The Courage of Children: Boston and Beyond XXXIII
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SYLVIA EVERSON<br />
KAITLYN CURRY, TEACHER<br />
South Shore Charter Public School, Norwell, MA<br />
I found out when I was twelve. It was terrifying. <strong>The</strong> gates <strong>of</strong> my mind were<br />
opened. All the emotions came at me all at once. I was confused. I was scared.<br />
How could I be gay? A ton <strong>of</strong> bricks hit me as my brain was flooded with so<br />
many questions <strong>and</strong> so few answers. In the family I’ve grown up in, it was a<br />
subject that was never talked about. Not avoided—just not talked about. In the<br />
small town that I have lived in my whole life, there was plenty <strong>of</strong> representation<br />
<strong>and</strong> obvious support, but I never thought it was made to include me, too.<br />
During all this time, I had silly little crushes on boys, until I didn’t. <strong>The</strong><br />
pronouns <strong>of</strong> the people I liked started changing from “he” to “she.” Sitting in<br />
the middle <strong>of</strong> math class, my body was there, but my mind was not. <strong>The</strong>re was<br />
no way I could focus on learning about reciprocals when I had just figured<br />
something out that would forever alter my future.<br />
<strong>Courage</strong>. What is it? How does it work? How is it shown? How do I show it? In<br />
my case, courage came in the form <strong>of</strong> not only telling other people, but coming<br />
to terms with it with myself. I knew that there would be people who would not<br />
accept me. That brought me so much anxiety, <strong>and</strong> stress, <strong>and</strong> more anxiety.<br />
I didn’t know what to do. I felt as if I owed it to people to tell them that I was<br />
gay. As if I would be a fake, dishonest, bad person if people were not made<br />
aware. That led me into a spiral <strong>of</strong> overthinking. <strong>The</strong>n, a week later, I was on<br />
a call with my best friend. <strong>The</strong> subject had w<strong>and</strong>ered up in our conversation.<br />
I wanted to tell her that I was gay. I wanted to come out. After all, she was my<br />
best friend. She would support me. Right? My overthinking started again, <strong>and</strong><br />
that brought along an anxiety attack. My breathing became more <strong>and</strong> more<br />
shallow until it became difficult to breathe at all. My heart would not slow<br />
down. It felt like someone was taking drumsticks <strong>and</strong> banging on my heart.<br />
<strong>The</strong> room got smaller <strong>and</strong> smaller. I was stuck. I felt as if I could not think<br />
clearly. I looked around <strong>and</strong> found my fidget toys. I picked one up <strong>and</strong> started<br />
moving it around in my h<strong>and</strong>s <strong>and</strong> between my fingers. I grabbed my water<br />
<strong>and</strong> took a sip. Even though it was nearly painful, I tried my hardest to focus on<br />
my breathing. Deep <strong>and</strong> long, my breaths became more gentle. I started feeling<br />
more calm. I drank a little more water <strong>and</strong> continued to use my fidgets. After a<br />
few minutes, my heartbeats were slower <strong>and</strong> more consistent, my breathing was<br />
stable, <strong>and</strong> I was thinking clearly. I mustered up all the courage <strong>and</strong> bravery<br />
I possibly could, <strong>and</strong> I told her. It took a lot <strong>of</strong> mental preparation <strong>and</strong> double<br />
“THE MEDIA,<br />
POLITICIANS, AND<br />
EVEN SOME PEOPLE<br />
WE PERSONALLY KNOW<br />
HAVE TOLD US AS A<br />
COMMUNITY THAT<br />
BEING DIFFERENT IS<br />
WRONG. SO, LIVING AS<br />
MY TRUE SELF TAKES<br />
LOTS OF COURAGE<br />
EVERY DAY.”<br />
the amount <strong>of</strong> courage, but I did it. Afterwards, I felt so much better, as if the<br />
weight <strong>of</strong> the world had been lifted <strong>of</strong>f my shoulders. That is what courage feels<br />
like. I was so proud <strong>of</strong> myself. I had come out <strong>of</strong> the closet.<br />
Fast forward two more years. I am now fourteen years old, <strong>and</strong> I am out to the<br />
people who matter in my life. I realized that being different didn’t mean being<br />
wrong. I am still showing the same kind <strong>of</strong> courage in my day-to-day life now<br />
as I was two years ago. Not only does that include the never-ending process <strong>of</strong><br />
constantly coming out to new people, but also just existing as a queer person.<br />
In the kind <strong>of</strong> world I am growing up in, being included in the LGTBQIA+<br />
community, I show persistent courage by being my true self. This is for many<br />
reasons. One <strong>of</strong> the most apparent reasons is the constant homophobia that<br />
surrounds our society. <strong>The</strong> media, politicians, <strong>and</strong> even some people we<br />
personally know have told us as a community that being different is wrong.<br />
So, living as my true self takes lots <strong>of</strong> courage every day. However, even though<br />
I still live with anxiety, I’ve learned how to h<strong>and</strong>le it better. I know how to<br />
recognize when I need a break <strong>and</strong> have developed healthy coping<br />
mechanisms. I now know that utilizing fidgets, drinking lots <strong>of</strong> water, <strong>and</strong><br />
maintaining a social life helps me so much. I show courage not only by<br />
expressing my true self, but also by being a mentor to younger people. To me,<br />
courage is not just being brave in one moment, but rather living in a way that<br />
leads to better outcomes, no matter how scary the processes to get there are.<br />
I can be courageous now by being that role model I wish that I had as a<br />
younger queer person. I am a courageous person.<br />
THE COURAGE OF CHILDREN: BOSTON AND BEYOND<br />
VOLUME <strong>XXXIII</strong><br />
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