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exchange for being ourselves the rest of

the time. It’s a Free Trait Agreement

when a wife who wants to go out every

Saturday night and a husband who

wants to relax by the fire work out a

schedule: half the time we’ll go out, and

half the time we’ll stay home. It’s a Free

Trait Agreement when you attend your

extroverted best friend’s wedding

shower, engagement celebration, and

bachelorette party, but she understands

when you skip out on the three days’

worth of group activities leading up to

the wedding itself.

It’s often possible to negotiate Free

Trait Agreements with friends and lovers,

whom you want to please and who

love your true, in-character self. Your

work life is a little trickier, since most

businesses still don’t think in these

terms. For now, you may have to proceed

indirectly. Career counselor Shoya

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