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But the person with whom you can
best strike a Free Trait Agreement—after
overcoming his or her resistance—is
yourself.
Let’s say you’re single. You dislike
the bar scene, but you crave intimacy,
and you want to be in a long-term relationship
in which you can share cozy
evenings and long conversations with
your partner and a small circle of
friends. In order to achieve this goal,
you make an agreement with yourself
that you will push yourself to go to social
events, because only in this way
can you hope to meet a mate and reduce
the number of gatherings you attend
over the long term. But while you
pursue this goal, you will attend only as
many events as you can comfortably
stand. You decide in advance what that
amount is—once a week, once a month,
once a quarter. And once you’ve met
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