Emotional inteligence
APPENDIX EThe Self ScienceCurriculumMain components:• Self-awareness: observing yourself and recognizingyour feelings; building a vocabulary for feelings; knowingthe relationship between thoughts, feelings, andreactions• Personal decision-making: examining your actionsand knowing their consequences; knowing if thought orfeeling is ruling a decision; applying these insights to issuessuch as sex and drugs• Managing feelings: monitoring "self-talk" to catchnegative messages such as internal put-downs; realizingwhat is behind a feeling (e.g., the hurt that underlies anger);findingways to handle fears and anxieties, anger,and sadness• Handling stress: learning the value of exercise,guided imagery, relaxation methods• Empathy: understanding others' feelings and concernsand taking their perspective; appreciating the differencesin how people feel about things• Communications: talking about feelings effectively:becoming a good listener and question-asker;
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APPENDIX E
The Self Science
Curriculum
Main components:
• Self-awareness: observing yourself and recognizing
your feelings; building a vocabulary for feelings; knowing
the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and
reactions
• Personal decision-making: examining your actions
and knowing their consequences; knowing if thought or
feeling is ruling a decision; applying these insights to issues
such as sex and drugs
• Managing feelings: monitoring "self-talk" to catch
negative messages such as internal put-downs; realizing
what is behind a feeling (e.g., the hurt that underlies anger);finding
ways to handle fears and anxieties, anger,
and sadness
• Handling stress: learning the value of exercise,
guided imagery, relaxation methods
• Empathy: understanding others' feelings and concerns
and taking their perspective; appreciating the differences
in how people feel about things
• Communications: talking about feelings effectively:
becoming a good listener and question-asker;
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