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left Michelle feeling lonely.” He attributeshis own style to the demands ofwriting and to having been raisedmostly as an only child, and then saysthat he and Michelle have learned overthe years to meet each other’s needs,and to see them as legitimate.648/929It can also be hard for introverts andextroverts to understand each other’sways of resolving differences. One ofmy clients was an immaculately dressedlawyer named Celia. Celia wanted a divorce,but dreaded letting her husbandknow. She had good reasons for her decisionbut anticipated that he wouldbeg her to stay and that she wouldcrumple with guilt. Above all, Celia
wanted to deliver her newscompassionately.We decided to role-play their discussion,with me acting as her husband.“I want to end this marriage,” saidCelia. “I mean it this time.”“I’ve been doing everything I can tohold things together,” I pleaded. “Howcan you do this to me?”Celia thought for a minute.“I’ve spent a lot of time thinking thisthrough, and I believe this is the rightdecision,” she replied in a woodenvoice.“What can I do to change yourmind?” I asked.“Nothing,” said Celia flatly.Feeling for a minute what her husbandwould feel, I was dumbstruck. Shewas so rote, so dispassionate. She wasabout to divorce me—me, her husbandof eleven years! Didn’t she care?649/929
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wanted to deliver her news
compassionately.
We decided to role-play their discussion,
with me acting as her husband.
“I want to end this marriage,” said
Celia. “I mean it this time.”
“I’ve been doing everything I can to
hold things together,” I pleaded. “How
can you do this to me?”
Celia thought for a minute.
“I’ve spent a lot of time thinking this
through, and I believe this is the right
decision,” she replied in a wooden
voice.
“What can I do to change your
mind?” I asked.
“Nothing,” said Celia flatly.
Feeling for a minute what her husband
would feel, I was dumbstruck. She
was so rote, so dispassionate. She was
about to divorce me—me, her husband
of eleven years! Didn’t she care?
649/929
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