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that it’s OK to have transgressed. This

will make it easier for her not to feel

hurt—and to fight back—when Greg’s

claims are unjustified.

Fight back? But Emily hates fighting.

That’s OK. She needs to become more

comfortable with the sound of her own

hiss. Introverts may be hesitant to

cause disharmony, but, like the passive

snake, they should be equally worried

about encouraging vitriol from their

partners. And fighting back may not invite

retaliation, as Emily fears; instead

it may encourage Greg to back off. She

need not put on a huge display. Often,

a firm “that’s not OK with me” will do.

Every once in a while, Emily might

also want to step outside her usual

comfort zone and let her own anger fly.

Remember, for Greg, heat means connection.

In the same way that the extroverted

players in the football game

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