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Joan Herrmann
Linda Mitchell, CPC
Paul Napper, PhD
Anthony Rao, PsyD

FROM THE EDITOR
—
REFLECTING ON A YEAR WELL LIVED
10 Things to Consider When Planning for the
New Year
It’s hard to believe that 2021 is coming to a close. It
seems like only yesterday we were happy to see 2020
come to an end and were making resolutions about all
of the wonderful things we wanted to experience in the
new year. And now, here we are reflecting back on how
the year was lived.
Reflection is the practice of introspection. It enables
us to navigate our journey by making choices. It is an
investment in our life.
Looking back on the past year is important because it
provides us with an honest assessment of where we have
been, which helps us gain perspective on the direction
we want to go.
So before you rush into the New Year with great
intentions, take time to pause and reflect on what has
happened this year. It will unveil important information
that will set you up for 2022!
Here are a few of the questions I ask myself at year
end. Use them as a guide to help you move forward.
1. What did I accomplish? Remember the little things,
too.
2. What were my disappointments?
3. What do I wish I had done differently?
4. What were my biggest challenges or obstacles and
how did I overcome them?
5. What was a game changer for me?
6. Where did I focus most of my time?
7. What did I try that was new?
8. What did I want to do but never got around to
doing?
9. What am I proud of?
10. What do I want to eliminate from my life?
After reviewing the past year, think about what would
represent your intentions for the upcoming year and
create a mantra that you can hold on to: 2022 will be the
year of (fill in the blank)!
— Joan Herrmann

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OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF BEING JUDGED
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ISSUE
NO.134
DECEMBER
2021
8 STEPS
TO STOP
YOUR
EVENING
BINGES
Do you sometimes sneak a late-night snack,
even after you’ve had a big dinner? Or worse,
do you find yourself binging at night?
Written by Mark Hyman, MD

Y
You are not alone! Are you
hungry after a big meal? Do you continue eating late into
the night? Millions suffer from this devastating problem
that leads to obesity, diabetes, and depression.
I call this the sumo wrestler diet. Have you ever
wondered how some of these men get so huge? They have
a giant meal and then go right to sleep — guaranteed to
pack on the pounds!
So, if you eat late at night just before bed, you’re on
the sumo wrestler diet, and you will gain weight and get
pre-diabetes. Your body will store the extra calories as fat
instead of processing and burning them.
So, how does this happen? Have you ever thought
about why, even after a big meal, you crave more food,
more sugar, and more junk, and you want to have chips
or sweets or other unhealthy foods? What is the root
cause of this, and how do we deal with it?
Balance Your Hormones
It’s not a character flaw or an emotional issue that
you have to fix. It’s not some psychological trauma that
you have to get over (although for some, night eating is
triggered by stress). It’s simple biology. All you have to
do is understand why these changes happen in your body
to make you crave food late at night, and then, you can
overcome them.
The underlying cause is an imbalance of the hormones
that regulate your appetite. These are what I call the
four hormones of the apocalypse. There are specific
things that trigger each of them, and if you understand
how to balance them, you won’t have cravings for sweets
and other foods … and you won’t be eating late at night.
These four hormones are the following:
• Insulin – A very important hormone that your body
produces to process the sugar in your diet. When your
insulin spikes then crashes after eating sugar and flour
or junk, it makes you hungry. This can even happen after
a large meal of ‘good food’.
• Leptin – This is the brake on your appetite. Leptin
says to your brain, “Oh, I’m full. I don’t need any more
food.” When you eat a lot of sugar, processed foods,
and flour, the leptin doesn’t work anymore. Your brain
actually becomes leptin resistant.
• Ghrelin – A ‘hunger hormone’ produced in your
stomach that helps regulate your appetite. Leptin sends
the message, “You should eat – I’m hungry!”
• Peptide YY – A hormone that is produced in your
intestines, and it says, “Hey, I’m full! I’ve had enough to
eat. I don’t need any more.”
There is also one other hormone we need to consider:
cortisol, the stress hormone. When you’re stressed, your
cortisol level goes up, and when that happens, you get
hungrier and your blood sugar and insulin levels rise.
This sets the stage for pre-diabetes or insulin resistance,
and it’s a vicious cycle.
So, all these hormones have to be kept in balance. How
do you get them in balance? Here are the eight steps you
should take to balance your hormones, stop the cravings,
and end the nighttime binges.
Eat breakfast. This is the key strategy to stop the
nighttime cravings. Of course, if you are binging at
night, you probably won’t want to eat breakfast, because
when you wake up, you’re still full. So, you have to break
that cycle, and you have to start with breakfast: a good,
protein breakfast. There are two breakfasts that I love
and use all the time. The first is eggs in any form you like:
as an omelet, fried, or poached. Eggs are a great source
of protein that helps balance your blood sugar. Be sure
to eat whole eggs, not egg whites. The second is a whole
food protein shake that can be made quite simply. I keep
all the ingredients I need in my cupboard, so it’s “goof-

proof,’” and I don’t have to think about it. It’s all there. I
put in hemp seeds, chia seeds, pumpkin seeds, walnuts,
almond butter, coconut butter, frozen cranberries, frozen
wild blueberries, and a little unsweetened almond or
hemp milk. I put those ingredients in the blender, and it’s
fantastic. If you have one of those for breakfast, it’ll keep
your blood sugar even all morning and all day.
Don’t drink your calories. If you have sugary, liquid
calories in the form of sodas, juices, lattes, sports drinks,
or iced teas, it will spike your insulin and blood sugar and
will cause cravings.
Eat regularly. Have breakfast, lunch, and dinner. If
you want a snack in between, that’s fine, but make sure
you eat at regular rhythms and regular times. Your body
is a hormonal clock, and you have to eat in rhythm to
keep it in balance.
Have protein and good-quality fat at every meal:
Good fats are nuts and seeds, avocados, coconut, olive
oil, or quality protein like chicken, fish, or grass-fed
meat. Some combination of these (plus lots of vegetables)
balances your blood sugar.
Find your pause button and soothe the stress.
Stress makes you fat (and overeat); relaxing makes you
thin. Learn to find your pause button and de-stress.
Breathing, yoga, and exercise are some of my favorite
ways to reduce stress, which helps reset the hormones,
balance brain chemistry, and stop the cravings.
Prioritize sleep. If you don’t sleep, you will be hungry,
especially for carbs and sugar. Why? Because when you
deprive yourself of sleep, ghrelin, the hormone that
drives hunger goes up and PYY, the hormone that makes
you feel full, goes down. So, if you want to lose weight,
sleep it off.
Find your food sensitivities. People don’t realize this,
but you often crave the thing you’re allergic or sensitive
to. And gluten and dairy are among the biggest triggers
for food sensitivity. Try to get rid of these for a few weeks
and see if your cravings stop.
Supplement to cut cravings. There are natural
molecules that balance your blood sugar and your insulin
and help stop the cravings.
• Omega-3 fats, especially fish oil - a couple of capsules
a day can really help.
• Vitamin D also helps regulate hormones and balance
insulin.
• There is also a super fiber supplement called PGX
that’s very simple to take. It’s made from a Japanese
root called glucomannan and seaweed. And it comes in
a powder or capsules. Take it 10 to 15 minutes before you
eat and after dinner, and it will help cut your cravings.
It slows the spiking of insulin and blood sugar, helps
make you feel full, increases the PYY, balances out all the
hormones, and stops the cravings. I’ve seen people lose
up to 40 pounds using this simple high-fiber supplement.
• Chromium, lipoic acid,N – Acetyl Cysteine (NAC)
can also help cut cravings.
• New studies show how branched chain amino acids
can also help balance your hormones, stop your cravings
and increase muscle mass.
About The Author
MARK HYMAN
Mark Hyman MD is the director of Cleveland Clinic’s Center for
Functional Medicine, the founder of The UltraWellness Center, and
a10-time #1 New York Times Bestselling author.
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December 2021 Issue
The Gullibility Factor:
7 Ways to Uncover the Truth
Written by Paul Napper, PhD, and Anthony Rao, PsyD
I
In an age when branding is
king, we’ve ¬become easily influenced by emotionally
appealing, strongly worded messaging. Many of us
readily adopt the views of people we see as attractive,
strong, decisive, and confident. These charismatic people
are adept at reading other people’s needs and wants, and
they know exactly what buttons to push to nudge us in
their direction.
When exposed to these strong influences, are you able
to keep yourself calm and centered? If you can’t, your
heightened emotions will move you from slower, logical
thinking to thinking that’s reactionary and impulsive.
Think of what happens when a mob of people is engaged
— is there much independent thinking going on?
Keeping your head during these moments is essential
to what’s called agency: the ability to act as an effective
agent for oneself — thinking, reflecting, and acting in
ways that direct us toward the lives we want. Agency
keeps you in control of your life. It requires you to
critically evaluate the powerful, emotionally appealing
messages coming at you that can forestall independent
judgment. But it’s not always as easy as it sounds.
The Case of Mike and the Hypnotist
Mike is a tall man in his early fifties who maintains
the athletic build of his college days. People gravitate
toward Mike. He’s friendly and funny, and he projects
confidence. He’s assertive about his viewpoints, and most
people consider him to be a smart guy. Mike has never
seen himself as gullible, but that changed on a cruise
ship in the Caribbean a few years ago.
“A hypnotist got me,” Mike admitted a bit sheepishly.
“It was a nightclub show we went to after dinner. Maybe
deep down, I wanted to get up on the stage with the
others, and somehow I just let go of thinking for myself.
The hypnotist started by telling the audience that only
some of us could be hypnotized. Before long, I was up
there, my wife later said, acting like a robot or something
and, honestly, I don’t recall much of it.”
That cruise ship experience led Mike to wonder if
maybe he wasn’t always the strong-minded, independent
guy he’d thought he was. Examining himself deeper led
to some interesting insights. As a boy, he recalled seeking
out strong, confident male role models. Fortunately, he
had good people to model, like his football coaches.
He recalled trying hard to impress male teachers he
admired. After college, Mike sought out successful men
to be business mentors who could guide him in his career.
Looking back, this desire to connect with other men and
get their approval made sense. Mike’s dad walked out on
his family when Mike was very young. Most of the male
relationships Mike has found since have been positive,
except for one.
Ten years ago, Mike was led into a bad financial
investment. As Mike explained: “I trusted this guy too
fast. He was senior, accomplished, and sounded smart.
I followed everything he told me to do, but he may have
been a bit of a con artist. I wanted to believe he would
help me. Men who sound powerful and talk a good game,
well, it can be a bit of a blind spot for me.”
Using Agency to Uncover the Truth
People with agency acknowledge they are no less
susceptible to gullibility than anyone else. In other
words, they acknowledge their gullibility. They regularly
examine themselves to figure out where their potential
blind spots are. What physical state leaves me most
vulnerable to being easily influenced (tired, hungry,
physically unwell)? Who am I most likely to be influenced
by? What situations? Groups? Men? Women? Attractive?
Smart? Socially aggressive? Hard to get to know and
aloof, or people who are gregarious?

People with agency also work at flagging ideas or
messages that sound powerful or seductive, and they
try to hold them at arm’s length. They try to adjust for
the persuasive marketing those ideas and messages are
packaged in. These are some of the ways they maintain
healthy skepticism. And yet they aren’t closed-minded
or oppositional. They know it’s important to be open to
new ideas, products, and ways of thinking. They know it’s
valuable to join in with groups, but they do so with their
eyes open, knowingly, not unthinkingly.
If something sounds too good to be true, here are a few
tactical approaches that will uncover the truth:
Hit the pause button. As soon as you sense someone is
trying hard to sell you an idea or a product, or if you feel
pressured to go along with the pull of a group, hit pause.
Consider what you’ve just heard. Mull it over in
your head. Does it still sound like it fits with how you see
things? Your beliefs?
Compare what you’re being told with what you
already know. Try to be factual. Fact-check, like a
journalist. Google it, and ask others you trust. Get a few
independent sources.
Seek out more information. Along similar lines, be
sure to seek out information as it’s needed before signing
on to anyone else’s beliefs. You should feel comfortable
and calm when you adopt another person’s or group’s
viewpoints or behaviors.
Ask reasonable and probing questions. Act like an
investigative reporter or a good talk-show host. One of the
best questions we ask in our work when we’re evaluating
the beliefs and ideas of others is: “That’s interesting. Can
you tell me how you arrived at that way of thinking?
Can you walk me through the steps?” There should be a
process they can identify. The steps should sound logical.
If not, they’re regifting a belief. It isn’t theirs, and it wasn’t
thought through. If they balk at answering you or they
double-down on a hard-sell message, be wary.
Keep your emotions in check. When you’re in a
highly emotional state — angry at someone, attracted
to someone, scared, moved by a poignant speech or
passionate sermon — you are more susceptible to losing
control of your logic and making poor decisions.
Check your personality type. If you know you are
a people-pleaser or a “harmonizer,” you are especially at
risk for conforming quickly, although, as we saw with
Mike above, even strong, assertive people can be gullible
at times.
Depending on the situation, our moods, the internal
physical state of our bodies, and our social needs at the
moment, any of us can fall prey to gullibility. We all
have the potential to lose a bit of our capacity to think
independently around attractive, powerful, persuasive
people.
Balance is key. We want to learn and grow from
engaging with the world around us. We need to be part of
the social fabric to be happy and healthy. And we all need
the admiration and acceptance of others, but we must
balance this with the need to hold on to the core parts
of ourselves through not abdicating our commitment to
think independently. Doing so will lead us to the life of
agency: a life we ultimately want — and deserve.
About The Author
PAUL NAPPER, PHD
ANTHONY RAO, PSYD
Paul Napper, PhD, leads a management psychology practice.
His client list includes Fortune 500 companies, non-profits,
universities, and start-ups. He held an advanced fellowship
during a three-year academic appointment at Harvard Medical
School (HMS).
Anthony Rao, PsyD, is a cognitive-behavioral therapist. For over
20 years, he was a pediatric psychologist at Boston Children’s
Hospital and an instructor at Harvard Medical School (HMS).
In 1998, he opened a specialized private practice. He appears
regularly as an expert commentator. Their new book is The
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With What
You Have
Written by Joan Herrmann
W
When I was a young girl,
like many other girls, I dreamed about what my
life would be like. College … career … marriage
… children … a house … a dog … and a big,
loving family surrounding me. That was my
dream. While some of it came true, many of my
expectations were shattered, and my life didn’t
live up to the fairy tale I had imagined.
For a while, that revelation had beaten me
down. I looked at others with envy, believing
that they were living the perfect existence, and
I longed for everything I thought I was missing.
And, when those things didn’t materialize, I was
lost.
Many of us look to external objects – things we
collect and acquire – and outside circumstances

to make us feel fulfilled. We
assume that those with more
material possessions, bigger
houses, nicer cars, larger
families, etc., have more for
which to be grateful.
However, interestingly,
research suggests the
opposite: it’s not how much
you have, but how you feel
about what you have that
makes the difference.
That’s why someone who
seems to “have it all” is
miserable, while others with
very little are full of joy.
As I’ve grown wiser, I’ve
learned that ultimately, being
happy with what you have is
a matter of focusing on the
good things, letting go of
unrealistic expectations, and
making yourself feel joy in
the present moment.
Here are a few strategies that I’ve picked up
along my journey that can help you live with a
more grateful heart:
Focus on your gifts and blessings. Think
about all of the great things that you do have,
not the things you don’t. There is a wonderful
quote that states: “If you have food in your
fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your
head, and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75
percent of the world.” Place emphasis on those
treasures.
Let go of the past. You can’t change the
past, so worrying about it does nothing for you
except rob your peace today. Learn from your
mistakes, vow not to repeat them, and move on.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Envy
is poison for happiness. Don’t focus on what
others have. Most people show their “A” game
and while it may look good on social media, you
don’t know what happens in private.
Release yourself from desires for material
things. Possessions are just things. A big house
or fancy car may be nice for the moment, but
eventually the newness wears off and you’re
back to being you. What good is the beach house
if you’re miserable in it?
Spend time with the people who lift you
up. There is nothing worse than being around
a person who complains. Negativity sucks the
life out of you. Surround yourself with grateful
people. Joy is contagious!
From The Story
“It’s not how
much you
have, but how
you feel about
what you have
that makes the
difference.”
Love the little things. Take time for small
pleasures. Be mindful and savor life’s treats. A
baby’s laugh. A beautiful flower. Playing with
children. Listening to music. A funny joke. All
of these moments become the snapshots of a full
life. Don’t miss them.
Change your attitude. The old adage of the
glass being half empty or half full sums up the
way you view your life. As Dr. Wayne Dyer stated,
“If you change the way you look at things, the
things you look at change.”
A happy life is an inside job; nothing “out
there” can bring you lasting joy. You determine
how you want to view your life. What do you
want to see?
About The Author
JOAN HERRMANN
Joan Herrmann is the creator of the Change
Your Attitude…Change Your life brand and host
of the radio show and podcast, Conversations
with Joan. She is a motivational speaker and the
publisher of 24 Seven magazine.
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ISSUE NO.134 DECEMBER 2021
OVERCOMING
THE FEAR
OF BEING
JUDGED
Written by Linda Mitchell, CPC, LMT

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What’s your gut reaction when
someone judges you? Do you get angry, feel bad about
yourself, internalize the comments, or change course to avoid
further judgement? What if you had an effective strategy to
help release upset and overcome the fear being judged?
Words have power. They can leave you feeling hurt and
vulnerable. Other peoples’ judgement can negatively impact
your opinion of yourself. You may begin doubting yourself
and your decisions. Confidence crumbles and ultimately
leads to fear of being judged, fear of making mistakes or fear
of taking risks - this can negatively impact your relationships,
jobs, social lives and of course, your self-esteem. It’s one of
the foremost reasons I see people shy away from following
their dreams or using their unique talents. Fear of being
judged keeps people from feeling free to be their authentic
selves, which keeps them from enjoying life to its fullest and
stepping out to make the important contributions they’re
destined to.
Here are some proven tips to help overcome this very real
fear.
Learn your strengths and limitations. Once you’re clear
on them, you’re less likely to be affected by what others say.
Judgements become somewhat irrelevant when you know
what you’re capable of. If someone uses unkind words about
something you’ve worked on, and you know it’s not one of
your strongest talents, you can more easily dismiss it.
Avoid looking for approval from others and be content
with self-approval. Start celebrating all your successes, big
and little, and really feel how good self-approval feels. Or
tackle something you’ve been avoiding. Once it’s done, stop
and notice how satisfying it feels. Starting or deepening a
spiritual practice helps too. Spending time alone reflecting
or journaling on your strengths inspires feeling good about
yourself, your successes and your decisions and bolsters you
against harsh judgements. This kind of consistent, positive
reassurance helps overcome the fear of being judged.
When you feel judged ask yourself: Was that person well
enough informed to judge you fairly? Were their comments
true? Do you truly value their opinion? Sadly, sometimes
people are jealous of your achievements, and may judge you
harshly to make themselves feel better.
Be very aware of your inner critic. That little voice in
your head can become deafening so it’s important to
recognize when negative thoughts creep in. If you let others’
judgements join your own negative self-talk, it’s much harder
to deflect it. Instead of letting it cloud your own perceptions,
remember and appreciate your value and worth.
Don’t dwell on the harsh words. Even though it hurts
in the moment, the memory will fade more quickly if you
don’t ruminate over it. What we focus on expands, so be
sure you’re not giving priority to the negative thoughts!
Remember, sometimes things just come out wrong. Give
others the benefit of the doubt and realize they probably
weren’t intentionally trying to hurt you.
Here’s an effective strategy to quickly deflect hurtful
judgements in the moment and keep yourself from
internalizing them. Create and practice an empowering
phrase to avoid getting offended. It might sound something
like: “Well that’s very interesting! What a unique perspective
you bring; I see the situation differently but really, thanks
for your input.” Remember, everyone has an opinion. Some
you’ll agree with and some you won’t. Your opinion of
yourself and your work is the most important.
It’s valuable to recall times you’ve taken risks that paid off in
a positive way. Remind yourself of all your accomplishments,
especially when you’re embarking on something outside of
your comfort zone or you’re not as sure of yourself as you
would otherwise be. Release judgements and do what feels
right for you despite what others may say because being true
to yourself will always pay off!
About The Author
LINDA MITCHELL
Linda Mitchell is a board-certified coach, speaker, intuitive healer
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December 2021 Issue
What Does Disorganization Cost?
Written by Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD®, CVPO
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Being disorganized and
living with clutter can take a toll on you:
body, mind, and spirit. Working with clients
who live with chronic disorganization,
I see first-hand the effects that being
disorganized can have. It doesn’t have to
be this way. Examining the underlying
reasons for the disorganization and/or
accumulated clutter, then taking even one
small action to mitigate these effects, can
have life-changing benefits.
Are you losing time by being
disorganized? Looking for things that
are out of place or hidden, or becoming
distracted, think shiny object syndrome,
can cause an average of one and a half
hours in lost time each day. Creating a
designated place for everything in your
home or office lets you find what you need
quickly and clarifies where to put it when
you’re done. No more guessing, “What do
I do with this?”
Are you losing money by being
disorganized? That 1.5 hours per day adds
up to over 500 hours per year. Multiply
that by how much you earn per hour
and see what the financial cost of being
disorganized can be. Add to that any
fines or penalties assessed for bills that
went unpaid because they got lost. Add
on repurchasing things that had to be
replaced because they went missing or
were damaged as a result of clutter or
neglect. What is the total?
Is your energy being sapped by
disorganization? Racing around looking
for the things that are out of place or
hidden, rushing to appointments because
you’re late, or doing things over and over
again because you didn’t do it right the
first time, puts a strain on the body. Not
only does it require physical exertion,
it causes mental and emotional stress,
which taxes the circulatory, respiratory,
and endocrine systems as well.
Are your relationships suffering as
a result of disorganization? If you’ve
surrounded yourself with stuff in your
home or office, you may unconsciously
be creating a barrier to intimacy or
friendships. At home, someone living with
chronic disorganization who shares space
with one or more people who are not
disorganized can cause volatile clashes
over the underlying issues of respect,
boundaries, and self-control. At work,
being disorganized, or even appearing
to be, can sabotage trust, reliability, and
opportunities for advancement.
Is your mental health affected by
disorganization? Do you beat yourself up
for not being good enough or thinking,
“Why can’t I do this? Everyone else can.”
You may be living with brain-based
conditions that affect your executive
function. If you haven’t been evaluated
and diagnosed, you may think that
something is wrong with you. There isn’t.
Your brain just works differently. You are
brilliantly you, and you’re amazing just
the way you are.
Committing to addressing your
organizing challenges and their
underlying sources can pay huge
dividends in terms of time, money,
energy, relationships, and your overall
mental health.
About The Author
GAYLE GRUENBERG
Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO
is the Chief Executive Organizer of Let’s
Get Organized, LLC, an Organizer Coach,
and the creator of the Make Space for
Blessings system.
To Learn More Visit:
www.LGOrganized.com.

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