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horrible, on some level she processes
his bite to mean that she’s terribly
guilty—of something, anything, who
knows what? Emily’s guilt feels so intolerable
that she tends to deny the
validity of all of Greg’s claims—the legitimate
ones along with those exaggerated
by anger. This, of course, leads to
a vicious cycle in which she shuts down
her natural empathy and Greg feels
unheard.
So Emily needs to accept that it’s OK
to be in the wrong. At first she may
have trouble puzzling out when she is
and when she isn’t; the fact that Greg
expresses his grievances with such passion
makes it hard to sort this out. But
Emily must try not to get dragged into
this morass. When Greg makes legitimate
points, she should acknowledge
them, not only to be a good partner to
her husband, but also to teach herself
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