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482/661the circle of friendship with some basic emotionalcoaching.DRINKING AND DRUGS: ADDICTIONAS SELF-MEDICATIONStudents at the local campus call it drinking to black—bingeing on beer to the point of passing out. One ofthe techniques: attach a funnel to a garden hose, so thata can of beer can be downed in about ten seconds. Themethod is not an isolated oddity. One survey found thattwo fifths of male college students down seven or moredrinks at a time, while 11 percent call themselves "heavydrinkers." Another term, of course, might be"alcoholics." 48 About half of college men and almost 40percent of women have at least two binge-drinking episodesin a month. 49While in the United States use of most drugs amongyoung people generally tapered off in the 1980s, there isa steady trend toward more alcohol use at ever-youngerages. A 1993 survey found that 35 percent of college womensaid they drank to get drunk, while just 10 percentdid so in 1977; overall, one in three students drinks toget drunk. That poses other risks: 90 percent of all rapesreported on college campuses happened when either theassailant or the victim—or both—had been drinking. 50
483/661Alcohol-related accidents are the leading cause of deathamong young people between fifteen and twenty-four. 51Experimentation with drugs and alcohol might seem arite of passage for adolescents, but this first taste canhave long-lasting results for some. For most alcoholicsand drug abusers, the beginnings of addiction can betraced to their teen years, though few of those who soexperiment end up as alcoholics or drug abusers. By thetime students leave high school, over 90 percent havetried alcohol, yet only about 14 percent eventually becomealcoholics; of the millions of Americans who experimentedwith cocaine, fewer than 5 percent becameaddicted. 52 What makes the difference?To be sure, those living in high-crime neighborhoods,where crack is sold on the corner and the drug dealer isthe most prominent local model of economic success,are most at risk for substance abuse. Some may end upaddicted through becoming small-time dealers themselves,others simply because of the easy access or a peerculture that glamorizes drugs—a factor that heightensthe risk of drug use in any neighborhood, even (and perhapsespecially) the most well-off. But still the questionremains, of the pool of those exposed to these lures andpressures, and who go on to experiment, which ones aremost likely to end up with a lasting habit?
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Alcohol-related accidents are the leading cause of death
among young people between fifteen and twenty-four. 51
Experimentation with drugs and alcohol might seem a
rite of passage for adolescents, but this first taste can
have long-lasting results for some. For most alcoholics
and drug abusers, the beginnings of addiction can be
traced to their teen years, though few of those who so
experiment end up as alcoholics or drug abusers. By the
time students leave high school, over 90 percent have
tried alcohol, yet only about 14 percent eventually become
alcoholics; of the millions of Americans who experimented
with cocaine, fewer than 5 percent became
addicted. 52 What makes the difference?
To be sure, those living in high-crime neighborhoods,
where crack is sold on the corner and the drug dealer is
the most prominent local model of economic success,
are most at risk for substance abuse. Some may end up
addicted through becoming small-time dealers themselves,
others simply because of the easy access or a peer
culture that glamorizes drugs—a factor that heightens
the risk of drug use in any neighborhood, even (and perhaps
especially) the most well-off. But still the question
remains, of the pool of those exposed to these lures and
pressures, and who go on to experiment, which ones are
most likely to end up with a lasting habit?