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Auggie’s death. Until that point, Bob had fallen<br />
into situational depression.<br />
“We did our best to take care of ourselves.<br />
We saw therapists, but with it being COVID,<br />
none of it was in person, so we didn’t do support<br />
groups,” Bob said. “One therapist, a cognitive<br />
psychologist, said the brain slows down<br />
when you’re in depression. It literally stops<br />
working as well. That happened to me. I felt<br />
like a droid. Just doing one movement after<br />
the other.”<br />
By the time summer came, Bob and his<br />
wife, April, spent about three and a half weeks<br />
in Bob’s hometown of Minot, ND, for April to<br />
direct summer theatre at Bob’s undergraduate<br />
alma mater, Minot State University.<br />
“I had a lot of time on my hands,” Bob said.<br />
“I swam laps; I went to coffee shops. While I<br />
was in a coffee shop, I read a wonderful novel<br />
called ‘Hamnet’ by <strong>Mag</strong>gie O’Farrell. It was the<br />
first book I was able to read. It makes the case<br />
that Shakespeare had a son named Hamnet,<br />
but in Elizabethan spelling it would have been<br />
Hamlet and that Shakespeare wrote his greatest<br />
tragedy trying to replicate the personality<br />
of his son. When I finished, the idea of writing<br />
an homage analogy to Auggie hit me.”<br />
As a person always interested in story ideas,<br />
he carries journals with him.<br />
“I opened up a journal and thought of three<br />
sections, and I jotted down eight, nine, 10 onesentence<br />
vignettes in each,” he said.<br />
Then he left the material alone until that<br />
fall.<br />
“It was serendipitous that I had a sabbatical<br />
planned for that fall even before Auggie died,”<br />
Bob said, noting his work in Nassau, Bahamas,<br />
was reduced due to COVID-19 restrictions in<br />
place in the Caribbean nation. “I had to have<br />
A father’s reflection on love and<br />
grief in the wake of suicide<br />
SPRING 20<strong>24</strong> | <strong>OC</strong> MAGAZINE 7