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you want to return to your true self. Itcan be a physical place, like the pathbeside the Richelieu River, or a temporalone, like the quiet breaks you planbetween sales calls. It can mean cancelingyour social plans on the weekendbefore a big meeting at work, practicingyoga or meditation, or choosing e-mail over an in-person meeting. (EvenVictorian ladies, whose job effectivelywas to be available to friends and family,were expected to withdraw for arest each afternoon.)You choose a restorative niche whenyou close the door to your private office(if you’re lucky enough to haveone) in between meetings. You caneven create a restorative niche during ameeting, by carefully selecting whereyou sit, and when and how you participate.In his memoir In an UncertainWorld, Robert Rubin, the treasury620/929
secretary under President Clinton, describeshow he “always liked to beaway from the center, whether in theOval Office or the chief of staff’s office,where my regular seat became the footof the table. That little bit of physicaldistance felt more comfortable to me,and let me read the room and commentfrom a perspective ever so slightly removed.I didn’t worry about beingoverlooked. No matter how far awayyou were sitting or standing, you couldalways just say, ‘Mr. President, I thinkthis, that, or the other.’ ”We would all be better off if, beforeaccepting a new job, we evaluated thepresence or absence of restorativeniches as carefully as we consider thefamily leave policy or health insuranceplans. Introverts should ask themselves:Will this job allow me to spend time onin-character activities like, for example,621/929
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you want to return to your true self. It
can be a physical place, like the path
beside the Richelieu River, or a temporal
one, like the quiet breaks you plan
between sales calls. It can mean canceling
your social plans on the weekend
before a big meeting at work, practicing
yoga or meditation, or choosing e-
mail over an in-person meeting. (Even
Victorian ladies, whose job effectively
was to be available to friends and family,
were expected to withdraw for a
rest each afternoon.)
You choose a restorative niche when
you close the door to your private office
(if you’re lucky enough to have
one) in between meetings. You can
even create a restorative niche during a
meeting, by carefully selecting where
you sit, and when and how you participate.
In his memoir In an Uncertain
World, Robert Rubin, the treasury
620/929