Emotional inteligence
bring in pictures of a person's face from a magazine,name which emotion the face displays, and explain howto tell the person has those feelings. After collecting theassignment, Andrews lists the feelings on theboard—sadness, worry, excitement, happiness, and soon—and launches into a fast-paced repartee with theeighteen students who managed to get to school thatday. Sitting in four-desk clusters, the students excitedlyraise their hands high, straining to catch her eye so theycan give their answer.As she adds frustrated to the list on the board,Andrews asks, "How many people ever felt frustrated?"Every hand goes up."How do you feel when you're frustrated?"The answers come in a cascade: "Tired." "Confused.""You can't think right." "Anxious."As aggravated is added to the list, Joyce says, "I knowthat one—when does a teacher feel aggravated?""When everyone is talking," a girl offers, smiling.Without missing a beat, Andrews passes out a mimeographedworksheet. In one column are faces of boys andgirls, each displaying one of the six basic emotions—happy,sad, angry, surprised, afraid, disgusted—anda description of the facial muscle activity underlyingeach, for example:AFRAID:516/661
• The mouth is open and drawn back.• The eyes are open and the inner corners go up.• The eyebrows are raised and drawn together.• There are wrinkles in the middle of the forehead. 3517/661While they read through the sheet, expressions of fear,anger, surprise, or disgust float over the faces of the kidsin Andrews's class as they imitate the pictures and followthe facial-muscle recipes for each emotion. This lessoncomes straight from Paul Ekman's research on facialexpression; as such, it is taught in most every college introductorypsychology course—and rarely, if ever, ingrade school. This elementary lesson in connecting aname with a feeling, and the feeling with the facial expressionthat matches it, might seem so obvious that itneed not be taught at all. Yet it may serve as an antidoteto surprisingly common lapses in emotional literacy.Schoolyard bullies, remember, often strike out in angerbecause they misinterpret neutral messages and expressionsas hostile, and girls who develop eating disordersfail to distinguish anger from anxiety from hunger.EMOTIONAL LITERACY IN DISGUISEWith the curriculum already besieged by a proliferationof new topics and agendas, some teachers who understandablyfeel overburdened resist taking extra time
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bring in pictures of a person's face from a magazine,
name which emotion the face displays, and explain how
to tell the person has those feelings. After collecting the
assignment, Andrews lists the feelings on the
board—sadness, worry, excitement, happiness, and so
on—and launches into a fast-paced repartee with the
eighteen students who managed to get to school that
day. Sitting in four-desk clusters, the students excitedly
raise their hands high, straining to catch her eye so they
can give their answer.
As she adds frustrated to the list on the board,
Andrews asks, "How many people ever felt frustrated?"
Every hand goes up.
"How do you feel when you're frustrated?"
The answers come in a cascade: "Tired." "Confused."
"You can't think right." "Anxious."
As aggravated is added to the list, Joyce says, "I know
that one—when does a teacher feel aggravated?"
"When everyone is talking," a girl offers, smiling.
Without missing a beat, Andrews passes out a mimeographed
worksheet. In one column are faces of boys and
girls, each displaying one of the six basic emotions—happy,
sad, angry, surprised, afraid, disgusted—and
a description of the facial muscle activity underlying
each, for example:
AFRAID:
516/661