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“dispositional opposite.” Thorne’s teamtaped the conversations and asked theparticipants to listen to a playbacktape.This process revealed some surprisingfindings. The introverts and extrovertsparticipated about equally, giving thelie to the idea that introverts alwaystalk less. But the introvert pairs tendedto focus on one or two serious subjectsof conversation, while the extrovertpairs chose lighter-hearted and widerrangingtopics. Often the introverts discussedproblems or conflicts in theirlives: school, work, friendships, and soon. Perhaps because of this fondness for“problem talk,” they tended to adoptthe role of adviser, taking turns counselingeach other on the problem athand. The extroverts, by contrast, weremore likely to offer casual informationabout themselves that established676/929

commonality with the other person:You have a new dog? That’s great. Afriend of mine has an amazing tank ofsaltwater fish!But the most interesting part ofThorne’s experiment was how much thetwo types appreciated each other. Introvertstalking to extroverts chose cheeriertopics, reported making conversationmore easily, and described conversingwith extroverts as a “breath of freshair.” In contrast, the extroverts felt thatthey could relax more with introvertpartners and were freer to confide theirproblems. They didn’t feel pressure tobe falsely upbeat.These are useful pieces of social information.Introverts and extrovertssometimes feel mutually put off, butThorne’s research suggests how mucheach has to offer the other. Extrovertsneed to know that introverts—who677/929

“dispositional opposite.” Thorne’s team

taped the conversations and asked the

participants to listen to a playback

tape.

This process revealed some surprising

findings. The introverts and extroverts

participated about equally, giving the

lie to the idea that introverts always

talk less. But the introvert pairs tended

to focus on one or two serious subjects

of conversation, while the extrovert

pairs chose lighter-hearted and widerranging

topics. Often the introverts discussed

problems or conflicts in their

lives: school, work, friendships, and so

on. Perhaps because of this fondness for

“problem talk,” they tended to adopt

the role of adviser, taking turns counseling

each other on the problem at

hand. The extroverts, by contrast, were

more likely to offer casual information

about themselves that established

676/929

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