The Brief Therapy Toolkit Ebook V9
Welcome to the "Brief Therapy Toolkit" eBook. This book is crafted as a concise reference guide, complementing my training course under the same title. My goal is to distill the powerful principles of solution-focused brief therapy and tailor them specifically for you, the youth worker. By deconstructing the methodology, we aim to reconstruct it in a manner that transitions seamlessly from the therapy room to your youth club, school, or children's home. As a youth worker, you are often the first point of contact in times of crisis. Armed with these tools, you will gain confidence in your approach and be better equipped to make a difference. Welcome to the "Brief Therapy Toolkit" eBook. This book is crafted as a concise reference guide, complementing my training course under the same title. My goal is to distill the powerful principles of solution-focused brief therapy and tailor them specifically for you, the youth worker. By deconstructing the methodology, we aim to reconstruct it in a manner that transitions seamlessly from the therapy room to your youth club, school, or children's home. As a youth worker, you are often the first point of contact in times of crisis. Armed with these tools, you will gain confidence in your approach and be better equipped to make a difference.
how the question says “the reason we are here.” This is vital when speaking to families in particular because we are making no assumptions about why they are here, what the problem is, or even who is to blame. Each client on hearing that can determine that for himself or herself and thus no judgments are being made. I have been asked on numerous occasions why clients don’t just say, well, my mum would be alive, or I would have won the pools. Well, there are ways of dealing with this, which I will go into later, but I can sincerely tell you that in all the thousands of cases I have dealt with, that has never happened once. This is confirmed when speaking to other practitioners. Quite simply, I think the client is aware of the reason they are in the room and so apply themselves accordingly. It’s also interesting how we suggest that this miracle happens without the client’s knowledge. It’s only as they go through their day that they realize that the problem has gone away. You will often have to remind them that this is a miracle day as they tend to drift back to the problem with “yeah, but that would not happen because etc.” It’s important to add as many senses to this imaginary day as possible. What colors, smells, and feelings can you see or feel? What would your mother, teacher, boss be saying to you? What would
they think? We will discuss questioning later, but it’s vital to add as much color, smell, and feeling to that day as possible. During the training, you’ll have heard the story of me asking the miracle question to a father who went into great depth about this miracle morning. I could see his daughter and wife’s shock at how vividly and passionately he described that day. He described the simplest of things like his daughter saying good morning and giving him a kiss before going to school, etc. It was very powerful and emotional because these were the simple things he wanted for his family. This is the art of future talk and imagining a future without the problem. With enough probing and questions, we can create a picture of the future. Once we have this day, we can use the tools of the model in a number of ways. We use this day as a barometer of perfection if you like, say a ten out of ten day. By doing this, you can help them get the problem into perspective. For example, you may say, “If this day is a ten, what is the nearest you have been to that recently? Also, what number would you have to be at before you felt you did not need to come here anymore?” If they were recently a three and they would be happy to part your company with a seven, then without acknowledging it, you have halved the
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how the question says “the reason we are here.” This is vital<br />
when speaking to families in particular because we are<br />
making no assumptions about why they are here, what the<br />
problem is, or even who is to blame. Each client on hearing<br />
that can determine that for himself or herself and thus no<br />
judgments are being made. I have been asked on numerous<br />
occasions why clients don’t just say, well, my mum would<br />
be alive, or I would have won the pools. Well, there are<br />
ways of dealing with this, which I will go into later, but I can<br />
sincerely tell you that in all the thousands of cases I have<br />
dealt with, that has never happened once. This is<br />
confirmed when speaking to other practitioners. Quite<br />
simply, I think the client is aware of the reason they are in<br />
the room and so apply themselves accordingly. It’s also<br />
interesting how we suggest that this miracle happens<br />
without the client’s knowledge. It’s only as they go through<br />
their day that they realize that the problem has gone away.<br />
You will often have to remind them that this is a miracle<br />
day as they tend to drift back to the problem with “yeah,<br />
but that would not happen because etc.” It’s important to<br />
add as many senses to this imaginary day as possible. What<br />
colors, smells, and feelings can you see or feel? What would<br />
your mother, teacher, boss be saying to you? What would
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