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But even parents who still have work
to do on their own self-esteem can be
enormously helpful to their kids, according
to Miller. Advice from a parent
who appreciates how a child feels is inherently
validating. If your son is
nervous on the first day of school, it
helps to tell him that you felt the same
way when you started school and still
do sometimes at work, but that it gets
easier with time. Even if he doesn’t believe
you, you’ll signal that you understand
and accept him.
You can also use your empathy to
help you judge when to encourage him
to face his fears, and when this would
be too overwhelming. For example,
Sarah might know that singing in front
of the classroom really is too big a step
to ask Ava to take all at once. But she
might also sense that singing in private
with a small and simpatico group, or
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