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“dispositional opposite.” Thorne’s teamtaped the conversations and asked theparticipants to listen to a playbacktape.This process revealed some surprisingfindings. The introverts and extrovertsparticipated about equally, giving thelie to the idea that introverts alwaystalk less. But the introvert pairs tendedto focus on one or two serious subjectsof conversation, while the extrovertpairs chose lighter-hearted and widerrangingtopics. Often the introverts discussedproblems or conflicts in theirlives: school, work, friendships, and soon. Perhaps because of this fondness for“problem talk,” they tended to adoptthe role of adviser, taking turns counselingeach other on the problem athand. The extroverts, by contrast, weremore likely to offer casual informationabout themselves that established676/929
commonality with the other person:You have a new dog? That’s great. Afriend of mine has an amazing tank ofsaltwater fish!But the most interesting part ofThorne’s experiment was how much thetwo types appreciated each other. Introvertstalking to extroverts chose cheeriertopics, reported making conversationmore easily, and described conversingwith extroverts as a “breath of freshair.” In contrast, the extroverts felt thatthey could relax more with introvertpartners and were freer to confide theirproblems. They didn’t feel pressure tobe falsely upbeat.These are useful pieces of social information.Introverts and extrovertssometimes feel mutually put off, butThorne’s research suggests how mucheach has to offer the other. Extrovertsneed to know that introverts—who677/929
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commonality with the other person:
You have a new dog? That’s great. A
friend of mine has an amazing tank of
saltwater fish!
But the most interesting part of
Thorne’s experiment was how much the
two types appreciated each other. Introverts
talking to extroverts chose cheerier
topics, reported making conversation
more easily, and described conversing
with extroverts as a “breath of fresh
air.” In contrast, the extroverts felt that
they could relax more with introvert
partners and were freer to confide their
problems. They didn’t feel pressure to
be falsely upbeat.
These are useful pieces of social information.
Introverts and extroverts
sometimes feel mutually put off, but
Thorne’s research suggests how much
each has to offer the other. Extroverts
need to know that introverts—who
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