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512/661responsibility for decisions and actions, and followingthrough on commitments.A key social ability is empathy, understanding others'feelings and taking their perspective, and respecting differencesin how people feel about things. Relationshipsare a major focus, including learning to be a good listenerand question-asker; distinguishing between whatsomeone says or does and your own reactions and judgments;being assertive rather than angry or passive; andlearning the arts of cooperation, conflict resolution, andnegotiating compromise.There are no grades given in Self Science; life itself isthe final exam. But at the end of the eighth grade, as studentsare about to leave Nueva for high school, each isgiven a Socratic examination, an oral test in SelfScience. One question from a recent final: "Describe anappropriate response to help a friend solve a conflictover someone pressuring them to try drugs, or over afriend who likes to tease." Or, "What are some healthyways to deal with stress, anger, and fear?"Were he alive today, Aristotle, so concerned with emotionalskillfulness, might well approve.EMOTIONAL LITERACY IN THE INNERCITY
513/661Skeptics understandably will ask if a course like SelfScience could work in a less privileged setting, or if it isonly possible in a small private school like Nueva, whereevery child is, in some respect, gifted. In short, can emotionalcompetence be taught where it may be most urgentlyneeded, in the gritty chaos of an inner-city publicschool? One answer is to visit the Augusta Lewis TroupMiddle School in New Haven, which is as far from theNueva Learning Center socially and economically as it isgeographically.To be sure, the atmosphere at Troup has much of thesame excitement about learning—the school is alsoknown as the Troup Magnet Academy of Science and isone of two such schools in the district that are designedto draw fifth-to eighth-grade students from all over NewHaven to an enriched science curriculum. Studentsthere can ask questions about the physics of outer spacethrough a satellite-dish hookup to astronauts in Houstonor program their computers to play music. But despitethese academic amenities, as in many cities, whiteflight to the New Haven suburbs and to private schoolshas left Troup's enrollment about 95 percent black andHispanic.Just a few short blocks from the Yale campus—andagain a distant universe—Troup is in a decayingworking-class neighborhood that, in the 1950s, had
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Skeptics understandably will ask if a course like Self
Science could work in a less privileged setting, or if it is
only possible in a small private school like Nueva, where
every child is, in some respect, gifted. In short, can emotional
competence be taught where it may be most urgently
needed, in the gritty chaos of an inner-city public
school? One answer is to visit the Augusta Lewis Troup
Middle School in New Haven, which is as far from the
Nueva Learning Center socially and economically as it is
geographically.
To be sure, the atmosphere at Troup has much of the
same excitement about learning—the school is also
known as the Troup Magnet Academy of Science and is
one of two such schools in the district that are designed
to draw fifth-to eighth-grade students from all over New
Haven to an enriched science curriculum. Students
there can ask questions about the physics of outer space
through a satellite-dish hookup to astronauts in Houston
or program their computers to play music. But despite
these academic amenities, as in many cities, white
flight to the New Haven suburbs and to private schools
has left Troup's enrollment about 95 percent black and
Hispanic.
Just a few short blocks from the Yale campus—and
again a distant universe—Troup is in a decaying
working-class neighborhood that, in the 1950s, had