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new people, but also to new places and

events. So don’t mistake your child’s

caution in new situations for an inability

to relate to others. He’s recoiling

from novelty or overstimulation, not from

human contact. As we saw in the last

chapter, introversion-extroversion

levels are not correlated with either

agreeableness or the enjoyment of intimacy.

Introverts are just as likely as

the next kid to seek others’ company,

though often in smaller doses.

The key is to expose your child

gradually to new situations and

people—taking care to respect his limits,

even when they seem extreme. This

produces more-confident kids than

either overprotection or pushing too

hard. Let him know that his feelings are

normal and natural, but also that

there’s nothing to be afraid of: “I know

it can feel funny to play with someone

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