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very different from the well-meaningbut unhelpful advice that you shouldjust jump in at the deep end and try toswim—an approach that might work,but more likely will produce panic, furtherencoding in your brain a cycle ofdread, fear, and shame.I found myself in good company.There were about fifteen people in theclass, which was led by Charles diCagno, a wiry, compact man withwarm brown eyes and a sophisticatedsense of humor. Charles is himself aveteran of exposure therapy. Publicspeaking anxiety doesn’t keep him upat night anymore, he says, but fear is awily enemy and he’s always working toget the better of it.The workshop had been in session fora few weeks before I joined, but Charlesassured me that newcomers were welcome.The group was more diverse than368/929

I expected. There was a fashion designerwith long, curly hair, bright lipstick,and pointy snakeskin boots; a secretarywith thick glasses and a clipped,matter-of-fact manner, who talked a lotabout her Mensa membership; a coupleof investment bankers, tall and athletic;an actor with black hair and vivid blueeyes who bounded cheerfully across theroom in his Puma sneakers but claimedto be terrified the entire time; a Chinesesoftware designer with a sweet smileand a nervous laugh. A regular crosssectionof New Yorkers, really. It mighthave been a class in digital photographyor Italian cooking.Except that it wasn’t. Charles explainedthat each of us would speak infront of the group, but at an anxietylevel we could handle.A martial arts instructor namedLateesha was first up that evening.369/929

I expected. There was a fashion designer

with long, curly hair, bright lipstick,

and pointy snakeskin boots; a secretary

with thick glasses and a clipped,

matter-of-fact manner, who talked a lot

about her Mensa membership; a couple

of investment bankers, tall and athletic;

an actor with black hair and vivid blue

eyes who bounded cheerfully across the

room in his Puma sneakers but claimed

to be terrified the entire time; a Chinese

software designer with a sweet smile

and a nervous laugh. A regular crosssection

of New Yorkers, really. It might

have been a class in digital photography

or Italian cooking.

Except that it wasn’t. Charles explained

that each of us would speak in

front of the group, but at an anxiety

level we could handle.

A martial arts instructor named

Lateesha was first up that evening.

369/929

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