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It’s because of relationship honoring,

for example, that social anxiety disorder

in Japan, known as taijin kyofusho,

takes the form not of excessive

worry about embarrassing oneself, as it

does in the United States, but of embarrassing

others. It’s because of

relationship-honoring that Tibetan

Buddhist monks find inner peace (and

off-the-chart happiness levels, as measured

in brain scans) by meditating

quietly on compassion. And it’s because

of relationship-honoring that Hiroshima

victims apologized to each other for

surviving. “Their civility has been well

documented but still stays the heart,”

writes the essayist Lydia Millet. “ ‘I am

sorry,’ said one of them, bowing, with

the skin of his arms peeling off in

strips. ‘I regret I am still alive while

your baby is not.’ ‘I am sorry,’ another

said earnestly, with lips swollen to the

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