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writes Keltner. Indeed, Keltner, who is
trained in reading people’s faces, has
studied photos of moral heroes like
Gandhi and the Dalai Lama and found
that they feature just such controlled
smiles and averted eyes.
In his book, Born to Be Good, Keltner
even says that if he had to choose his
mate by asking a single question at a
speed-dating event, the question he
would choose is: “What was your last
embarrassing experience?” Then he
would watch very carefully for lippresses,
blushing, and averted eyes.
“The elements of the embarrassment
are fleeting statements the individual
makes about his or her respect for the
judgment of others,” he writes. “Embarrassment
reveals how much the individual
cares about the rules that bind
us to one another.”
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