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companies in garages to have any personalitythey please, but they are theexceptions, not the rule, and our toleranceextends mainly to those who getfabulously wealthy or hold the promiseof doing so.Introversion—along with its cousinssensitivity, seriousness, and shyness—isnow a second-class personality trait,somewhere between a disappointmentand a pathology. Introverts living underthe Extrovert Ideal are like women in aman’s world, discounted because of atrait that goes to the core of who theyare. Extroversion is an enormously appealingpersonality style, but we’veturned it into an oppressive standard towhich most of us feel we must conform.The Extrovert Ideal has been documentedin many studies, though this researchhas never been grouped under asingle name. Talkative people, for32/929
example, are rated as smarter, betterlooking,more interesting, and more desirableas friends. Velocity of speechcounts as well as volume: we rank fasttalkers as more competent and likablethan slow ones. The same dynamics applyin groups, where research showsthat the voluble are considered smarterthan the reticent—even though there’szero correlation between the gift of gaband good ideas. Even the word introvertis stigmatized—one informal study, bypsychologist Laurie Helgoe, found thatintroverts described their own physicalappearance in vivid language (“greenblueeyes,” “exotic,” “highcheekbones”), but when asked to describegeneric introverts they drew abland and distasteful picture(“ungainly,” “neutral colors,” “skinproblems”).33/929
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example, are rated as smarter, betterlooking,
more interesting, and more desirable
as friends. Velocity of speech
counts as well as volume: we rank fast
talkers as more competent and likable
than slow ones. The same dynamics apply
in groups, where research shows
that the voluble are considered smarter
than the reticent—even though there’s
zero correlation between the gift of gab
and good ideas. Even the word introvert
is stigmatized—one informal study, by
psychologist Laurie Helgoe, found that
introverts described their own physical
appearance in vivid language (“greenblue
eyes,” “exotic,” “high
cheekbones”), but when asked to describe
generic introverts they drew a
bland and distasteful picture
(“ungainly,” “neutral colors,” “skin
problems”).
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