specialist.<br />
2. Some people pegged me as less than five years younger.<br />
I negotiated with the determination of a Middle Eastern<br />
potentate. “In the dark, if my hair didn’t resemble<br />
fusilli, or I actually used my exercise bike for more than<br />
a clothes rack, would I look 10 years younger?” They<br />
were so worn down from my heel in their backs that they<br />
C<br />
finally admitted Brooklynn, Prince and I could’ve worn<br />
M<br />
twin Pampers (though they may have meant for different<br />
Y<br />
reasons). Now was that so difficult?<br />
3. Some people bored me with the aphorism, “Age is just a<br />
number.” I picked up my hand and looked at it and said,<br />
“Right. And so is 100.” If they made me feel shallower<br />
than I already did, I’d add, “It’s nice that you can make<br />
lemonade from lemons because everything happens for<br />
a reason and it’s all good.”<br />
4. Some people asked, “Well, how old do you want to look?<br />
I’d simply hug the offender and say, “When it comes to<br />
aging, it’s nice going through it with you.”<br />
5. Some people said, “You look great for your age!” Whoa!<br />
Even if they know my age, that was like saying, “For a fat<br />
person, you actually look healthy.” For such a question<br />
there’s only one good answer, “Marn, no one at any age<br />
ever looked or could look younger than you do.”<br />
CM<br />
MY<br />
CY<br />
CMY<br />
K<br />
But there were still those hands. And then the bags,<br />
wrinkles and assorted things hanging from me that I could<br />
see even without my 40 pairs of 350 diopter glasses. Instead<br />
of sheep, I dreamt of operations to tighten, lop and plump up<br />
the right places. Then, I accidentally turned on one of those<br />
“reality” shows about billion-dollar housewives. Should you<br />
ever become a self-absorbed harpy over a little age, this stuff<br />
is the ultimate intervention. By the first commercial, I tossed<br />
the mirrors and taped my mouth shut in shame. It wasn’t<br />
pretty. With lips the size of melons, surprised eyebrows (“Why<br />
am I on the top of her head?”), hair that resembled yellow<br />
shredded wheat, and chipmunk cheeks, they looked older. And<br />
I’m worried that I might be too old to date? So, too old for eye<br />
candy and too young for a respirator, I got out there and joined<br />
the Land of the Aging Kicking. And some men even looked.<br />
I’ll never again ask, “How old do I look?” Mama Nature gave<br />
us these wrinkles, age spots and veins for a reason. I’ve decided<br />
they mean we’ve lived, sometimes despite impossible odds.<br />
And those hands? Platinum guys know they show our<br />
journey and just how hard we’ve tried. A<br />
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“The City without<br />
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Featuring<br />
Mandy Patinkin<br />
In Concert:<br />
Being Alive<br />
June 4th @ 7:30pm<br />
Balboa Theatre, <strong>San</strong> <strong>Diego</strong><br />
THE 31ST ANNUAL LIPINSKY FAMILY<br />
May 30th – June 30th, 2024<br />
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Nissim Black<br />
May 30 @ 7:30 pm<br />
Inspiring American-Israeli Rapper/<br />
Singer whose music spans genres.<br />
Ken <strong>Jewish</strong> Community Presents<br />
La Obra (In Spanish)<br />
June 10 @ 7:30pm & June 13 @ 9pm<br />
An original story showcasing the<br />
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15th Annual Women of Valor<br />
June 18 @ 7:30pm & June 23 @ 2pm<br />
Honoring Sara Brown, Debbie<br />
Kornberg, Vered Libstein, Rabbi<br />
Devorah Marcus, Bev Pamensky, and<br />
Dr. Barbara Parker.<br />
Italian Jews Through the<br />
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June 20 @ 6:00pm<br />
An evening of food, entertainment, and<br />
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Comedy for Koby<br />
June 24 @ 7:30pm<br />
A hilarious evening of comedy<br />
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June 25 @ 7:30pm<br />
A community wide musical concert<br />
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25th Annual Klezmer Summit: From<br />
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June 27 @ 7:30pm<br />
The 23rd celebration of <strong>Jewish</strong> music<br />
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June 30 at 5:00pm<br />
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