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with which she imbues such moments
is natural to her. That’s her
way of saying, Gee, when you get a
chance I’d appreciate it if you could
just tidy up the kitchen a little more. If
she did say it that way to me, I
would say, I’d be happy to, and I’m
sorry that I didn’t do it sooner. But because
she comes at me with that
two-hundred-mile-per-hour freighttrain
energy, I want to bridle and
say, Too bad. The reason I don’t is
because we’ve been married for
twenty-five years, and I’ve come to
understand that Jennifer didn’t put
me in a life-threatening situation
when she spoke that way.
So what’s John’s secret for relating to
his forceful wife? He lets her know that
her words were unacceptable, but he
also tries to listen to their meaning. “I