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Self-Love: A Manifestation
Of Our Human Beingness
Written by Pamela W. Brinker, LCSW
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Self-love is an invisible connection with our whole
beings, experienced or felt in varying ways on different
days. It’s akin to our unseen fascia, the unifying tissue
surrounding and holding our organs, bones, blood
vessels, and muscles together. Like fascia, self-love
encases and stabilizes us. But even more, it holds and
warms us.
Our thoughts work against us at times, questioning,
even doubting, our self-love. So, when we are able to
experience it, the awareness often comes through our
hearts, intuition, bodies and energy, radiating from our
deepest essences or souls. It’s sometimes a challenge
to convince our minds of self-love, in fact, when we’re
out of our minds, grounded in our entire beingness, it’s
almost easier to experience it.
Self-love includes valuing our bodies as they are today,
these changing containers we’ve been given for our true
selves. When we truly love ourselves, we can cherish our
bodies as they are right now. Not how they could be.
Not how they used to be. Our bodies change yearly, even
monthly. Self-love is the unconditional, wise grace that
embraces those changes without criticism.
If you notice that you’re putting yourself down, try
seeing yourself as your dearest friend or treasured family
member. Pay attention to the harsh things you’re saying
to yourself, then backspace and delete them. Replace
with phrases that are unconditionally kind. Make these
words not mere affirmations, because cognitive reframes
aren’t enough; bring the truth of the absolute love that
is your very nature into your body and whole-being. Try
strolling around a room you’re in with your hands on
your heart and belly, consciously breathing into your
whole-being with awareness of the love from within.
Exhale into the love that surrounds you - your energy -
and give yourself a hug.
We often get hung up believing that we are what we
do, how we look, or how we act. Those are expressions
of ourselves but are not our true selves. We are
integrated beings; that is who and what we are. Selflove
is remembering our being-ness, personifying who
we truly are and living that incarnation. Self-love is not
an intention or even a commitment to love ourselves,
although those help. It is activating and exemplifying
the innate love we were born with, for ourselves.
Additionally, we connect to something greater
with this love: to God, nature or the universe, so it
is an unconditional emanation sourcing the highest
love accessible. It is consciously empowering then, to
counter our culture, go against the societal grain, and
remember who we truly are. To love ourselves, deeply
and completely.
About The Author
PAMELA BRINKER
Pamela Brinker is a psychotherapist who has developed tools
and practices to teach conscious bravery. She is a speaker
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ISSUE NO.140 SEPTEMBER 2022
DO YOU
LIVE YOUR
LIFE WITH
GRATITUDE?
Written by Joan Herrmann
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Are you someone that dwells on
what is missing or went wrong in your life? Do you whine
and complain about your problems? Do you believe that
you’ve been dealt a bad hand? Or, are you someone who sees
the beauty in every situation, counts your blessings, and has
decided that you will live your life in gratitude?
Gratitude is defined as a feeling of thankfulness and
appreciation. To be grateful is a mindset, a conscious decision
that we make.
I had the privilege of meeting an extraordinary woman,
Colleen Alexander, who exemplifies the power of the human
spirit and the ability to find the good in any circumstance. In
2011, while bicycling home from work, Colleen was run over
and dragged by a freight truck. The accident left her body
ripped apart and shattered into pieces as she clung to life. Her
survival would be a miracle; she flat lined multiple times as
EMTs, doctors, surgeons, and nurses worked ferociously to
save her.
After five weeks in a coma, Colleen survived. The doctors
did not know what her prognosis would be. She had lost more
than 50 percent of her skin and there was a chance she would
never walk again. What they did know was that there would be
many surgeries in her future.
Colleen’s recovery was long and arduous. She told me that
the pain made it difficult to know how to exist and that there
were many times when she wanted to give up. But, after
spending time contemplating her situation, she decided that
she wasn’t going to let the trauma and PTSD control her life.
She was going to find a way to make something positive come
from her pain.
According to Colleen, her turning point came when she
began to shift the focus from what she was going through to
all of the love and care she was shown. She thought about the
countless people who gave so much of themselves to save her:
the blood donors, medical professionals, friends and family.
She realized that she is part of something far bigger than the
horrific incident that changed her life. From that point, she
was determined to heal.
As a former runner, Colleen’s dream was to run again. She
wanted to thank the heroes for saving her life and with that
in mind, told herself that she would run, and when she did,
she would compete in races and dedicate her medals to them.
Since that time, Colleen has made a full recovery and has
gone on to run races and complete triathlons, including half-
Ironman events.
Colleen chose to turn her tragedy into a catalyst for healing
and growth. This is a choice we can each make.
Here are a few tips to help you cultivate gratitude:
Be thankful even if you don’t feel thankful. Each day,
practice giving thanks for one thing, whether you feel it or
not. Over time, you will be amazed at how the act of being
thankful will create feelings of thankfulness.
Keep a gratitude journal. Before going to sleep write down
five things from the day for which you are thankful. At first
you may struggle to create the list, but before you know it,
your list will grow longer and longer.
Say “thank you” often. Expressing thanks will bring joy to
others and that joy will eventually trickle down to you.
Live in the moment. Take time to notice the little things. As
they say, the little things will one day become the big things.
Acknowledge ungrateful thoughts and replace them with
positive ones. Being mindful of your thought process enables
you to shift your way of thinking.
Appreciate every experience, the good and the bad. Ask
what you can learn from each. You have the opportunity to
grow in wisdom and strength.
About The Author
JOAN HERRMANN
Joan Herrmann is the creator of the Change Your Attitude…
Change Your life brand and host of the radio show and podcast,
Conversations with Joan. She is a motivational speaker and the
publisher of 24 Seven magazine.
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September 2022 Issue
The Truth Of Life Unfolds
In The Present Moment
Written by Guy Finley
K
Knowledge, regardless of its
sophisticated nature, is a tool. It arises from and belongs
to what has passed. As such it embodies, defines, and
relates us to life through what we already know about the
world around us. By definition, this kind of understanding
is limited. However, no system of thought can stand up to
the ever-shifting changes of real life, let alone meet those
same changes fearlessly. Regardless how sophisticated its
knowledge, the Self that knows itself only through its own
conditioned thinking can never develop beyond the content
of itself.
When we meet life with preconceived ideas about how
to respond to what unfolds before us, we are like downhill
skiers trying to know when and where to make turns before
it snows. But the truth is we can’t know what to do in
advance of any given moment.
Real life is not limited to our understanding of what was; it
is always new because it’s the expression of a compassionate
and living intelligence that actively shapes whatever it
touches, as well as whatever reaches out to touch it. You
could say that each moment appears, as it does in whatever
its form or color — hard or soft, dark or light — to reveal us
to ourselves. How can we hope to learn from such moments,
to be transformed and perfected by them, if we meet them
with hardened biased views about how they should unfold?
And just as one wouldn’t mistake the ladder he must
climb for the rooftop from which he hopes to view the stars,
neither should we confuse even the most sophisticated
spiritual knowledge for those innermost revelations that
can come to us only through living in the now.
Genuine self-knowledge is one and the same as being
fully self-aware in the present moment. As such, it is
never static. This fluid level of Self places no demands on
life, therefore it fears nothing that life may reveal. Being
fearless, it never has to imagine a freedom “to come,” any
more than a river needs to imagine how to flow.
When you are present to yourself, quietly watchful of
the relationship that is always unfolding in the present
moment, then you have no more need to prepare for what
life will bring than a newly opened rose needs to ready
itself for the warmth of the sun that comes to release its
fragrance.
This article is excerpted from The Courage to Be Free by
Guy Finley.
About The Author
GUY FINLEY
Guy Finley is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and
bestselling self-help author. He is the Founder and Director of Life
of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for spiritual self-study
located in Merlin, Oregon. He also hosts the Foundation’s Wisdom
School — an on-line self-discovery program for seekers of higher
self-knowledge. He is the best-selling author of The Secret of
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ISSUE NO.140 SEPTEMBER 2022
IS THIS
SITUATIONAL
OR CHRONIC
DISORGANIZATION?
Written by Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO
E
Everyone has times when they feel
out of control and disorganized. But for some, the feeling
is pervasive and persists. How do you know if you’re
situationally or chronically disorganized (CD)?
I often say that life transitions knock our organizing
systems out of whack. We may be going along just fine,
living life, and then BAM! Something happens that upsets
our sense of stability, and we find ourselves surrounded by
clutter and chaos. We may have experienced a loss, a move,
a career change, new marital status, welcomed a child, be
newly taking care of an aging parent, or suddenly working
from home in less than optimal spatial conditions. All of
these events are temporary and can cause situational
disorganization.
Clothes may pile up on the floor. Mail may come in and
not get opened for a while. Take-out meals may become the
norm.
Allow time to pass to get acclimated to this new normal.
Take stock of your current systems for managing time, space,
relationships, and more. I call this a “periodic look-through”.
Examine what has been working so far and tweak it to fit
the current circumstance. Things will soon settle down and
life will run smoothly again. You’ll do the laundry and it
will get put away. The mail will get opened and addressed.
You’ll once again cook meals, if that’s part of your lifestyle.
You’ll adapt and create a new routine to accommodate the
new life event.
Conversely, chronic disorganization is pervasive and more
permanent. Someone living with CD has been disorganized
most of their lives. Being disorganized negatively impacts
the quality of their life on a daily basis. They have tried
every self-help solution available to them with little
success. They may have a brain-based condition, such as
ADHD, traumatic brain injury, depression, or anxiety, that
impedes their executive functions, which include the skills
required for organizing.
Clothes may pile up on the floor and there is confusion as
to what is clean and what is dirty. Garbage may not hit the
trash can and stays where it lands for days or weeks. Mail
comes in, piles up, is put into bags, and is hidden away in a
closet. Bills go unpaid.
Without some outside intervention, the conditions are
likely to remain as they are. Addressing CD requires some
creativity, experience, and expertise. A multidisciplinary
approach may be needed, including not just a professional
organizer but a therapist, psychiatrist, neurologist, coach,
friends, family, and other supports. Systems that seem
outlandish may need to be created, and ongoing support
may be required to maintain them.
About The Author
GAYLE M. GRUENBERG
Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO, is the chief executive
organizer of Let’s Get Organized, LLC, an organizer coach, and
the creator of the Make Space for Blessings system.
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Just Try It!
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Written by Linda Mitchell
What does it mean to try
something new? It could be exploring a new
hobby, a new genre of books, new food, or a
new career path. Whatever it means to you,
the principle is the same for everyone: trying
new things opens your world, eyes, and heart
to new possibilities. That’s the overarching
benefit of trying new things, but here are
other distinctive benefits.
Growth happens. Stepping out of your
comfort zone into
the wilderness of the
unknown creates a swell
of personal growth from
new experiences. It may
not always be easy or
comfortable, but it certainly
will expand your mind and
make you aware of the
possibilities life has to offer.
When new opportunities
are presented, if you allow
yourself to explore new
territory, you’ll also discover
parts of yourself that are
untapped.
It boosts courage.
Courage is defined as the
ability to do something that
frightens you. Chances are,
you may be a little uneasy
with the idea of trying
something new and that’s
perfectly normal. Choosing
to intentionally tackle
new things will boost your
courage and confidence.
The greatest benefit here?
You’ll be better prepared
when you’re confronted
with unexpected or difficult
situations, and you need to muster some
courage. You’ll already have experience
exercising your courage muscle and things
will be less intimidating as you venture
forward. You’ll also have good reason to be
proud of yourself.
It keeps life exciting. Variety is the spice of
life. This old cliché is still true. You can enjoy
quiet time or relaxation breaks but being
bored is a totally different story. The good news
is, it’s hard to be bored if you continuously
inject your life with new adventures and
experiences. It’s easy to get into a comfortable
rut but that can get tedious. The next time you
feel a twinge of monotony, try something new.
You’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll get
rid of that dull feeling.
If a new opportunity or experience suddenly
presents itself without any prompting and you
discover you actually love it, there’s probably
something deeper to recognize. This didn’t
happen by mistake. Perhaps your higher
power or higher self is sending a signal. A
new interest may spotlight untapped talents
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“Life is as
limitless as you
allow it to be.”
or skills and introduce you to people or
opportunities you didn’t even know existed.
Perhaps it sends your life on a new trajectory;
one you wouldn’t even have considered but are
eternally grateful for because of the joy and
fulfillment you now enjoy. Yes, some things are
hit or miss, and you won’t love everything you
try, but you’ll undoubtedly find some activities,
people, or interests that you never knew about.
The next time someone invites you to do
something a little different, consider saying
yes. After all, the worst-case scenario is that
you learn you don’t like it – and that’s not so
bad either. Life is as limitless as you allow it to
be. You owe it to yourself to explore new things
and see what you can learn about yourself,
your gifts and your potential. Go for it!
About The Author
LINDA MITCHELL
Linda Mitchell is a board-certified coach,
speaker, intuitive healer, and LMT. She
empowers people who feel stuck, overwhelmed
or ready for change to release their fear, gain
clarity, confidence, and meaningful direction
as they move through life’s challenges and
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