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reading, strategizing, writing, and researching?Will I have a private workspaceor be subject to the constant demandsof an open office plan? If the jobdoesn’t give me enough restorativeniches, will I have enough free time onevenings and weekends to grant themto myself?Extroverts will want to look for restorativeniches, too. Does the job involvetalking, traveling, and meetingnew people? Is the office space stimulatingenough? If the job isn’t a perfectfit, are the hours flexible enough that Ican blow off steam after work? Thinkthrough the job description carefully.One highly extroverted woman I interviewedwas excited about a position asthe “community organizer” for a parentingwebsite, until she realized thatshe’d be sitting by herself behind acomputer every day from nine to five.622/929
Sometimes people find restorativeniches in professions where you’d leastexpect them. One of my former colleaguesis a trial lawyer who spendsmost of her time in splendid solitude,researching and writing legal briefs. Becausemost of her cases settle, she goesto court rarely enough that she doesn’tmind exercising her pseudo-extroversionskills when she has to. An introvertedadministrative assistant I interviewedparlayed her office experienceinto a work-from-home Internet businessthat serves as a clearinghouse andcoaching service for “virtual assistants.”And in the next chapter we’ll meet a superstarsalesman who broke his company’ssales records year after year byinsisting on staying true to his introvertedself. All three of these people havetaken decidedly extroverted fields andreinvented them in their own image, so623/929
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Sometimes people find restorative
niches in professions where you’d least
expect them. One of my former colleagues
is a trial lawyer who spends
most of her time in splendid solitude,
researching and writing legal briefs. Because
most of her cases settle, she goes
to court rarely enough that she doesn’t
mind exercising her pseudo-extroversion
skills when she has to. An introverted
administrative assistant I interviewed
parlayed her office experience
into a work-from-home Internet business
that serves as a clearinghouse and
coaching service for “virtual assistants.”
And in the next chapter we’ll meet a superstar
salesman who broke his company’s
sales records year after year by
insisting on staying true to his introverted
self. All three of these people have
taken decidedly extroverted fields and
reinvented them in their own image, so
623/929
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