Emotional inteligence
16/661the emotional and social skills they need to keep theirlives on track.Perhaps the most disturbing single piece of data inthis book comes from a massive survey of parents andteachers and shows a worldwide trend for the presentgeneration of children to be more troubled emotionallythan the last: more lonely and depressed, more angryand unruly, more nervous and prone to worry, more impulsiveand aggressive.If there is a remedy, I feel it must lie in how we prepareour young for life. At present we leave the emotionaleducation of our children to chance, with ever moredisastrous results. One solution is a new vision of whatschools can do to educate the whole student, bringingtogether mind and heart in the classroom. Our journeyends with visits to innovative classes that aim to givechildren a grounding in the basics of emotional intelligence.I can foresee a day when education will routinelyinclude inculcating essential human competencies suchas self-awareness, self-control, and empathy, and thearts of listening, resolving conflicts, and cooperation.In The Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle's philosophicalenquiry into virtue, character, and the good life, hischallenge is to manage our emotional life with intelligence.Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom;they guide our thinking, our values, our survival. But
17/661they can easily go awry, and do so all too often. As Aristotlesaw, the problem is not with emotionality, but withthe appropriateness of emotion and its expression. Thequestion is, how can we bring intelligence to our emotions—andcivility to our streets and caring to our communallife?
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they can easily go awry, and do so all too often. As Aristotle
saw, the problem is not with emotionality, but with
the appropriateness of emotion and its expression. The
question is, how can we bring intelligence to our emotions—and
civility to our streets and caring to our communal
life?
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