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focuses on problems and pathology. “It
is almost as if, metaphorically speaking,
sailors are so busy—and wisely—looking
under the water line for extensions
of icebergs that could sink their ship,”
writes Belsky, “that they fail to appreciate
that by climbing on top of the iceberg
it might prove possible to chart a
clear passage through the ice-laden
sea.”
The parents of high-reactive children
are exceedingly lucky, Belsky told me.
“The time and effort they invest will actually
make a difference. Instead of seeing
these kids as vulnerable to adversity,
parents should see them as malleable—for
worse, but also for better.”
He describes eloquently a high-reactive
child’s ideal parent: someone who “can
read your cues and respect your individuality;
is warm and firm in placing
demands on you without being harsh or
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