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experiences and adult love lives, andsocial issues like health care and climatechange; there’s not much in theway of storytelling intended to entertain.People listen carefully to each otherand respond thoughtfully; Aron hasnoted that sensitive people tend tospeak softly because that’s how theyprefer others to communicate withthem.“In the rest of the world,” observesMichelle, a web designer who leans forwardas if bracing herself against animaginary blast of wind, “you make astatement and people may or may notdiscuss it. Here you make a statementand someone says, ‘What does thatmean?’ And if you ask that question ofsomeone else, they actually answer.”It’s not that there’s no small talk, observesStrickland, the leader of thegathering. It’s that it comes not at the440/929

beginning of conversations but at theend. In most settings, people use smalltalk as a way of relaxing into a new relationship,and only once they’re comfortabledo they connect more seriously.Sensitive people seem to do thereverse. They “enjoy small talk onlyafter they’ve gone deep,” says Strickland.“When sensitive people are in environmentsthat nurture their authenticity,they laugh and chitchat just asmuch as anyone else.”On the first night we drift to our bedrooms,housed in a dormlike building. Ibrace myself instinctively: now’s thetime when I’ll want to read or sleep,but will instead be called upon to havea pillow fight (summer camp) or play aloud and boring drinking game(college). But at Walker Creek Ranch,my roommate, a twenty-seven-year-oldsecretary with huge, doe-like eyes and441/929

experiences and adult love lives, and

social issues like health care and climate

change; there’s not much in the

way of storytelling intended to entertain.

People listen carefully to each other

and respond thoughtfully; Aron has

noted that sensitive people tend to

speak softly because that’s how they

prefer others to communicate with

them.

“In the rest of the world,” observes

Michelle, a web designer who leans forward

as if bracing herself against an

imaginary blast of wind, “you make a

statement and people may or may not

discuss it. Here you make a statement

and someone says, ‘What does that

mean?’ And if you ask that question of

someone else, they actually answer.”

It’s not that there’s no small talk, observes

Strickland, the leader of the

gathering. It’s that it comes not at the

440/929

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