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530/661I don't try to do the negative thing back—I try to solvethe problem." And he has found himself spreading theapproach in his community.While the focus of Resolving Conflict Creatively is onpreventing violence, Lantieri sees it as having a widermission. Her view is that the skills needed to head off violencecannot be separated from the full spectrum ofemotional competence—that, for example, knowingwhat you are feeling or how to handle impulse or grief isas important for violence prevention as is managing anger.Much of the training has to do with emotional basicssuch as recognizing an expanded range of feelingsand being able to put names to them, and empathizing.When she describes the evaluation results of herprogram's effects, Lantieri points with as much pride tothe increase in "caring among the kids" as to the dropsin fights, put-downs, and name-calling.A similar convergence on emotional literacy occurredwith a consortium of psychologists trying to find ways tohelp youngsters on a trajectory toward a life marked bycrime and violence. Dozens of studies of such boys—aswe saw in Chapter 15—yielded a clear sense of the pathmost take, starting from impulsiveness and a quicknessto anger in their earliest school years, through becomingsocial rejects by the end of grade school, to bonding witha circle of others like themselves and beginning crime
531/661sprees in the middle-school years. By early adulthood, alarge portion of these boys have acquired police recordsand a readiness for violence.When it came to designing interventions that mighthelp such boys get off this road to violence and crime,the result was, once again, an emotional-literacy program.11 One of these, developed by a consortium includingMark Greenberg at the University of Washington, isthe PATHS curriculum (PATHS is the acronym for Parentsand Teachers Helping Students). While those atrisk for a trajectory toward crime and violence are mostin need of these lessons, the course is given to all thosein a class, avoiding any stigmatizing of a more troubledsubgroup.Still, the lessons are useful for all children. These include,for example, learning in the earliest school yearsto control their impulses; lacking this ability, childrenhave special trouble paying attention to what is beingtaught and so fall behind in their learning and grades.Another is recognizing their feelings; the PATHS curriculumhas fifty lessons on different emotions, teachingthe most basic, such as happiness and anger, to theyoungest children, and later touching on more complicatedfeelings such as jealousy, pride, and guilt. Theemotional-awareness lessons include how to monitorwhat they and those around them are feeling, and—most
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sprees in the middle-school years. By early adulthood, a
large portion of these boys have acquired police records
and a readiness for violence.
When it came to designing interventions that might
help such boys get off this road to violence and crime,
the result was, once again, an emotional-literacy program.
11 One of these, developed by a consortium including
Mark Greenberg at the University of Washington, is
the PATHS curriculum (PATHS is the acronym for Parents
and Teachers Helping Students). While those at
risk for a trajectory toward crime and violence are most
in need of these lessons, the course is given to all those
in a class, avoiding any stigmatizing of a more troubled
subgroup.
Still, the lessons are useful for all children. These include,
for example, learning in the earliest school years
to control their impulses; lacking this ability, children
have special trouble paying attention to what is being
taught and so fall behind in their learning and grades.
Another is recognizing their feelings; the PATHS curriculum
has fifty lessons on different emotions, teaching
the most basic, such as happiness and anger, to the
youngest children, and later touching on more complicated
feelings such as jealousy, pride, and guilt. The
emotional-awareness lessons include how to monitor
what they and those around them are feeling, and—most