Emotional inteligence
54/661memories date from the first few years of life, in the relationshipbetween an infant and its caretakers. This isespecially true for traumatic events, like beatings or outrightneglect. During this early period of life other brainstructures, particularly the hippocampus, which is crucialfor narrative memories, and the neocortex, seat ofrational thought, have yet to become fully developed. Inmemory, the amygdala and hippocampus work hand-inhand;each stores and retrieves its special informationindependently. While the hippocampus retrieves information,the amygdala determines if that informationhas any emotional valence. But the amygdala, whichmatures very quickly in the infant's brain, is much closerto fully formed at birth.LeDoux turns to the role of the amygdala in childhoodto support what has long been a basic tenet of psychoanalyticthought: that the interactions of life's earliestyears lay down a set of emotional lessons based on theattunement and upsets in the contacts between infantand caretakers. 9 These emotional lessons are so potentand yet so difficult to understand from the vantage pointof adult life because, believes LeDoux, they are stored inthe amygdala as rough, wordless blueprints for emotionallife. Since these earliest emotional memories are establishedat a time before infants have words for theirexperience, when these emotional memories are
triggered in later life there is no matching set of articulatedthoughts about the response that takes us over.One reason we can be so baffled by our emotional outbursts,then, is that they often date from a time early inour lives when things were bewildering and we did notyet have words for comprehending events. We may havethe chaotic feelings, but not the words for the memoriesthat formed them.WHEN EMOTIONS ARE FAST ANDSLOPPY55/661It was somewhere around three in the morning when ahuge object came crashing through the ceiling in a farcorner of my bedroom, spilling the contents of the atticinto the room. In a second I leapt out of bed and ran outof the room, terrified the entire ceiling would cave in.Then, realizing I was safe, I cautiously peered back inthe bedroom to see what had caused all the damage—onlyto discover that the sound I had taken to bethe ceiling caving in was actually the fall of a tall pile ofboxes my wife had stacked in the corner the day beforewhile she sorted out her closet. Nothing had fallen fromthe attic: there was no attic. The ceiling was intact, andso was I.My leap from bed while half-asleep—which mighthave saved me from injury had it truly been the ceiling
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memories date from the first few years of life, in the relationship
between an infant and its caretakers. This is
especially true for traumatic events, like beatings or outright
neglect. During this early period of life other brain
structures, particularly the hippocampus, which is crucial
for narrative memories, and the neocortex, seat of
rational thought, have yet to become fully developed. In
memory, the amygdala and hippocampus work hand-inhand;
each stores and retrieves its special information
independently. While the hippocampus retrieves information,
the amygdala determines if that information
has any emotional valence. But the amygdala, which
matures very quickly in the infant's brain, is much closer
to fully formed at birth.
LeDoux turns to the role of the amygdala in childhood
to support what has long been a basic tenet of psychoanalytic
thought: that the interactions of life's earliest
years lay down a set of emotional lessons based on the
attunement and upsets in the contacts between infant
and caretakers. 9 These emotional lessons are so potent
and yet so difficult to understand from the vantage point
of adult life because, believes LeDoux, they are stored in
the amygdala as rough, wordless blueprints for emotional
life. Since these earliest emotional memories are established
at a time before infants have words for their
experience, when these emotional memories are