Women who have Sex with Women:2024 Sex and Sexuality Calendar

WISDOM
“There is no
one-size-fits-all
way to experience pleasure...”
One thing that I heard in the earlier years of my sexual
journey is that lubricants are only for older women or
people with sexual problems. I consistently heard from my
peers that they didn’t need lube because they naturally
produced what was needed to enjoy sex; some peers
didn’t even know lube existed! Although my health classes
informed me of what it was and how it could be of use,
I was never taught that there were different kinds of
lubricants and various factors to consider when choosing
them. I would feel a little ashamed when I wanted to
use lube during intimacy. This stigma was the catalyst
to painful experiences that I kept quiet about. As I have
gotten older and more confident in myself as a sexual
being, I don’t hold that shame or self-consciousness when
it comes to advocating for my own pleasure. I have also
been properly informed on how helpful lube is and all
of the different types at my disposal. I wish that I didn’t
have to experience pain because of such a petty stigma.
There is no one-size-fits-all way to experience pleasure and
there is so much information out there that normalizes a
plethora of experiences. People deserve to have thorough
knowledge and confidence while embarking on their
sexual journeys. Using lube is completely normal, it can
make sex more pleasurable as well as be a great tool for
safe sex practices. For example, using lube with condoms
increases their effectiveness by decreasing the chance of
breaking or slipping off. Lube opens up the possibilities of
pleasure and safety for all parties involved. Use Lube!