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“Everything in the service involvedcommunication,” he says with gentleexasperation. “Greeting people, thelengthy sermon, the singing. There wasno emphasis on quiet, liturgy, ritual,things that give you space forcontemplation.”McHugh’s discomfort is all the morepoignant because he genuinely admiresSaddleback and all that it stands for.“Saddleback is doing amazing thingsaround the world and in its own community,”he says. “It’s a friendly, hospitableplace that genuinely seeks toconnect with newcomers. That’s an impressivemission given how colossal thechurch is, and how easy it would be forpeople to remain completely disconnectedfrom others. Greeters, the informalatmosphere, meeting people aroundyou—these are all motivated by gooddesires.”210/929
Yet McHugh finds practices like themandatory smile-and-good-morning atthe start of the service to be painful—andthough he personally is willingto endure it, even sees the value init, he worries about how many other introvertswill not.“It sets up an extroverted atmospherethat can be difficult for introverts likeme,” he explains. “Sometimes I feel likeI’m going through the motions. Theoutward enthusiasm and passion thatseems to be part and parcel of Saddleback’sculture doesn’t feel natural. Notthat introverts can’t be eager and enthusiastic,but we’re not as overtly expressiveas extroverts. At a place likeSaddleback, you can start questioningyour own experience of God. Is it reallyas strong as that of other people wholook the part of the devout believer?”211/929
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“Everything in the service involved
communication,” he says with gentle
exasperation. “Greeting people, the
lengthy sermon, the singing. There was
no emphasis on quiet, liturgy, ritual,
things that give you space for
contemplation.”
McHugh’s discomfort is all the more
poignant because he genuinely admires
Saddleback and all that it stands for.
“Saddleback is doing amazing things
around the world and in its own community,”
he says. “It’s a friendly, hospitable
place that genuinely seeks to
connect with newcomers. That’s an impressive
mission given how colossal the
church is, and how easy it would be for
people to remain completely disconnected
from others. Greeters, the informal
atmosphere, meeting people around
you—these are all motivated by good
desires.”
210/929
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