Emotional inteligence
ingrained; as experiences are repeated over and over,the brain reflects them as strengthened pathways, neuralhabits to apply in times of duress, frustration, hurt.And while the everyday substance of emotional literacyclasses may look mundane, the outcome—decent humanbeings—is more critical to our future than ever.A LESSON IN COOPERATION502/661Compare a moment from a class in Self Science with theclassroom experiences you can recall.A fifth-grade group is about to play the CooperationSquares game, in which the students team up to put togethera series of square-shaped jigsaw puzzles. Thecatch: their teamwork is all in silence, with no gesturingallowed.The teacher, Jo-An Varga, divides the class into threegroups, each assigned to a different table. Three observers,each familiar with the game, get an evaluation sheetto assess, for example, who in the group takes the leadin organizing, who is a clown, who disrupts.The students dump the pieces of the puzzles on thetable and go to work. Within a minute or so it's clearthat one group is surprisingly efficient as a team; theyfinish in just a few minutes. A second group of four isengaged in solitary, parallel efforts, each working separatelyon their own puzzle, but getting nowhere. Then
503/661they slowly start to work collectively to assemble theirfirst square, and continue to work as a unit until all thepuzzles are solved.But the third group still struggles, with only onepuzzle nearing completion, and even that looking morelike a trapezoid than a square. Sean, Fairlie, and Rahmanhave yet to find the smooth coordination that theother two groups fell into. They are clearly frustrated,frantically scanning the pieces on the table, seizing onlikely possibilities and putting them near the partly finishedsquares, only to be disappointed by the lack of fit.The tension breaks a bit when Rahman takes two ofthe pieces and puts them in front of his eyes like a mask;his partners giggle. This will prove to be a pivotal momentin the day's lesson.Jo-An Varga, the teacher, offers some encouragement:"Those of you who have finished can give one specifichint to those who are still working."Dagan moseys over to the still-struggling group,points to two pieces that jut out from the square, andsuggests, "You've got to move those two pieces around."Suddenly Rahman, his wide face furrowed in concentration,grasps the new gestalt, and the pieces quickly fallinto place on the first puzzle, then the others. There'sspontaneous applause as the last piece falls into place onthe third group's final puzzle.
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they slowly start to work collectively to assemble their
first square, and continue to work as a unit until all the
puzzles are solved.
But the third group still struggles, with only one
puzzle nearing completion, and even that looking more
like a trapezoid than a square. Sean, Fairlie, and Rahman
have yet to find the smooth coordination that the
other two groups fell into. They are clearly frustrated,
frantically scanning the pieces on the table, seizing on
likely possibilities and putting them near the partly finished
squares, only to be disappointed by the lack of fit.
The tension breaks a bit when Rahman takes two of
the pieces and puts them in front of his eyes like a mask;
his partners giggle. This will prove to be a pivotal moment
in the day's lesson.
Jo-An Varga, the teacher, offers some encouragement:
"Those of you who have finished can give one specific
hint to those who are still working."
Dagan moseys over to the still-struggling group,
points to two pieces that jut out from the square, and
suggests, "You've got to move those two pieces around."
Suddenly Rahman, his wide face furrowed in concentration,
grasps the new gestalt, and the pieces quickly fall
into place on the first puzzle, then the others. There's
spontaneous applause as the last piece falls into place on
the third group's final puzzle.