Emotional inteligence
FOUL MOODS, FOULED THINKING166/661I worry about my son. He just started playing on thevarsity football team, so he's bound to get an injurysometime. It's so nerve-wracking to watch him playthat I've stopped going to his games. I'm sure my sonmust be disappointed that I'm not watching him play,but it's simply too much for me to take.The speaker is in therapy for anxiety; she realizes thather worry is interfering with leading the kind of life shewould like. 11 But when it comes time to make a simpledecision, such as whether to watch her son play football,her mind floods with thoughts of disaster. She is not freeto choose; her worries overwhelm her reason.As we have seen, worry is the nub of anxiety's damagingeffect on mental performance of all kind. Worry,of course, is in one sense a useful response goneawry—an overly zealous mental preparation for an anticipatedthreat. But such mental rehearsal is disastrouscognitive static when it becomes trapped in a staleroutine that captures attention, intruding on all otherattempts to focus elsewhere.Anxiety undermines the intellect. In a complex, intellectuallydemanding, and high-pressure task such asthat of air traffic controllers, for example, having chronicallyhigh anxiety is an almost sure predictor that a
167/661person will eventually fail in training or in the field. Theanxious are more likely to fail even given superior scoreson intelligence tests, as a study of 1,790 students intraining for air traffic control posts discovered. 12 Anxietyalso sabotages academic performance of all kinds: 126different studies of more than 36,000 people found thatthe more prone to worries a person is, the poorer theiracademic performance, no matter how measured—gradeson tests, grade-point average, or achievementtests. 13When people who are prone to worry are asked to performa cognitive task such as sorting ambiguous objectsinto one of two categories, and narrate what is goingthrough their mind as they do so, it is the negativethoughts—"I won't be able to do this," "I'm just no goodat this kind of test," and the like—that are found to mostdirectly disrupt their decision-making. Indeed, when acomparison group of nonworriers was asked to worry onpurpose for fifteen minutes, their ability to do the sametask deteriorated sharply. And when the worriers weregiven a fifteen-minute relaxation session—which reducedtheir level of worrying—before trying the task,they had no problem with it. 14Test anxiety was first studied scientifically in the1960s by Richard Alpert, who confessed to me that hisinterest was piqued because as a student his nerves
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person will eventually fail in training or in the field. The
anxious are more likely to fail even given superior scores
on intelligence tests, as a study of 1,790 students in
training for air traffic control posts discovered. 12 Anxiety
also sabotages academic performance of all kinds: 126
different studies of more than 36,000 people found that
the more prone to worries a person is, the poorer their
academic performance, no matter how measured—grades
on tests, grade-point average, or achievement
tests. 13
When people who are prone to worry are asked to perform
a cognitive task such as sorting ambiguous objects
into one of two categories, and narrate what is going
through their mind as they do so, it is the negative
thoughts—"I won't be able to do this," "I'm just no good
at this kind of test," and the like—that are found to most
directly disrupt their decision-making. Indeed, when a
comparison group of nonworriers was asked to worry on
purpose for fifteen minutes, their ability to do the same
task deteriorated sharply. And when the worriers were
given a fifteen-minute relaxation session—which reduced
their level of worrying—before trying the task,
they had no problem with it. 14
Test anxiety was first studied scientifically in the
1960s by Richard Alpert, who confessed to me that his
interest was piqued because as a student his nerves