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Contents 

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Features 

23 26 

24 Congregation Beth Israel Honors the Goldbergs 

26 Love on a Leash 

29 Embracing Inclusivity: The Annual Friendship Walk 

Brings Joy to All 

30 Direct Flights From Iran 

32 Which Way Do We Go? 

Columns 

11 From the Editor | With Thanks 

16 Israeli Lifestyle | The Cost 

18 Literature | Gentle Rebel 

20 Parenting | Celebrating Jewish American Heritage Month 

With Kids 

42 Advice | Call Me “Platinum” 

Departments 

14 Our Town 

23 Spotlight: JFest 2024 

36 Local Arts 

39 Diversions 

40 Food 

Cover Frank and Lee Golberg. 

Photo by Melissa Jacobs, courtesy of Beth Israel. 

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PUBLISHERS 

Mark Edelstein and Dr. Mark Moss 

EDITOR 

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ASSISTANT EDITOR 

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ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT EDITOR 

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SENIOR CONSULTANT 

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS 

Emily Bartell, Linda Bennett, 

Leorah Gavidor, Emily Gould, 

Patricia Goldblatt, Sharon Rosen Leib, 

Andrea Simantov, Marnie Macauley, 

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BETH ISRAEL'S 

ANNUAL 

FUNDRAISER 

l ’chaim 

to life 

LEE & FRANK 

Z”L 

GOLDBERG WITH 

THE 

CARL M. ESENOFF MEMORIAL AWARD 

The Esenoff Award is presented to outstanding Jewish individuals in recognition of their service to the Jewish 

and general communities. Recipients maintain a meaningful membership in the congregation and have been 

active in, supportive of, and demonstrated leadership in the synagogue and the larger San Diego community. 

SATURDAY, JUNE 8, 2024, 5:30PM 

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SUSAN EDELSTEIN 

With Thanks 

The month of May includes a few notable days like Mother’s Day and Memorial Day which 

certainly raise our gratitude levels to new heights. It is the perfect month for our San Diego 

Jewish Journal to focus on giving as we all owe our moms and our vets, and a few more 

givers, our unending gratitude. 

In our community, we are fortunate to have the Goldbergs, Lee and Frank, who, over 

the course of decades, have given abundantly to many worthy causes and have enhanced 

the quality of life in San Diego. They are particularly passionate about the arts and have 

been devoted to the San Diego Opera and its educational and outreach programs. For years, 

they have been sharing and spreading their love of opera and have attracted hundreds of 

new fans to this centuries-old performance art, which uplifts our whole city. 

Then there are the volunteers who give their time and effort to many causes and groups 

throughout our community and our country. They are legion, and so are their causes. 

They are our heroes. Friendship Circle is one such group that recently held its annual 

Friendship Walk. This event brought together the friends and families of the members 

of the Circle, young people with special needs, to participate in and belong to the fun and 

excitement of a beautiful spring day. Friendship Circle and its special day would not be 

possible without the scores of volunteers who come together to spread joy and promote 

diversity and inclusion. 

Heart-warming were the stories about the pure, natural and unconditional love that 

comes from the volunteer teams of visiting dogs and their people and given to those who 

really need it. Love on a Leash volunteers, both canine and human, give the simplest of 

things, like the joy of petting a dog. Touch can be so comforting; it’s conducted through 

our largest organ straight to the heart, and nothing feels better than the weight, warmth 

and stability of a lovely dog. 

And this summer, we’ll welcome Israeli volunteers. According to the Jewish Agency 

for Israel, about 1500 Israelis, most aged 20 to 23, will volunteer at Jewish summer camps 

across the U.S. this year. Many of these emissaries will arrive here after experiencing 

months of war, and their very presence will demonstrate their strength and resilience, 

their devotion to Israel, and their intention to infuse pride into the hearts and minds of 

young Jewish Americans. 

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Our Town 

by Linda Bennett and Emily Bartell 

The San Diego Center for Jewish Culture presented 

“Tapestry: A Day of Jewish Community, Learning and 

Exploration” at the Lawrence Family JCC on Sunday, 

April 7. This new approach to the traditional “Day of 

Learning” format was very well received by the crowd. 

With so many outstanding presentations to choose 

from, some of those we were particularly fond of were 

“How Can We Recognize the Awe and Wonder in the 

Everyday?” by Hanan Harchol, “Last Train to Auschwitz: 

The French National Railways and the Journey to 

Accountability” by Sarah Federman, and a lovely music 

performance by Susan L. Lipson accompanied by Beth 

Faber Jacobs. 

Kudos to the extraordinary committee that created such 

an entertaining program for our educational enjoyment. 

Led by Committee Chair, Hannah Cohen, the committee, 

consisting of Kerry Freshman, David Rafsky, Marie 

Raftery and Randy Savarese, truly outdid themselves. 

Enjoying the program with us were Elana Levens-Craig, 

Ron Reff, Eileen Wingard, Seth Krosner, Fran Lobman, 

Jack Greenspun, Maxine Endy, Rebecca Myers, 

Marcia Diamond, Rabbi Sheldon Moss, Judith Shufro, 

Jay Berkowitz, Daniellla Abbott, Al Lefcourt, Daniel 

Gordon and many more. 

A new opportunity to participate and help to combat 

antisemitism is now available in San Diego. Called 

Combat Antisemitism Now (CAN), the local Steering 

Committee for this informative program includes 

Franklin Gaylis, Pamela Nathan, Lara Woolf Grusd, 

Rashel Michan and Ivor Weiner. CAN programming 

features discussions with local and national antisemitism 

experts on our San Diego K-12 schools, university 

campuses in California and nationwide. It also offers 

information on what actions are being taken to combat 

antisemitism and what still needs to be done. 

Mazel Tov to Lisa and Nate Stein and Carla and 

Philippe Kopf on the birth of their first grandchild, Lyla 

Shai Stein. Lyla was born on May 30. Parents Danny 

Stein and Miriam Kopf are overjoyed! 

Yom Huledets Sameach to... 

Diana Hahn celebrating her 100th birthday. 

Cyla Horn celebrating her 93rd birthday. 

Roz Freedman celebrating her 88th birthday. 

Bud Kader celebrating his 85th birthday. 

Paul Schulman celebrating his 81st birthday. 

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Joan and Peter Winokur, 59 years. 

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The Cost 

AGoogle search led me to this 

explanation of Memorial Day 

in America: Memorial Day 

weekend marks the unofficial beginning 

of summer. Many people attend parades, 

go to the beach or have cookouts with 

friends and family. But at its heart, 

Memorial Day is a day when Americans 

reflect on the sacrifice of those who 

have given their lives in military service. 

I found page upon page of Memorial 

Day barbecue recipes and many teasers 

for upcoming Memorial Day sales. I was 

not unfamiliar with these methods of 

commemoration because I am a child of 

America. 

Growing up, I paid little attention to 

the unimaginable sacrifices that helped 

form the fragile roots of a blossoming 

America. I shopped and beached and met 

up with like-minded teens or attended 

family backyard barbecues where my 

cousins and I rolled our eyes at our 

embarrassing parents. We awaited the 

exciting lives that lay ahead because we 

were secure in our beauty, brilliance and 

the promise of America. Memorial Day 

didn’t weigh very much. 

Many of these intro-to-summer 

shindigs happened in the home that 

my parents contracted for and custombuilt 

on Long Island in 1969. There had 

been a mighty disagreement about the 

placement of the front door, which would 

determine our address: Would we forever 

live on the blah-ly named Third Street or 

a more dramatic Waukena Avenue? 

Twenty-six years later, I would build 

my own Jerusalem home and the street 

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name was a non-issue. What 

mattered was the placement 

of the bomb shelter, window 

gates, and proximity to 

security forces. We didn’t 

worry about our educational 

and spiritual needs because, 

by law, every community — 

secular or Torah observant 

— boasted two synagogues, 

a mikveh (ritual bath), along 

with kindergartens, and 

public religious and secular 

schools. 

In Israel, I would discover that every 

family boasted a soldier or few and/ 

or post-high school teens who were 

performing national service. The Israeli 

Defense Force (IDF) is a constant presence 

and, when not on the battlefield, the 

soldiers are home on leave. In uniform, 

they drive their children to school, sing 

zmirot at the Sabbath table, shop for 

working wives and schmooze with old 

friends over endless cups of black coffee 

and shesh besh (backgammon) while 

sitting in the town square, awaiting their 

military posting. Our army is a people’s 

army, and it forms the most glorious section 

of our Israeli tapestry, khaki-green 

and gorgeous. 

Standing in solidarity with the rest 

of our nation, it is incumbent on us to 

reflect upon the cost of holding onto our 

isolated Jewish nation. We’ve attended 

funerals, including those for the parent 

or sibling of our child’s classmate. We 

comfort the mourners at the shiva homes 

and offer sincere words of comfort. But 

can a parent, spouse or child of a dead 

soldier ever feel comfort? We “soldier 

on” because we are a nation of righteous 

warriors. 

Those who gave their lives in defense 

of the only Jewish nation are revered 

and studied by schoolchildren and 

the adult populace. Our restaurants 

and shopping malls are closed on 

Yom HaZicharon, open only for groceries 

in the late afternoons for the upcoming 

Yom HaAtzmaut (Independence Day), 

which will joyously erupt immediately 

after the official closure of the day 

of national remembrance. We dare 

not celebrate our establishment and 

autonomy without paying homage to 

those who paid the ultimate price. 

In Israel, history and faith are 

intrinsically woven into a vibrant hodgepodge 

of mirth and mourning. We owe 

our miraculous existence to God’s divine 

plan. Together, we can acknowledge the 

unbridled sacrifices that brought us to 

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Gentle Rebel 

It is dangerously easy to get caught 

up in the present moment, as if 

what is going on right now is how it 

has always been, and the problems we 

have are as bad as they have ever been. 

One of the best cures for this condition 

is even a brief look at history. There are 

few things better than discovering how 

things used to be to give context to the 

present. One of the best chronicles of 

her own place and time was the British 

author Grace Aguilar. 

Born into a Jewish Portuguese family 

in the London district of Hackney in 

1816, Aguilar’s father was the lay leader of 

the only Spanish-speaking synagogue in 

London. Because illness spared Aguilar 

the horrors of a Georgian-era public 

education in which the strap and the 

paddle were as common educational 

tools as chalk and the pencil, she was 

home-schooled. Soon surpassing other 

children her age in terms of general 

knowledge base, Aguilar also kept 

up with other middle-class girls her 

age by learning the dances of the day, 

popularized in modern times by Jane 

Austen adaptations, as well as how to 

play the piano. 

As so often happened in those days, 

Aguilar’s decision to become a writer was 

made mostly out of necessity rather than 

any sense of a calling. As her parents fell 

ill, their condition only getting worse, 

it became clear that the family would 

need another income, so she started 

to write, which was one of the very few 

professions available to women at the 

time. A trail blazed by earlier British 


Despite coming 

out after Aguilar 

was already gone, 

much of her work 

nonetheless reflects 

the times in which 

they were written like 

few others. 

authors such as Charlotte Bronte 

and the first known feminist, Mary 

Wollstonecraft. 

Starting small, she published several 

poems and short stories in local London 

magazines, of which there were hundreds 

at the time, work that culminated with 

her first book, “Spirit of Judaism,” in 

1842. One of the first tracts in terms 

of the Reform movement in European 

Judaism, “Spirit of Judaism” was heavily 

critical of the Orthodox Judaism of the 

time for its emphasis on ceremony and 

ancient tradition. Despite this religious 

criticism, much of her writing was 

strongly influenced by her religious 

upbringing; Aguilar managed to remain 

mostly free of any obvious religious bias. 

It was also the only of her six novels to be 

published in her lifetime, Aguilar dying 

from complications from a serious case 

of measles in 1847 at the age of 31. 

Despite coming out after Aguilar 

was already gone, much of her work 

(published by her supportive mother 

who managed to outlive her) nonetheless 

reflects the times in which they were 

written, touching on themes of women’s 

place in society and the domestic 

space like few others. The first of these 

posthumous works was “Woman’s 

Friendship: A Story of Domestic Life,” 

which finally saw print in 1850. It was 

an early allegory of cross-cultural 

friendship that was considered shocking 

by London society at the time. Rather 

than focusing on a racial or religious 

divide, Aguilar took an even bigger 

risk by taking on Britain’s notorious 

class system that seemed to deem the 

privileged as a slightly higher form of 

life. Despite being from very different 

backgrounds, with Rachel being the 

daughter of a wealthy family while Leah 

is an orphan from the factory class, they 

manage to forge a lifelong friendship that 

sees them through the hardest of times 

as they come to live together in a loving 

but platonic relationship. 

Later that year, “The Vale of Cedars, 

or the Martyr: A Story of Spain in 

the Fifteenth Century” is a work of 

historical fiction, one of the first, that 

carries on some of the themes set down 

by “Ivanhoe” while also adding some 

then-modern ideas, gently mocking the 

300-year-old sensibilities. With one of 

the longest developments in literary 

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families across the United 

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opportunity to honor and celebrate 

Jewish American Heritage Month. This 

annual observance celebrates Jewish 

Americans’ contributions to American 

culture, society and history, and provides 

a powerful platform for parents and 

educators to engage children in exploring 

Jewish values and life. Here are some 

of our favorite ways to celebrate Jewish 

American Heritage Month with kids: 

Explore Jewish American History 

Start by exploring the history of Jewish 

immigration to the United States 

through books like “Molly’s Pilgrimage” 

by Barbara Cohen. These stories help 

introduce children to the triumphs 

and experiences of Jewish immigrants 

who arrived in America seeking 

religious freedom and better economic 

opportunities. Discuss prominent Jewish 

American figures like Barbara Walters, 

Albert Einstein, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, 

Stephen Spielberg and Jonas Salk, whose 

contributions have left an indelible mark 

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Commemorate Yom HaShoah: 

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As part of Jewish American Heritage 

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Encourage children 

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Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance 

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memorial services and educational 

learning opportunities. These events 

honor the memory of the millions of 

Jews who perished in the Holocaust and 

serve as a reminder of the importance of 

combating hatred so that we never forget 

the atrocities of the Holocaust. 

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hands-on activities that ignite creativity 

and curiosity. Our favorite way to 

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food. Create traditional Jewish recipes 

and share them with friends who may 

have never experienced the joy of a warm 

bowl of matzo ball soup or a challah fresh 

out of the oven. 

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about themes such as identity, diversity 

and resilience. Melissa Taylor from 

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including “Challah Day!” written by 

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tours of Jewish heritage sites, museums 

and synagogues in your community. 

Explore traveling or permanent exhibits 

that showcase history, art and music 

to encourage engagement with Jewish 

heritage. The Breman Museum, for 

example, is located in Los Angeles and is 

dedicated to preserving and showcasing 

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Literature continued 

history, Aguilar began work on the book in 1816 and finally 

finished it in 1835 before it finally saw print in 1850. 

There is a lot of disagreement about when “Home 

Influence: A Tale for Mothers and Daughters” was published, 

not least because, as was common practice at the time, it 

was published in two volumes. Dates range from 1847 to 

1859. According to the edition on Project Gutenberg, the 

first American edition was published by Harper Brothers 

Publishers of New York in 1856. Whatever the exact date, 

it was definitely after the author’s death, and there is no 

question as to the primary influence on the contents. 

“The Days of Bruce: A Story From Scottish History” 

was another crack at historical fiction. Only getting one 

numbered volume, most likely first published in 1871, it 

follows a version of the life of the Scottish rebel and eventual 

king, Robert the Bruce. Starting with his boyhood, the 

narrative was meant to follow the trials he went through, 

especially while resisting the English, to reach his exalted 

position. 

The final posthumous volume, “Home Scenes and Heart 

Studies,” takes things back to the beginning with another 

meditation on the little-acknowledged domestic space long 

thought to be the domain of women, an area Aguilar was well 

acquainted with, rarely leaving her family’s circle given her 

fragile health. What she lacked in experience was more than 

made up for with scholarship and imagination and a general 

detachment from the culture of the day that allowed her to 

see it more clearly and criticize it more deftly than those 

who were mired in it. A 

Parenting continued 

a day of visiting and consider adding a 

Jewish deli like Brent’s or Canter’s to 

your agenda. 

Participate in Community Service 

Emphasize the importance of tikkun 

olam (repairing the world) by engaging 

children in community service projects 

inspired by Jewish values. Volunteer 

at local food banks, start a food drive 

for an animal shelter or explore ageappropriate 

opportunities with Jewish 

Family Service or Lawrence Family 

Jewish Community Center. Encourage 

children to explore ways in which they 

can make an impact, remembering that 


the smallest ripples have the power to 

create big waves. 

Create New and Inclusive Family 

Traditions 

Create meaningful family traditions 

that honor Jewish heritage and values. 

Celebrate Shabbat with friends, family 

and neighbors, prepare a traditional 

meal, share stories, and plan activities 

that keep families engaged in Jewish life 

throughout the year using May as the 

launch point. 

While we hope you find ways to 

celebrate Jewish pride throughout the 

year, let this month serve as a reminder 

of the enduring legacy and resilience of 

Jewish Americans whose rich stories 

enrich our lives and contribute to a more 

inclusive and dynamic society. 

We would love to hear from you! 

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SPOTLIGHT 

JFest 2024 

by Alejandra Enciso 

Festival headliner Mandy Patinkin. 

PHOTO: JOAN MARCUS 

The highly anticipated Lipinsky 

Family San Diego Jewish Arts 

Festival (JFest) is set to charm 

audiences once again, fostering a 

celebration of Jewish heritage and 

creativity that transcends boundaries. 

From May 30 to June 30, San Diego will 

come alive with the vibrant sounds and 

sights of Jewish music, theatre, dance 

and performances, marking its 31st year 

of artistic excellence. 

This year’s festival promises a 

mesmerizing celebration of the rich 

diversity of Jewish people, history and 

ideas through virtuoso performances. 

Festival venues span the county and 

include Balboa Theatre, The Old Globe, 

Lawrence Family JCC, the Unitarian 

Church in Hillcrest, UCSD Hillel, 

Coastal Roots Farm, and Leichtag 

Commons. 

Festival founding artistic director 

Todd Salovey remarks, “Last year, we 

rebirthed JFest and were amazed at the 

size and passion of our audiences. This 

year, the festival is growing with one of 

the most celebrated and beloved Jewish 

performers, Mandy Patinkin, and nine 

unique programs meant to heal, bring 

joy and inspire.” 

International hip-hop artist Nissim 

Black returns to San Diego to kick off 

JFest on May 30. With a musical style 

that ranges from rap to pop to world 

music, Nissim Black’s unique sound 

has uplifted audiences worldwide. This 

year’s headline performer is the Tony 

and Emmy Award-winning actor/singer/ 

storyteller Mandy Patinkin, presenting 

his most electrifying role: concert 

performer in Being Alive at the Balboa 

Theatre. 

The Community Concert Refuah will 

take place at the JCC, featuring talented 

performers from across San Diego 

sharing healing through song, dance, 

poetry and more. Klezmer Summit this 

year presents From the Shuk to the 

Shtetl, a concert that traces how the 

strains of Middle Eastern folk music 

heard in the busy shuks influenced 

the Klezmer musicians who played 

throughout Eastern Europe. Punto y 

Coma Theatre takes the stage with the 

play La Obra, in Spanish, at The Old 

Globe, and the 15th Women of Valor 

returns to showcase six inspiring women 

who have impacted our community. 

LA funnyman Avi Liberman will host 

Comedy for Koby, which has become 

Israel’s most popular English standup 

comedy tour. JFest will host a culinary 

theatre experience with chef Benedetta 

Jasmine Guetta of Santa Monica’s Café 

Lovi, where playwright Ali Viterbi 

intertwines the historical, personal 

and fictional dedicated to Italian Jews 

through the Generations. 

An Eco-Performance Fest in its 

second edition, REGENERATE!, will 

wrap up JFest showcasing eco-theater, 

dance and music by some of California’s 

most exciting, forward-thinking artists. 

JFest Producing Director Rebecca 

Myers reflects, “This year, sharing 

stories that bring people together feels 

more important than ever. Seeing 

communities come together at JFest 

events is an important reminder of the 

beauty and joy of being Jewish and how 

essential it is to support Jewish art.” 

Year after year, JFest continues 

to shine a light on the richness of 

Jewish culture by welcoming all 

individuals and cultures, fostering 

inclusivity, and creating high-quality 

cultural experiences for the entire 

community. A 

Tickets for each event range from $18 to $140 

and are available for purchase at sdjfest.org. 


Congregation 

Beth Israel Honors 

the Goldbergs 

by Makayla Hoppe 

Lee And Frank Goldberg Family Religious School at Beth Israel. Photos courtesy of Congregation Beth Israel.

FEATURE 

This June, Congregation 

Beth Israel will hold its 

annual fundraising gala, 

“L’Chaim To Life.” The 

gala will honor Lee and 

Frank z”l Goldberg, longtime San Diego 

residents and philanthropists who have 

spent many years with the temple. Four 

generations of the Goldberg family have 

been a part of Beth Israel. 

Lee and Frank z”l will receive the 

Carl M. Esenoff Memorial Award. 

According to Beth Israel, recipients 

of the award “are outstanding 

individuals who maintain a meaningful 

membership in the congregation and 

have been active in, supportive of, 

and demonstrated leadership in the 

synagogue and the larger San Diego 

community.” 

“When Rabbi Jason called, I burst 

into tears,” Lee said. “I never expected 

this; it’s such a wonderful, prestigious 

honor.” 

Lee moved to San Diego as a child 

and still lives here today at the age of 

91. She has been a member of Beth 

Israel for over 65 years and had her 

confirmation there. 

“[My] experience was wonderful at 

the temple,” Lee said. “When we were 

teens, we had temple afternoon...We 

would take the bus, and we would dance 

to records that were playing. So, it was 

wonderful growing up here and having 

the congregation there for us.” 

In addition to Lee’s own history with 

Beth Israel, her children have all shared 

their life milestones at the temple, 

including schooling, B’nei Mitzvah and 

weddings. 

Lee and Frank z”l always felt that 

education was the most important 

thing they could offer children, which 

When we were 

teens, we had 

Temple afternoon... 

We would take 

the bus, and we 

would dance to 

records that were 

playing. So, it was 

wonderful growing 

up here and having 

the congregation 

there for us. 

led to the new temple school. The Lee 

& Frank Goldberg Family Religious 

School “teaches core Jewish values and 

competencies, and nurtures Jewish 

identity, a sense of belonging to the 

Jewish people, a connection to Israel, 

and a commitment to Judaism.” 

“It’s a beautiful, beautiful building,” 

Lee said, “and we’re very proud of the 

fact that we have the school with our 

name on it... A wonderful thing was that 

I got notes in Hebrew, saying, ‘Thank 

you,’ from all the children.” 

Lee and Frank z”l are also being 

recognized for their work with the 

greater Jewish San Diego community. 

They were instrumental in the growth 

of Seacrest Retirement Village, where 

Frank z”l served as president for many 

years. Lee is a former president of 

Hadassah and lifelong member of the 

organization. They have also shown 

great support for the Jewish Federation, 

which they believe helps the community 

here in San Diego as well as Israel. Hillel 

has also received support from Lee and 

Frank z”l over the years. 

Throughout the decades in 

San Diego, Lee and Frank z”l have also 

given back to the city they call home. 

After both attending San Diego State 

University, they made a donation to the 

school to help with student scholarships. 

The Lee & Frank Goldberg Courtyard 

now sits just inside the SDSU Student 

Union. The courtyard is filled with 

beautiful foliage, fountains and seating 

for all students to enjoy. 

The Moores Cancer Center at the 

University of California San Diego 

was also made possible with the help 

of Lee and Frank z”l. The center was 

established in 1978, and they both 

served on the board. 

The Goldbergs have also been great 

proponents and supporters of the arts, 

notably the San Diego Opera, as well as 

North Coast Repertory Theatre. 

“It’s just a wonderful thing that 

everyone can love, no matter what 

language it’s in,” Lee said about the 

Opera. She served as a board member 

for many years; it brought both her and 

Frank z”l great joy. 

From the local Jewish community 

to the greater San Diego area, Lee 

and Frank z”l Goldberg have been 

instrumental in the city’s growth and 

development. It’s easy to see why they 

are being honored—they have shown 

time and time again just how much 

they love San Diego and Congregation 

Beth Israel. 

“I’ve had a wonderful, wonderful life, 

and this just puts the frosting on the 

cake, getting this award,” Lee said. A 


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FEATURE 

Dogs in the Business 

of Giving Love 

by Susan Edelstein 

Recently, my friend and her dog, 

Cindy and Hana, respectively, 

went to a local university for the 

purpose of helping students de-stress 

while studying for finals away from home 

and missing their own dogs. This is how 

I learned about Love on a Leash, an 

organization of teams of dogs and owners 

whose business it is to go where invited 

to spread love and give comfort. Who 

better to do this than dogs? 

Love on a Leash was founded in the 

1980s in North San Diego County and 

now comprises 2500 teams in nearly 

every state in the country. Sue Subkow 

is the leader of the San Diego Central 

Chapter, which has 290 teams. Love 

on a Leash trains and certifies teams 

whose primary function is to brighten 

someone’s day or lighten their burden. 

This is called pet therapy. Love on a 

Leash dogs (and some cats and a rabbit 

or two) visit many settings, including 

hospitals, VA Homes, senior centers, 

schools, libraries and jails. 

Sue has been involved with Love 

on a Leash for 15 years and, with great 

warmth and enthusiasm, shared some of 

her special encounters. Sue honors her 

veteran father’s memory by frequenting 

the VA Hospital where the vets are 

waiting, so appreciative and eager to 

share their memories of their own dogs. 

When Sue visits the Sheriff’s 

Department Peer Support group 

The dogs seem 

to know who’s 

really hurting 

and needs a little 

extra love. 

meetings where 20-30 men and women 

are seated in a circle, and the dogs walk 

around, a dog will eventually plop down 

beside one person and stay there. The 

dogs seem to seek out and know who’s 

really hurting and needs a little extra 

love. That lucky person will invariably 

say, “How did your dog know?!” They just 

do, that’s all. 

At Together We Grow, a day center 

for medically fragile young people, one 

member named Julia, who is blind, deaf 

and nonverbal, smells the dogs when 

they arrive and squeals with delight. 

When Sue visits a hospice, the dogs give 

a last bit of comfort, warmth and love, 

and Sue herself takes comfort in the fact 

that someone did not die alone. 

Some of Sue’s favorite spots to visit 

are jails like the Richard J. Donovan 

Correctional Facility, Las Colinas 

Detention Center and the George F. 

Bailey Detention Center, where she jokes 

that she has a captive audience. These 

inmates are incredibly appreciative 

as they get few, if any, visitors. One 

inmate told Sue that he hadn’t seen or 

touched a dog in 22 years. Love on a 

Leash is part of the prison’s recreational 

therapy, and inmates sign up for visits 

twice a month. One prison has a point 

system where inmates earn points for 

ordinary things like making their bed or 

tucking in their shirt, and it takes 5000 

points for a Love on a Leash visit. One 

man told Sue, “I never thought I’d see a 

dog again.” Another said, “I use all my 

points on the dogs.” Another inmate who 

hadn’t seen the dogs since before COVID 

remembered Sue’s dog’s name and 

shouted, “Hey! Is that Charlie?!” 

Love on a Leash works to increase 

public awareness of the benefits of pet 

therapy, and they will visit wherever they 

are invited. Dogs come in and bring with 

them pure love: nothing more, nothing 

less. The people lucky enough to meet 

these dogs become flooded with warmth, 

with stories and memories of their youth, 

their home, how much they loved their 

own dogs. It’s almost like magic, the 

wonder of dogs. A 


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Embracing Inclusivity: 

The Annual Friendship Walk Brings Joy to All 

by Muka Rodal 

Friendship Circle’s Annual 

Friendship Walk, a cherished 

event in our community, once 

again brought together families, friends 

and volunteers to celebrate the spirit of 

friendship and inclusivity. Held at Nobel 

Park in San Diego on Sunday, April 7, this 

year’s walk was a resounding success, 

drawing participants of all ages and 

backgrounds. 

Among the many families who 

attended, the Ceitlin family shared 

their heartwarming experience of the 

day. Mrs. Ceitlin expressed, “The kids 

and I greatly enjoyed the walk. It was so 

nice, right when we started the walk, to 

have a volunteer walk around with us 

and keep pumping my kids up with his 

enthusiasm.” She continued, “After the 

walk, the volunteer also took my kids to 

the obstacle course, which they loved, 

and the petting zoo. My boys especially 

loved sitting down in the quiet center 

“The kids and I greatly 

enjoyed the walk. It 

was so nice to have 

a volunteer walk with us 

and pump my kids up 

with his enthusiasm.” 

and playing with the cars and toys. The 

highlight for them was eating the yummy 

Kona ice.” 

This sentiment echoes the feelings 

of many participants who found joy in 

the various activities and interactions 

throughout the day. From the carnival 

and inflatables to the excitement of the 

walk, obstacle course, and petting zoo, to 

the food and relaxing quiet centers, there 

was something for everyone to enjoy. 

The Annual Friendship Walk not 

only provides an opportunity for fun 

and entertainment but also serves as 

a platform for fostering connections, 

promoting understanding within our 

community and supporting individuals 

with special needs through future 

programs and events. Through shared 

experiences and moments of laughter, 

participants come together to celebrate 

diversity and embrace the value of 

inclusion. 

The success of the Friendship 

Walk would not have been possible 

without the dedication and support 

of our fundraisers, volunteers, 

sponsors and community partners. 

continues on page 31 >> 


FEATURE 

Direct Flights From Iran 

by Galia Miller Sprung 

How was Saturday night’s missile 

attack from Iran different 

from all other attacks? On all 

other nights, missile attacks come from 

the south or the north. On this night, 

missiles came from the east. 

What do you do when hundreds of 

armed drones and missiles are heading 

towards your country, your home? 

You wait. 

Not much else to do. Our secure 

room, mamad, has been ready for over 

six months — comfort, sustainable 

food, water and important items (old 8 

and Super 8 movies!). We watch news 

stations, listen to reports and share 

funny memes and jokes on social media 

groups. It’s amazing how quickly these 

get written and sent. “First direct flights 

from Iran to Israel since 1979.” We laugh 

and wait with varying degrees of anxiety. 

At 1 a.m., I decide I have time to take 

a shower before the 2 a.m. ETA for Iran’s 

missiles. If we lose electricity, there’s no 

hot water. 

At 1:55 a.m., the house shakes with 

loud booms. I admit I am somewhat 

surprised. We live in the middle of the 


What do you do 

when hundreds 

of armed drones 

and missiles are 

heading towards 

your country, 

your home? 

country, and “routine” missiles from 

Gaza in the south or Lebanon in the 

north don’t usually make it to us. My 

husband and I look at each other, “It’s 

started.” We did not hear an air raid 

siren, not even faintly. Our community’s 

name did not automatically appear 

on the TV screen. This happens if a 

community is under the immediate 

threat of being hit by missiles, or, more 

likely, being hit by deadly pieces of 

shrapnel after our anti-missile missiles 

intercept them. So no, we do not grab our 

laptops and run to our mamad. 

“We had loud booms. Did you?” ask 

social media messages from various 

parts of Israel. We continue to watch 

TV, and I get a sense of which areas are 

experiencing the same. Another boom. 

And another. I text my daughters, who 

live 50 miles away. It’s 3 a.m. No one 

is sleeping. They live somewhere on 

the long border with Jordan and, like 

us, are low on the list of our enemies’ 

targets. But this night is different from 

all other nights. They get a chance to 

experience shattering explosions from 

interceptions. 3:30 a.m. A text from one 

of our granddaughters from her base, 

checking up on us. 

Were we afraid? Not so much. In 

denial? No. No denial after October 7. 

Still, by 4 a.m., awake, talking and texting 

with family and friends in America, we 

decided to sleep in our mamad. Truth 

be told, it’s mainly because the bedroom 

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Direct Flights continued 

is upstairs, and we didn’t want to have to jump out of bed 

and run down the stairs if we had a Red Alert. We didn’t 

expect any in our sparsely populated area, but since Israel 

had purposely created havoc with GPS systems to literally 

“confuse the enemy,” we weren’t sure where missiles might 

fall. Even our own GPS devices were affected over the last 

weeks. No matter your destination, WAZE gave directions to 

Beirut airport! 

We focused our worries on those whose night was 

shattered by repeated Red Alerts. On those who suffer from 

anxiety attacks or post trauma, or don’t have a secure room. 

On our security forces out in the open — always there for us. 

We are filled with concern for friends who were scheduled 

to fly Sunday to various destinations and for friends waiting 

for relatives to arrive in Israel for Pesach. Airlines are 

canceling flights. Yes, there is a war. No, we do not lead 

normal lives. But we must continue living. The saying here is: 

Choose life. 

Humor survives. A message on one of my social media 

groups: “Now that we survived another night...where can 

I get decent corned beef for our seder?” Yes, we must also 

tend to the mundane. I call my regular fish monger in 

Ra’anana and order ground carp so I can make my traditional 

gefilte fish for Pesach — and so I can feel that something is as 

it should be. We look for a balance. 

On Pesach eve, as our extended family sits around 

our seder table, we will have some balance. Our soldier 

grandchildren will be home. We’ll have our traditions, 

including the gefilte fish. Three generations will read the 

Haggadah with strong, proud voices. 

“We survived Pharoah,” the motto goes, and we will 

survive now, too. A 

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As we reflect on another wonderful year of the Friendship 

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FEATURE 

Which Way Do We Go? 

by Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort 

The Exodus from Egypt is 

celebrated on Passover, which 

is arguably the most universally 

observed of our holidays. This is logical 

as it represents our birth as a nation, 

as well as our transformation from 

oppressed slaves to “A Nation of Priests; 

a Holy Nation.” The Biblical narrative 

of the Exodus is not only dramatic but, 

more importantly, it is full of meaning 

for us, even these days more than 3,300 

years later. 

Let’s take a deep dive into the story of 

the Exodus, or perhaps more accurately, 

let’s pick up the narrative immediately 

following the departure of the Children 

of Israel from Egypt. 

The nation, following the inspired 

leadership of Moses, headed towards the 

Promised Land, albeit via a circuitous 

route. A week after leaving, they came 

upon the Yam Suf and Sea of Reeds. Once 

there, the Jewish people faced a severe 

test. In front of them was the Sea. Behind 

them was the quickly approaching 


No one was killed, 

and 99% of the 

missiles were 

successfully 

defended against. 

Surely, this is an 

open miracle. 

Egyptian Army (Pharoah had had a 

change of heart and was pursuing the 

Jewish people to bring them back as 

slaves to Egypt). The Jews were hemmed 

in by mountains on either side. 

What should they do? 

One group said, “Let’s pray to G-d for 

some divine intervention.” One group 

said, “Let’s fight the Egyptians!” One 

group said, “Let’s beg the Egyptians for 

mercy and resume our status as slaves.” 

And one group said, “There is nothing for 

it. Let’s commit suicide.” 

G-d answered Moses by saying, and 

I paraphrase here, “Now is not the time 

for prayer (or any other strategizing). 

Proceed (ahead, through the Sea!), as you 

were instructed.” 

A very courageous man named 

Nachshon, the son of Aminadav, started 

marching into the Sea, filled with faith 

that he was on the path to redemption 

because he was following the path 

dictated by the Almighty. Miraculously, 

when the water was up to his nose, 

the Sea split and all the Children of 

Israel followed Nachshon into the Sea, 

ultimately coming out safely on the far 

bank. The Egyptians, despite seeing 

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Which Way continued 

these open miracles of G-d on behalf of 

the Jewish people, foolishly pursued 

them and were swiftly drowned by the 

walls of water crashing down upon them. 

Today, as I sit in my office pondering 

this ancient story and its relevance in our 

times, I am struck with a thought. 

The Islamic Republic of Iran 

showered the Holy Land, including 

densely populated areas, with hundreds 

of ballistic missiles, cruise missiles and 

suicide drones. No one was killed, and 

99% of the missiles were successfully 

defended against. Surely, this is an open 

miracle, just like when the Egyptians’ 

arrows and spears fired at the Jewish 

people crossing the Sea were repelled, 

causing damage to the Egyptians and 

leaving the Israelites unharmed. 

But let us examine the debate 

going on as Israel faces the implacable 

antisemitic hatred of Iran, its minions 

and other antisemites around the world. 

As an aside, is it not telling that many 

of the pro-ceasefire protesters started 

cheering wildly when they heard of the 

Iranian attack? Perhaps they are not propeace 

after all? Perhaps, and this is just a 

wild guess, they are antisemites cheering 

for the demise of the Jewish state, G-d 

forbid! Don’t take my word for it; they 

will tell you themselves. 

There is certainly a contingent of 

our people who are praying to G-d for 

salvation, and who can blame them? 

They will tell you that everything is in 

G-d’s hands, and they are right. However, 

right now, it seems that we humans have 

a part to play. Never forget: G-d helps 

those who help themselves. 

There is another contingent of people 

who, as strange as this may sound, are 

afraid of being free. They are willing 

even to “return to Egypt.” In this case, 

that would mean that they are amenable 

to Jews being subservient to the hostile 

forces that surround Israel and even to 

those forces who reside here in the U.S. 

Skeptical? Check out what is going on in 

American universities right now, where 

many Jewish students are taking the 

side of Israel’s enemies. These people 

logically reason: how can we possibly 

We view peace as 

the ultimate goal, 

but it must be true 

peace, peace built on 

the truth. No room 

for false narratives 

like Palestinian 

statehood must be 

reconvened. There 

has never been 

a Palestinian state. 

win this battle when we are frightfully 

outnumbered? 

There are many who are blaming 

Israel for the hatred of her enemies. 

Some are offering every conceivable 

excuse and argument to the blood-thirsty 

enemy and do whatever they can to 

weaken Israel. We have failed them, for 

somehow, we never were able to teach 

all our Jewish children Jewish morality. 

The Talmud says that he who is kind to 

those who deserve strict judgment will 

end up being cruel to those who deserve 

kindness. We are seeing that played out 

before our eyes, as the woke mob has 

turned on Israel and the Jewish people 

in a very big way, and all in the name of 

kindness. 

Well, in response, I would state 

that I am not willing to be a dhimmi 

(a second-class citizen in the Islamic 

religious/political system), who must 

conceal his place of worship, cannot 

ride a horse, has no right to true justice 

when in a legal battle with a Muslim, may 

not be armed, and must pay the jizya (a 

special tax reserved for non-Muslims). 

Never mind me; there are millions of 

proud Jews around the world, and a 

massive number in Israel, who will never 

give up on Jewish independence. “Once 

you’re free, there is no going back.” The 

eradication of the Jewish state, G-d 

forbid, is simply not an option. So, when 

you hear someone chant, “From the river 

to the sea, Palestine will be free,” that is 

a clarion call for the destruction of the 

Jewish state and the death of any Jew 

who wants to fight for its existence. It is, 

by definition, an antisemitic cheer. 

And then we have a strong contingent 

who wants to fight it out, no matter 

the cost and consequences. They are 

thinking, “Kill everyone first, ask 

questions later.” Accuse our allies, since 

they may be imperfect allies, of duplicity 

and antisemitism. Take no prisoners! 

Push the button and annihilate everyone 

in our way! 

We Jews do not share the vision of 

an end-of-days, apocalyptic destruction 

of all humanity with other religions. 

We view peace as the ultimate goal, but 

it must be true peace, meaning peace 

built on the truth. No room for false 

narratives like the one that claims Israel 

is a colonialist state and that Palestinian 

statehood must be reconvened. There 

has never been a Palestinian state, 

and furthermore, there has never 

been a group of people known as Arab 

Palestinians who are distinct from other 

Arabs, like Syrians, Jordanians and 

Egyptians. Israel should offer peace for 

peace. Nothing more. 

Finally, we have those who are ready 

to pack it in: Let’s commit national 

suicide. Let us assimilate and lose our 

unique Jewish identity. Let’s embrace 

the ideology of this political party or that 

one. Let us emulate the ways of our non- 

Jewish neighbors. Maybe then the haters 

will let us live in peace, no? 

continues on page 35 >> 


SPECIAL TO THE SAN DIEGO JEWISH JOURNAL 

Meeting Israel’s New Trauma Needs 

Hebrew University’s unique mental health trauma center was spurred by the 

singularity of the Oct. 7 attack 

by Elana Sztokman 

How do you deal with the trauma of the deadliest day Jews 

have experienced since the Holocaust? 

This was the question Israeli trauma experts faced in the 

wake of Oct. 7, 2023, when over 1,200 Israelis were killed 

and some 250 taken captive in Hamas’s attack on Israel. 

The massive attack by terrorists immediately was 

followed by additional traumas: The displacement of tens 

of thousands of Israelis from their homes in the conflict 

zones. The subsequent war has left hundreds more soldiers 

dead and thousands wounded. Emotional scarring on a 

national scale. 

At the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, some of Israel’s 

foremost trauma experts set to work to design new clinical 

approaches and train therapists to deal with these traumas. 

“These experiences are beyond anything we have seen,” 

said Professor Asher Ben-Arieh, dean of the university’s Paul 

Baerwald School of Social Work and Social Welfare and CEO 

of the Haruv Institute for the Study of Child Maltreatment, 

noting that some children were taken hostage and witnessed 

their parents’ murder or kidnapping. “The tools we have 

used until now are not sufficient. We need new solutions and 

new ideas for how to treat these traumas.” 

Ben-Arieh estimates that 25% to 50% of those who 

experienced trauma were likely to develop problems such 

as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, 

anxiety, complex grief, or difficulties in marital, social, or 

occupational adjustments. 

To meet these new needs, Hebrew University’s Israel 

Center for Addiction and Mental Health set about to launch 

the Institute for Traumatic Stress and Recovery to create a 

multidisciplinary, academic-clinical hub to address traumarelated 

research, training, prevention, treatment, and 

resilience promotion. 

The Institute for Traumatic Stress and Recovery aims 

to give therapists and trauma survivors evidence-based 

practices and technologies, accessible via Israel’s public 

health system, to enhance the healing and recovery of 

Israelis grappling with the enormity of these traumas. The 

institute will conduct research, train therapists in new 

evidence-based practices, and provide patient-centered, 

comprehensive, coordinated care. 

“This proactive approach will not only enhance the 

capacity for timely and effective trauma intervention, but 

also contribute to a more informed and resilient community 

as a whole,” said Hebrew University psychology professor 

Jonathan Huppert, who is involved in the project. 

“Trauma manifests in many ways and can be different for 

different people,” Huppert said. “Not everyone has PTSD. 

Some have stress, grief, difficulty coping with the effects 

of being evacuated. Since Oct. 7 people are more stressed 

in general. They may experience more negative thinking, 

trouble sleeping, more physical aches and pains, muscle 

tension. Things may set them off more easily.” 

Many experts in the field say it long has been clear that 

Israel needs to improve its overall approach to mental 


Which Way continued 

health. There has been insufficient training of mental health 

professionals using evidence-based best practices treating 

trauma, a lack of integration between research and practice, 

and a lack of awareness among the public at large about the 

impacts of collective traumatic stress. 

The events of Oct. 7 drew attention to those problems 

while adding the urgent need for new approaches to trauma 

specific to this historical event. 

The new institute, which will offer a rare combination 

of research with clinical practice, training, and advocacy, 

has raised 25% of its budget so far and is actively seeking 

support for the remainder. 

“We need enough money to have a stable center to think 

out of the box,” Ben-Arieh said. “And we need it urgently. 

We’re not even post trauma. We are not past this. It’s still 

happening.” 

After the shock of the initial Hamas attack, Ben‐Arieh 

and his colleague Ofrit Shapira Berman, a Hebrew 

University professor who specializes in treating adult 

survivors of complex childhood trauma, joined an October 7 

National Task Force to care for children who were abducted. 

Working with Israel’s Ministry of Social Services and 

other governmental bodies, the task force trained the 

security services who first greeted the abducted children 

upon their release in late November 2023 to ensure the 

children would not be retraumatized in the process of their 

release. They also worked with their parents. 

The task force identified six groups of children at high 

risk since Oct. 7: child hostages; those who witnessed severe 

violence and murders; newly orphaned children; children 

who lost a parent, sibling, or other relatives; children whose 

friends or peers were killed or kidnapped; and children 

displaced from their homes. 

“There is a deep issue of betrayal in childhood trauma,” 

said Ben-Arieh. “In these cases, these events often happened 

in places that their parents said were the safest in the world. 

Parents could not save their children. Or they had to choose. 

We have new forms of trauma that we don’t understand.” 

He added, “We need to change the field.” 

To learn more, please contact Justin Pressman, 

AFHU Western Region Executive Director at 

western@afhu.org or 310.843.3100. 

This approach clearly will not work due to the robust love 

of life that so many of us Jews feel. We ain’t goin’ nowhere. 

Besides, we know from history that the haters will find 

different reasons to hate us. Maybe it will be because of our 

“Jewish blood,” or maybe because of our over-achievement 

in the business world, or disproportionate representation in 

institutions of higher learning. It matters not; the haters will 

continue to hate. 

The correct approach in modern times is... None of the 

above. 

Now, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t an element of 

truth in some of the above-mentioned approaches. Certainly, 

we need to remain in close communication with G-d. Of 

course, we must be prepared to fight gallantly. Yes, we should 

work diligently to find favor in our neighbors’ eyes. 

But we must follow the lead of Nachshon. The way forward 

is in front of us. There is no turning back. We must find the 

courage to embrace our independence. We are a unique 

nation, set apart from the others. We have a specific role 

to play in the world. Yes, we are going to have to defend 

ourselves forcefully, continually, or at least until the moment 

when G-d’s presence is openly revealed for all to see. 

Our job is to make steady progress towards the era of 

universal peace and brotherhood. No kidding, we must strive 

for peace. Sometimes, one must fight to achieve peace (think 

of WWII). We must steadfastly remember that the role of the 

IDF is to protect the citizens of Israel, not feed or provide 

water and electricity to our sworn enemies, and that is the 

fact no matter what anyone says. It is both sad and pathetic 

that our enemies hate us more than they love their own. That 

is their problem. Antisemitism is about a malignancy in the 

antisemite. It isn’t about us. The only way we can defeat it 

is through proudly living as Jews. This, more than anything 

else, brings the nations to respect the Jewish people. We must 

stop the pandering. 

And every one of us has a sacred obligation to teach these 

Jewish morals to our children. Our children must be made 

immune to the moral confusion so prevalent in today’s world. 

We must always be mindful where our morals come from: 

they come from the Torah and nowhere else. We must strive 

like never before to come together and stand together as a 

community, for our full strength is realized when we work 

together. 

We will win. Since we will each fulfill our mandate, we 

cannot lose. The best thing is when we win, the whole world 

wins. A 


Local Arts 

BY EILEEN SONDAK 

THE OLD GLOBE 

THEATRE 

theoldglobe.org 

The Old Globe will unveil a world 

premiere play about family, food and 

healing on May 4. “Stir,” a Globecommissioned 

work, is about two 

siblings who get together to form 

a surprising connection as they 

reminisce and reveal secrets of their 

own. The play will be ensconced at the 

White Theater through May 26. 

The Globe’s Shiley Stage is set for 

“Fat Ham,” a Pulitzer Prize-winning 

take on Shakespeare’s “Hamlet.” This 

fresh and funny comedy uses hilarity 

and profound insight to explore 

the conflict between your family 

obligations and your sense of self. 

This exciting new play sounds like 

a must-see for theater buffs. It will 

entertain audiences May 25 through 

June 23. 

“Stir” co-playwrights Joel Perez and Melinda 

Lopez. Photo of Lopez by Adam DeTour. 

La Jolla Music Society’s Annual 

Community Arts Open House 

THE LA JOLLA 

MUSIC SOCIETY 

theconrad.org 

The La Jolla Music Society will start 

the month off on May 4 with Kaki King 

as part of the Kids Series, followed 

on May 5 by Junction Trio. There’s 

a free community arts open house 

slated for May 11, and Ballets Jazz 

Montreal performs on May 15. Cellist 

Pablo Ferrandez is due on May 16, 

while Charles and Friends is on tap 

for May 18. Guitarist JUI is next on 

May 19, and Terry Virts speaks on 

May 23. Pianist Bruce Liu rounds out 

the month on May 31. 

NORTH COAST REP 

northcoastrep.org 

North Coast Repertory Theatre 

is featuring the world premiere of 

“Sense of Decency,” a play based 

on the book, “The Nazi and the 

Psychiatrist.” This new work, directed 

by David Ellenstein, promises to be 

a surprise-laden exploration full of 

insights and theatrical sparks. If 

you’re fascinated by this storyline, you 

can see the show through May 12. 

North Coast Rep will follow that up 

with “Camelot,” an enchanting musical 

that brings the iconic characters King 

Arthur and Sir Lancelot to life. This 

Tony Award-winning fairytale musical 

will play from May 29 through 

June 23. 

Brendan Ford and Frank Corrado in “Sense of 

Decency” at North Coast Rep. Photo: Aaron 

Rumley. 


“Respect” at Lamb’s Players Theatre. 

CYGNET THEATRE 

cygnettheatre.com 

Cygnet is featuring ‘an electropop 

opera’ titled, “Natasha, Pierre, and 

the Great Comet of 1812.” This 

bold and wildly original musical — 

adapted from Tolstoy’s “War and 

Peace,” will be performed at Cygnet’s 

Old Town Theater through May 26. 

The show has been described as the 

most innovative new musical since 

“Hamilton.” 

LAMB’S PLAYERS 

THEATRE 

lambsplayers.org 

The Lamb’s Players smash hit, 

“Respect,” will get a new lease 

on life at UCSD’s Epstein Family 

Amphitheater May 15-25. 

CORONADO 

PLAYHOUSE 

coronadoplayhouse.org 

Coronado Playhouse has taken on a 

children’s classic this month. “Tuck 

Everlasting,” a musical based on 

the novel, will be ensconced at the 

Playhouse through May 19. 

LA JOLLA 

PLAYHOUSE 

lajollaplayhouse.org 

La Jolla Playhouse is rolling out the 

red carpet for the world premiere of 

“The Ballad of Johnny and June,” a 

musical based on the lives of country 

music’s royal couple, Johnny Cash and 

June Carter. The story, told through 

the eyes of their son, covers their 

childhoods, their meeting in 1956 at 

the Grand Ole Opry, and all the highs 

and lows of their lives. Their beloved 

hits will be among the songs and 

the show will mark the long-awaited 

return of director Des McAnuff. 

Sounds like a winner, and you have 

from May 28 to July 7 to check it out. 

“The Ballad of Johnny and June” premieres at 

La Jolla Playhouse. 


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Benjamin Pollack – Aurora, CO 

Paul Dean – San Diego 

Moises Chait Ruiz – San Diego 

Nina Babakhanova – Santee 

Irina Kanevsjy – San Diego 

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Oren Polak – San Diego 

David Diamond – La Jolla 

Francis Raikow – San Diego 

Richard Moss – Encinitas 

Oru Braun – Bonita 

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PHOTO: HAPPYHAHA STUDIO 

Jewish Teen Choir’s Carnegie Hall 

Performance Offered a Powerful Musical 

Statement of Support for Israel 

by Zamir Choral Foundation 

Participants from local California HaZamir chapters 

joined hundreds of other teen members of HaZamir: The 

International Jewish Teen Choir from 35 chapters across the 

U.S. and Israel as they sang in an uplifting concert featuring 

classical, contemporary and popular music on April 7 at 

Carnegie Hall in New York City. The moving performance 

evoked a feeling of hope, resilience and support for Israel 

and for one another, with the theme of solidarity interwoven 

through song as well as in heartfelt words from the young 

people. A rousing revamped “Am Yisrael Chai” was a concert 

highlight. A 

HaZamir, a program of the Zamir Choral Foundation, provides an opportunity for accomplished young singers to perform Jewish music. HaZamir has long 

served as a training ground for the next generation of singers, conductors and leaders, investing in young people so that they have a deeper understanding 

of the values and traditions of Judaism through artistic expression. For more information visit www.hazamir.org 



Food 

Cinnamon Roll Challah 

by Micah Silva 

Mother’s Day is just around the corner. This year, Mother’s Day is particularly special, as it marks my 

first as a mom to my 5-month-old son, Ari. In Mother’s Days past, I dreamed of sunny brunches with 

overflowing mimosas and days spent doing activities...but with my own little guy, I’m dreaming of sleeping 

in an hour (past 7...if I’m lucky!), breakfast made by someone other than me, and no dishes for 24 hours 

(including bottles!). Every birthday and special occasion was marked by a morning cinnamon roll, and 

this year, I’m hoping that the tradition continues with a sweet, bready Cinnamon Roll Challah, the perfect 

Saturday or Sunday morning bake! 

MAKES 1 LARGE CHALLAH 

INGREDIENTS 

• 1, 7g package instant yeast 

• 1 tbsp. granulated sugar 

• 1 cup lukewarm water 

• 1 large egg 

• 2 egg yolk, whites reserved for 

brushing on top 

• cup maple syrup 

• cup vegetable oil 

• 1 tbsp. vanilla extract 

• 1 tsp. kosher salt 

• 4 – 5 cups all-purpose flour 

• 2 tbsp. coarse sanding sugar, 

to sprinkle before baking 

Filling 

• cup unsalted butter, softened 

• cup brown sugar 

• 2 tbsp. tahini 

• 1 tbsp. cinnamon 

Egg wash 

• Reserved egg whites 

• Coarse sugar 

PREPARATION 

1. Combine yeast, sugar, and water in a bowl of a stand mixer. Let sit for 

5 – 10 minutes, or until the yeast starts to foam or “bloom.” If the yeast 

does not bloom, you may need to get fresher yeast. 

2. Add the egg, egg yolks, maple syrup, oil, vanilla extract and salt, mixing 

on low to combine. Replace the paddle for the dough hook. 

3. Add flour, one cup at a time, mix on low using the dough hook. Knead the 

dough until smooth and no longer sticky, adding more flour as needed. 

The dough should be smooth and slightly sticky. Transfer to a clean, 

oiled bowl. Cover with a clean, damp towel, and let rise until doubled in 

size, about 1 hour. 

4. Preheat the oven to 350F. Line a baking tray with parchment paper, or 

grease a 9-inch cast iron pan. 

5. Punch down dough to remove any air bubbles, and transfer to a floured 

surface. 

6. Cut into 6 even pieces. Roll each piece into a rope, approximately 

12 inches long. Cover with a damp cloth and let rest for 10 – 15 minutes. 

7. Meanwhile, make the filling: combine the butter, sugar, tahini, and 

cinnamon. 

8. Flatten the dough strands with your fingers, place a line of filling in the 

center, and pinch to seal. 

9. Braid the ropes into 2 braids of 3 strands each. Coil into a circle, and 

pinch together. 

10. Make the egg wash: whisk the egg white, and brush on the loaf. Top with 

coarse sugar. 

11. Bake in a cast iron pan or baking tray for 40 minutes, turning the tray 

halfway through and brushing with additional egg wash. 

12. Serve with optional cream cheese frosting. 


ADVICE 

ASK MARNIE 

by Marnie Macauley 

marniemacauley@gmail.com 

Call Me “Platinum” 

My dear San Diegans, 

Today, we deal with old people like 

me. I will attempt to be politically 

correct, although most of us are too 

old to care. I loathe “senior” and “old 

person.” So how about levels, like 

Platinum, as in “I’m a Platinum! You, 

millennial, you’re an Aluminum.” After 

Platinum comes “You can eat an entire 

Sara Lee and lose weight!” Now on to 

today’s subjects of vital importance: sex 

and appearance. 

Feature: uh-oh naturel — seniors 

and sexuality. 

The other night on one of the cable 

channels, I heard the moderator ask the 

panel a question. He wanted to know if 

all this Viagra might not be anti-nature. 

I presume he was wondering whether 

Mother Nature may have had a method 

to her madness when she doomed 

some September males to the land of 

limpi-osis. Put delicately, perhaps the 

“soft” approach is “Mother’s” way of 

preventing 75-year-olds from losing a 

lung (or perhaps a prostate) should they 

attempt to hoist a baby sling onto their 

osteoarthritic spines. What a fascinating 

question! Indeed, I had a friend who 

was a social worker in a home for the 

aged. The facility was divided into a 

housing area and a hospital area. She 

recommended that a patient who had 

turned 105 be moved to the hospital 

for closer attention, given her age. 

Her request was denied. The official 

response . . . ? “We don’t want to start a 

dangerous precedent.” Hey, you let one 


Instead of sheep, 

I dreamt of 

operations to 

tighten, lop and 

plump up the 

right places. 

105-year-old in, and I am telling you, 

floodgates! Open that creaky door, and 

three bazillion centenarians will be 

lobbing Fasteeth at every nursing home 

in America. 

And now we wish to give seniors 

back their. . . sexuality? Do you realize 

what this unnatural act would lead 

to? A pediatric division of Medicare! 

Condom distribution at elder hostels! 

Warning labels on the correct use of 

Porcelana! Baby intercoms equipped 

with Clappers! For obviously, such an 

inane idea would lead to a massive world 

population explosion caused by the 

Silver Set leaping and creaking upon one 

another like juiced-up bullfrogs. Hey, 

we all know how irresponsible we AARP 

members are. Why, we’ll be depositing 

our bounty all over Miami Beach, 

Scottsdale and San Diego...then hopping 

a Harley in case of “accident.” Jumping 

Geriatrics! Think of all the poor babes 

that shall be deposited in the Depends 

bin behind all those Shady Rest homes. 

(Not deliberately of course, we geezers 

just forgot where we left them.) 

And what about that balance thing? 

Do you have any idea what would 

happen to the economy of senior areas 

if the entire population of Golden Vista 

suddenly reveled in early bird specials 

that didn’t involve a 2 p.m. pot roast and 

lasagna buffet for $3.99? (Although, you 

could shoot my relatives with enough 

Viagra to put a permanent crease in their 

polyester Bermudas, and they wouldn’t 

miss the salad bar if Miss Senior Nude 

America were lying in the pickled beets.) 

I tell you, we’ve got to nip this stuff in 

the walker stage. I mean, if we continue 

to allow science to overtake us, we 

seniors might actually throw the whole 

carbon footprint thing out of whack. 

Horrors! We could live longer through 

the magic of moving in lustful joy, but is 

this anti-nature? Oh dear! Now, I’ll be 

forced to stay up past nine. Along with 

contemplating world hunger, peace in 

the Middle East, and a Covid 2024 spritz 

from terrorists, I must now add what is 

“natural” to my list of “good excuses for 

devouring an entire carton of Chunky 

Monkey at 2 a.m. since the world is going 

to Hades in a Keto fat burner handbasket 

anyway.” 

Of course, I could . . . adjust my 

list. Give Platinums getting it on and 

causing a world hunger problem due 

consideration and assign it the priority it

Advice continued 

deserves: somewhere between contemplating the extinction 

of the beefalo and the mystery of white chocolate. 

How old do I look? No really, it’s OK! Just tell me. 

It started when people started sending me truly scary forms 

like offers for burial insurance and coupons for adult diapers. 

Worse, the other day, I got an ad for cremation including 

a special luncheon held (I swear) at a barbecue restaurant. 

So, I started reading those mags that say look in a mirror 

and applaud yourself naked. I stopped at the clapping part 

and ordered an applause machine on eBay. It laughed. I was 

now unofficially “an old lady.” Or was I? I was a widow. Would 

my aging looks stop guys from looking? I started asking 

strangers, “So tell me, you’re a butcher (they know body 

parts), how old do I look? No, really, it’s OK.” Forget beauty. 

Let’s say I wasn’t winning any Miss Congeniality awards. 

“I don’t know, lady. You want the liver from the chicken?” 

Could I blame him? It’s one of those “Am I getting fatter?” 

loser questions. Who, including me, doesn’t hate hearing 

“How old do I look? No really. It’s OK.” Here’s the results: 

1. Some people got my right age within a year! No good. 

I told that cashier at K-Mart, “May you be forever 

banned from dealing with the public! Afraid I might’ve 

overreacted, I kindly suggested she visit a retina 

specialist. 

2. Some people pegged me as less than five years younger. 

I negotiated with the determination of a Middle Eastern 

potentate. “In the dark, if my hair didn’t resemble 

fusilli, or I actually used my exercise bike for more than 

a clothes rack, would I look 10 years younger?” They 

were so worn down from my heel in their backs that they 

C 

finally admitted Brooklynn, Prince and I could’ve worn 

M 

twin Pampers (though they may have meant for different 

Y 

reasons). Now was that so difficult? 

3. Some people bored me with the aphorism, “Age is just a 

number.” I picked up my hand and looked at it and said, 

“Right. And so is 100.” If they made me feel shallower 

than I already did, I’d add, “It’s nice that you can make 

lemonade from lemons because everything happens for 

a reason and it’s all good.” 

4. Some people asked, “Well, how old do you want to look? 

I’d simply hug the offender and say, “When it comes to 

aging, it’s nice going through it with you.” 

5. Some people said, “You look great for your age!” Whoa! 

Even if they know my age, that was like saying, “For a fat 

person, you actually look healthy.” For such a question 

there’s only one good answer, “Marn, no one at any age 

ever looked or could look younger than you do.” 

CM 

MY 

CY 

CMY 

K 

But there were still those hands. And then the bags, 

wrinkles and assorted things hanging from me that I could 

see even without my 40 pairs of 350 diopter glasses. Instead 

of sheep, I dreamt of operations to tighten, lop and plump up 

the right places. Then, I accidentally turned on one of those 

“reality” shows about billion-dollar housewives. Should you 

ever become a self-absorbed harpy over a little age, this stuff 

is the ultimate intervention. By the first commercial, I tossed 

the mirrors and taped my mouth shut in shame. It wasn’t 

pretty. With lips the size of melons, surprised eyebrows (“Why 

am I on the top of her head?”), hair that resembled yellow 

shredded wheat, and chipmunk cheeks, they looked older. And 

I’m worried that I might be too old to date? So, too old for eye 

candy and too young for a respirator, I got out there and joined 

the Land of the Aging Kicking. And some men even looked. 

I’ll never again ask, “How old do I look?” Mama Nature gave 

us these wrinkles, age spots and veins for a reason. I’ve decided 

they mean we’ve lived, sometimes despite impossible odds. 

And those hands? Platinum guys know they show our 

journey and just how hard we’ve tried. A 

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THE 

JEWISH 

2022 - 23 Official Jewish Directory 

of Southern California 

san diego 

orange county 

palm springs 

411 


“The City without 

Jews” 

Movie screening and live music by Alicia Svigals and 

Donald Sosin 

Wednesday, May 22 , 6:30 – 8.30 p.m. PT 

House of Pacific 

Relations – Hall 

of Nations 

2191 Pan 

American W Rd, 

San Diego, CA 

92101 

https://yiddishlandcalifornia.org/the-city-without-jews/ 



Featuring 

Mandy Patinkin 

In Concert: 

Being Alive 

June 4th @ 7:30pm 

Balboa Theatre, San Diego 

THE 31ST ANNUAL LIPINSKY FAMILY 

May 30th – June 30th, 2024 

For tickets and event details, please 

visit SDJFest.org or scan this code. 

Nissim Black 

May 30 @ 7:30 pm 

Inspiring American-Israeli Rapper/ 

Singer whose music spans genres. 

Ken Jewish Community Presents 

La Obra (In Spanish) 

June 10 @ 7:30pm & June 13 @ 9pm 

An original story showcasing the 

unique dynamics of a company putting 

on a show. 

15th Annual Women of Valor 

June 18 @ 7:30pm & June 23 @ 2pm 

Honoring Sara Brown, Debbie 

Kornberg, Vered Libstein, Rabbi 

Devorah Marcus, Bev Pamensky, and 

Dr. Barbara Parker. 

Italian Jews Through the 

Generations 

June 20 @ 6:00pm 

An evening of food, entertainment, and 

learning exploring the Italian Jewish 

experience. 

Comedy for Koby 

June 24 @ 7:30pm 

A hilarious evening of comedy 

benefiting the Koby Mandell 

Foundation. 

“Refuah” –Music and 

Performances of Healing 

June 25 @ 7:30pm 

A community wide musical concert 

that captures the many aspects of 

refuah (healing). 

25th Annual Klezmer Summit: From 

Shtetl to Shuk 

June 27 @ 7:30pm 

The 23rd celebration of Jewish music 

delves into the intricate tapestry of 

klezmer music. 

Regenerate! 

An Eco-Performance Fest 

June 30 at 5:00pm 

A night of original eco-theater, dance, 

and music by brilliant, forward-thinking 

artists.

San Diego Jewish Journal

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