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spectrum gives us the power to live ourlives well.If you’re a buzz-prone extrovert, thenyou’re lucky to enjoy lots of invigoratingemotions. Make the most of them:build things, inspire others, think big.Start a company, launch a website,build an elaborate tree house for yourkids. But also know that you’re operatingwith an Achilles’ heel that you mustlearn to protect. Train yourself to spendenergy on what’s truly meaningful toyou instead of on activities that looklike they’ll deliver a quick buzz ofmoney or status or excitement. Teachyourself to pause and reflect whenwarning signs appear that things aren’tworking out as you’d hoped. Learnfrom your mistakes. Seek out counterparts(from spouses to friends to businesspartners) who can help rein you inand compensate for your blind spots.490/929
And when it comes time to invest, orto do anything that involves a sage balanceof risk and reward, keep yourselfin check. One good way to do this is tomake sure that you’re not surroundingyourself with images of reward at thecrucial moment of decision. Kuhnenand Brian Knutson have found that menwho are shown erotic pictures just beforethey gamble take more risks thanthose shown neutral images like desksand chairs. This is because anticipatingrewards—any rewards, whether or notrelated to the subject at hand—excitesour dopamine-driven reward networksand makes us act more rashly. (Thismay be the single best argument yet forbanning pornography fromworkplaces.)And if you’re an introvert who’s relativelyimmune to the excesses of rewardsensitivity? At first blush, the491/929
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And when it comes time to invest, or
to do anything that involves a sage balance
of risk and reward, keep yourself
in check. One good way to do this is to
make sure that you’re not surrounding
yourself with images of reward at the
crucial moment of decision. Kuhnen
and Brian Knutson have found that men
who are shown erotic pictures just before
they gamble take more risks than
those shown neutral images like desks
and chairs. This is because anticipating
rewards—any rewards, whether or not
related to the subject at hand—excites
our dopamine-driven reward networks
and makes us act more rashly. (This
may be the single best argument yet for
banning pornography from
workplaces.)
And if you’re an introvert who’s relatively
immune to the excesses of reward
sensitivity? At first blush, the
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