Emotional inteligence
112/661just out of his awareness and dictates his curt replies.But once that reaction is brought into awareness—onceit registers in the cortex—he can evaluate things anew,decide to shrug off the feelings left earlier in the day,and change his outlook and mood. In this way emotionalself-awareness is the building block of the next fundamentalof emotional intelligence: being able to shake offa bad mood.
5Passion's SlavesThou has been . . .A man that Fortune's buffets and rewardsHas taken with equal thanks. ... Give me that manThat is not passion's slave, and I will wear himIn my heart's core, aye, in my heart of heartsAs I do thee.. ..—HAMLET TO HIS FRIEND HORATIOA sense of self-mastery, of being able to withstand theemotional storms that the buffeting of Fortune bringsrather than being "passion's slave," has been praised asa virtue since the time of Plato. The ancient Greek wordfor it was sophrosyne, "care and intelligence in conductingone's life; a tempered balance and wisdom," as PageDuBois, a Greek scholar, translates it. The Romans andthe early Christian church called it temperantia, temperance,the restraining of emotional excess. The goal isbalance, not emotional suppression: every feeling has itsvalue and significance. A life without passion would be adull wasteland of neutrality, cut off and isolated fromthe richness of life itself. But, as Aristotle observed,what is wanted is appropriate emotion, feeling
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just out of his awareness and dictates his curt replies.
But once that reaction is brought into awareness—once
it registers in the cortex—he can evaluate things anew,
decide to shrug off the feelings left earlier in the day,
and change his outlook and mood. In this way emotional
self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental
of emotional intelligence: being able to shake off
a bad mood.
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