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“I’m on two diets now...<br />
I wasn’t getting nearly<br />
enough food on just<br />
one”<br />
NOT our clients!<br />
All you need is ONE... the Right ONE!<br />
844-TANYA-DIET (826-9234)
STAFF<br />
Tanya Rosen Editor In Chief<br />
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THANKSGIVING<br />
VEGETABLE<br />
PLATTER<br />
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MY WEIGHT<br />
LOSS SURGERY<br />
JOURNEY<br />
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SUNNY LEVY<br />
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FASHION<br />
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LETTER FROM THE<br />
EDITOR<br />
CONFESSIONS OF A<br />
NUTRITIONIST<br />
LET’S GET<br />
COOKING<br />
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ASK THE PHARMACIST<br />
BY LUBA SURMAN-HESS<br />
MODESTLY YOURS<br />
BY JEN SHARBANI<br />
COFFEE BREAK<br />
BY KAREN BEHFAR<br />
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PARENTING<br />
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MY MIRACLE<br />
BY BASYA KOVACS<br />
THE MEANINGFUL<br />
MARRIAGE MANUAL<br />
BY DEBBIE SELENGUT<br />
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BY MAYA KARASANTI<br />
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MIZRAHI
Karen Behfar<br />
Lisa Buono<br />
Estee Cohen<br />
Rachel Essess<br />
Blimie Heller<br />
Writers<br />
meet<br />
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Yael Ishakis<br />
Malka Ismach<br />
Maya Karasanti<br />
Basya Kovacs<br />
Amy Lefcoe<br />
Sunny Levy<br />
Aliza Polstein<br />
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Rosen<br />
Dear readers,<br />
Welcome to the first <strong>edition</strong> of<br />
<strong>Health</strong> & <strong>Heels</strong>! I hope you are as<br />
excited as we are about this. Let’s<br />
start by talking about my love for<br />
salad.<br />
No, don’t worry, this isn’t gonna<br />
be diet talk. I’m talking about the<br />
concept of a salad. You’re not<br />
committing to a specific food or<br />
even texture; you just have a mix<br />
of everything you like and you can<br />
change up the flavors and colors<br />
and anything else you want. This<br />
magazine is a “salad” if you will.<br />
Our goal is to bring you anything<br />
and everything health related.<br />
Because health isn’t just the<br />
generic “eat right and exercise” but<br />
rather a “salad” of everything else<br />
too—emotional, mental, spiritual,<br />
financial and more—we bring you<br />
articles and features on all these!<br />
Tanya Rosen is the founder<br />
and owner of Nutrition<br />
by Tanya, with 12 locations<br />
throughout New York, New<br />
Jersey and Israel.<br />
Tanya is also the creator of<br />
the TAP (Tanya Approved<br />
Products) food line sold<br />
in all major supermarkets<br />
throughout the U.S.,<br />
including pastries, meals,<br />
kugels and more, all healthy<br />
of course.<br />
In these pages you will find articles relating to anything and everything a<br />
Jewish woman wants to read about and learn more about, all written by<br />
women across the globe and across the board in terms of specialities, stages<br />
in life, and in Judaism.<br />
You will also find a photo along with each column so you can put a face to<br />
the name, since our goal is to give Jewish women a voice and a face.<br />
A special mention to Basya Kovacs who dreamed up this project and<br />
patiently waited until I was finally on board. Also a special thank you to the<br />
entire team who jumped on board despite being so busy with everything<br />
else.<br />
Ladies, we would love to hear from you! For submissions please contact us<br />
at submissions@healthandheelsmagazine.com. For general questions,<br />
suggestions, topic ideas and anything else reach out to us at<br />
info@healthandheelsmagazine.com. Looking forward to hearing from you!<br />
Tanya can be reached by emailing<br />
tanya@healthandheelsmagazine.com.<br />
To follow her daily health tips on WhatsApp,<br />
send her a message at 917-913-1523.<br />
Tanya is the author of<br />
Cooking With Tanya and<br />
Gluten-Free Cooking With<br />
Tanya, both presenting<br />
healthy and gourmet yet easy<br />
recipes. Aside from nutrition<br />
and fitness, Tanya has always<br />
loved writing and is proud to<br />
represent Jewish women after<br />
choosing to become observant<br />
at the age of 19.
letters to the editor<br />
FROM OUR<br />
inbox<br />
ORTHODOX AND<br />
EMPOWERED<br />
Dear <strong>Health</strong> & <strong>Heels</strong>,<br />
I just wanted to thank you for this verymuch<br />
needed magazine. At a time when<br />
Orthodox women are being painted in a<br />
negative light, this is a huge opportunity<br />
to combat the negative press and make<br />
a kiddush Hashem. I also wanted to<br />
thank you for the video you posted<br />
in response to Unorthodox. It was so<br />
beautiful to see an empowered woman,<br />
who chose a frum lifestyle, telling the<br />
true story of what it means to be a<br />
frum woman. I know our community isn’t<br />
without issues; which community is? But<br />
the misinformation about frum women<br />
being oppressed and living in the dark<br />
ages is so false, and the fact that it is<br />
circulating out there demands a rebuttal.<br />
May this magazine be a step toward<br />
accomplishing that! And while the hype<br />
and shock of the Unorthodox series has<br />
mostly died down (of course it did; it had<br />
so little substance and was based on<br />
lies and falsehood), the opportunity to<br />
portray the beauty and empowerment of<br />
frum women should not be missed. Best<br />
of luck on your beautiful mission!<br />
Signed,<br />
A Frum and Inspired Mom, Wife,<br />
Business Owner<br />
LONG OVERDUE<br />
Dear Editor,<br />
I just want to thank you for launching this<br />
magazine. It seems to fill a great need I<br />
believe is long overdue! Maybe it’s because<br />
it’s not easy combining health, fashion and<br />
inspiration under one roof. I really hope<br />
you’re successful in doing that. Count me in!<br />
Signed,<br />
One of Your Most Excited Fans<br />
INSPIRING OUR DAUGHTER’S<br />
- AND OURSELVES<br />
Dear <strong>Health</strong> & <strong>Heels</strong>,<br />
Thank you so much for doing this! I have a<br />
10-year-old daughter and it is so important<br />
for her to have frum female role models<br />
showing her that she can achieve anything<br />
she wants and still keep her values as a bas<br />
Yisrael. Wishing you loads of hatzlachah!<br />
Signed,<br />
A Mom Who Cares<br />
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Confessions<br />
of a Nutritionist<br />
BY THE<br />
NUTRITION BY<br />
TANYA STAFF (OR<br />
THOSE WHO WERE<br />
WILLING TO<br />
CONFESS!)<br />
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Think your nutritionist’s eating<br />
habits are perfect? Of course<br />
they are! Except when they<br />
aren’t. Here’s the real truth<br />
about what sometimes goes<br />
on behind the scenes with the<br />
Nutrition by Tanya staff.<br />
Chana<br />
I always<br />
order a<br />
margarita.<br />
Jenny<br />
Ice cream.<br />
That’s my<br />
vice and I<br />
am proud<br />
of it!<br />
Ahuva<br />
Juicy latenight<br />
sandwiches<br />
are my thing.<br />
Tanya<br />
I like eating<br />
with my hands.<br />
Chavy<br />
Mozzarella<br />
sticks—<br />
enough said<br />
;)<br />
(And by the way,<br />
Tanya totally agreed<br />
with me on this one.)
HEALTHY BODIES<br />
healthy bodies<br />
Give<br />
Thanks<br />
without<br />
Gaining<br />
Weight<br />
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Thanksgiving<br />
is around the<br />
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Follow these carefully<br />
curated tips for a<br />
healthy and enjoyable<br />
Thanksgiving season.<br />
Thanksgiving DOs & DON’Ts. The<br />
calorie control council has estimated<br />
that the average American could<br />
consume as many as 4,500 calories on<br />
Thanksgiving day! Here are some tips<br />
to ensure that won’t be you!<br />
ONT<br />
DO: Eat the white meat only, not dark.<br />
DO: Eat breakfast and all your meals and snacks as usual.<br />
Don’t be tempted to “save” calories.<br />
DO: Drink a lot of water throughout the day to fill you up and<br />
eliminate fake hunger. Try drinking two cups of water right<br />
before the meal.<br />
DO: Find out the menu ahead of time if you’re a guest. This<br />
will help mentally prepare you and help you decide what to<br />
eat before you start smelling everything and making bad<br />
decisions in the moment.<br />
DO: Wear something tight, even a belt. This will be a physical<br />
reminder/barrier to overeating.<br />
DO: Offer to bring a salad or a healthy dish. Make sure to<br />
place this next to you as you’ll see that everyone will want<br />
some.<br />
DO: Start with salad or vegetables. Fill up at least half your<br />
plate with these.<br />
DO: Cheat smartly. If you’re going to cheat, do so in the right<br />
way. Have one portion of one tempting item. Have this sitting<br />
down and enjoy it slowly.<br />
DON’T: Have stuffing. Substitute with Melba Toast or<br />
rice instead. Half a cup of stuffing typically has 195<br />
calories!<br />
DON’T: Have cranberry sauce from a jar. Make your<br />
own instead. ¼ cup cranberry sauce from a jar can have<br />
up to 150 calories and 17 grams of sugar!<br />
DON’T: Have pumpkin pie or mashed potatoes, which<br />
usually have margarine and other additives. Have<br />
butternut squash or a small sweet potato instead.<br />
DON’T: Have apple pie. Instead, have a baked apple<br />
with some oats on top or just add cinnamon.
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Leftover Turkey?<br />
No Problem!<br />
Turkey is an excellent source of protein and well… it’s<br />
DELICIOUS! Those Thanksgiving turkey leftovers<br />
most certainly have a place… in our stomachs!<br />
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GET CREATIVE WITH SOME DISHES THAT<br />
INCORPORATE THOSE LEFTOVERS.<br />
• Grab your favorite veggies and leftover turkey and wrap<br />
it in some cabbage leaves for a healthy wrap.<br />
• Slice up some leftover turkey and toss it onto a salad.<br />
• Whip up some vegetable soup with broth and throw in<br />
some turkey cubes.<br />
• Layer a leaf of lettuce, a large slice of tomato and<br />
some onion on top of a thick turkey slice. Poke in some<br />
toothpicks through the layers and cut up into finger food.<br />
HOW TO KEEP YOUR TURKEY MOIST<br />
• Choose fresh over frozen; fresh will always come out<br />
tastier and juicier.<br />
• Keep the skin on during cooking to maintain the<br />
moisture (remove before eating).<br />
• Brine your turkey (you can search methods on Google).<br />
• Cook the stuffing separately. Avoid stuffing the cavity of<br />
the turkey as it will take the turkey longer to cook, which<br />
results in drier meat.<br />
• A thermometer is your friend and will help you make<br />
sure the turkey is fully cooked without overcooking it.<br />
• Let the turkey rest for 20 minutes<br />
before carving to allow the juices to<br />
redistribute throughout the turkey after<br />
cooking.<br />
• Skip the basting to avoid opening<br />
and closing the oven so that the<br />
temperature fluctuations don’t dry<br />
out the turkey.<br />
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Thanksgiving<br />
Vegetable<br />
Platter<br />
It’s easy to get lost at the<br />
Thanksgiving dinner table with so<br />
many food options, but a vegetable<br />
platter is a great way to fill up on<br />
healthy choices and stay focused<br />
on your goals.<br />
It’s colorful, appealing to the eye, can include<br />
a huge variety of vegetables and you can put<br />
several types of dressing on the side as well...<br />
including, of course, the healthier versions.<br />
Some vegetables can include:<br />
Cherry and grape tomatoes, baby carrots, celery<br />
sticks, broccoli, cauliflower, sugar snap peas,<br />
string beans, zucchini sticks, peppers, sliced<br />
cucumber, Brussels sprouts, asparagus, kohlrabi,<br />
beets, mushrooms, fennel, baby artichokes and<br />
more. So many options!
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Sweet<br />
Potato<br />
Pie<br />
DID YOU KNOW THAT<br />
A SINGLE SLICE CAN<br />
CONTAIN OVER:<br />
• 300 calories<br />
• 20g of fat<br />
• 20g of sugar<br />
• 50g of carbohydrates<br />
Avoid the store-bought pies and<br />
make sure to select the healthier<br />
recipes that omit sugar, crusts and<br />
other unnecessary ingredients.<br />
You won’t believe how delicious<br />
HEALTHY tastes.<br />
MYTH<br />
FACT<br />
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Skinless Turkey<br />
Has Less<br />
Calories and Fat<br />
It does have less calories and fat; however, not by<br />
that much. While the skin is the highest in calories<br />
and fat, the calories you save by removing it before<br />
baking are not significant enough to do so. It’s<br />
more of a moisture catcher—so just keep the skin on<br />
so your turkey maintains juiciness, and be sure to<br />
remove the skin off your portion before eating.<br />
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The<br />
by Tanya Rosen<br />
Trainer’s<br />
Take
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FEEL TIRED ALL THE<br />
TIME? TRY EXERCISING!<br />
This might sound like an oxymoron,<br />
because the last thing you feel like<br />
doing when you’re tired is exercising.<br />
However, exercise releases endorphins<br />
that leave you feeling a lot happier,<br />
less tired and a lot more energized!<br />
Getting in just a half hour of exercise<br />
could increase your focus and health as<br />
well as lower depression levels. Get off<br />
your chair and benefit your mind and<br />
body simultaneously!<br />
START BY DOING<br />
ANYTHING. FIND<br />
SOMETHING YOU LIKE<br />
AND GO FOR IT.<br />
Don’t get hung up on the details.<br />
You’ll get stuck before you even<br />
start. Getting in shape shouldn’t be<br />
a burden. Especially because one of<br />
the main goals of exercise is feeling<br />
good! Choose something that gets you<br />
excited, and start with it. It’s okay to<br />
start out with something easy as long<br />
as you are enjoying it!<br />
CHANGE YOUR MOOD<br />
AND YOUR LIFE, NOT<br />
JUST YOUR BODY.<br />
Misconception: Looking better on the<br />
outside is the best part about getting<br />
in shape.<br />
NOT TRUE!! Although looking better is<br />
an obvious benefit, the most satisfying<br />
part is the mood and energy changes<br />
you feel right after. Being in shape is<br />
beneficial for all areas of your life—<br />
physical, emotional and psychological.<br />
FIND WORKOUTS THAT<br />
MAKE YOU WORK.<br />
Don’t be lazy! If you want to see results<br />
you gotta put in the work! Step out of<br />
your comfort zone and do something<br />
spontaneously challenging. You’ll feel<br />
amazing when you’re done!<br />
“If it doesn’t challenge it’s not going to<br />
change you.”<br />
SET SMALL, ATTAINABLE<br />
GOALS YOU CAN REACH<br />
ALONG THE WAY, BUT<br />
HAVE ONE GOAL THAT<br />
KIND OF TERRIFIES YOU.<br />
Baby steps are the key to success.<br />
But long-term goals are what keep us<br />
going! Have a goal that almost scares<br />
you at the thought of reaching! The<br />
higher standards we have for ourselves,<br />
the more we accomplish.<br />
BE POSITIVE ABOUT<br />
YOUR PROGRESS!<br />
Look at how far you’ve come rather<br />
than how much farther you have to go.<br />
Be proud of yourself! Staying positive<br />
is one of the keys to keeping yourself<br />
on track!<br />
TIME FOR…TAP FINDS!<br />
What is a TAP Find? TAP finds are<br />
Tanya Approved Products—products<br />
you can buy in the supermarket that<br />
are healthy, good alternatives to<br />
something similar but less healthy, or<br />
portion-controlled treats.<br />
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“You can’t take care of others if you<br />
don’t take care of yourself.”<br />
SWITCH IT UP.<br />
Our minds and bodies get accustomed<br />
to our surroundings and patterns, so<br />
when we do the same exercise over<br />
and over, our muscles adapt to it to<br />
make it easier. This means our bodies<br />
won’t develop as much with the same<br />
training over time. Routine can also get<br />
boring, so switch things up to keep it<br />
interesting and more challenging!<br />
Tanya Rosen is the founder and owner<br />
of Nutrition by Tanya, with 12 locations<br />
throughout New York, New Jersey and Israel.<br />
Tanya is also the creator of the TAP (Tanyaapproved<br />
products) food line sold in all major<br />
supermarkets throughout the U.S., which includes<br />
pastries, meals, kugels and more, all healthy, of<br />
course. In addition, Tanya has published two<br />
cookbooks, multiple workout DVDs, and is a<br />
regular columnist for many popular Jewish<br />
magazines. She lives in Brooklyn with her<br />
husband and five children.<br />
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It’s TAP<br />
Finds Time!<br />
OH SNAP<br />
PICKLING CO.<br />
OH SNAP!<br />
not your<br />
ordinary snacks.<br />
Yes, they’re crunchy, delicious, and<br />
healthy—everything you love about<br />
pickles, carrots, green beans, snap peas,<br />
and jalapeños. However, OH SNAP!<br />
refrigerated, individually wrapped dill<br />
pickles and veggies have no added brine,<br />
so there’s less mess. Plus, they are singleserve<br />
so you can enjoy them with a meal<br />
or as a refreshing snack on the road, in a<br />
school lunch, or... right now!<br />
Okay now,<br />
how cool is<br />
this find!?<br />
Great for on-the-go<br />
snacking, on-the-road<br />
snacking...or just-aboutanywhere<br />
snacking! These<br />
crunchy, pickled veggies<br />
have no brine added, they’re<br />
also fat-free, gluten-free<br />
and most are zero calories<br />
per serving! Most count as<br />
free on our plan or free in<br />
moderation!<br />
Can be purchased at<br />
Tanya<br />
Walmart or Target.<br />
Enjoy your TAP!<br />
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Cool Beans<br />
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Balance<br />
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Dear Basya,<br />
I am 33 years old and<br />
have five children. I would<br />
like to lose the weight<br />
that crept up on me over<br />
the course of the past ten<br />
years. I have been on the<br />
plan since the summer and<br />
I am quite frustrated. I<br />
am having trouble losing<br />
weight at a steady pace,<br />
despite being perfectly on<br />
plan whenever possible.<br />
In the past 3½ months I<br />
have only lost 8-10 lbs.! I<br />
do have a lot of simchahs<br />
this season as well as<br />
community functions and<br />
parties but I always eat<br />
well at these events. Why<br />
can’t I lose weight?<br />
Signed,<br />
Frustrated<br />
Swap Small,<br />
Save Big<br />
Eye on Melaveh Malkah<br />
Dear Frustrated,<br />
I hear your frustration about trying so hard and not<br />
getting anywhere. Let’s break down the year a bit and<br />
see if we can troubleshoot the issue.<br />
There are 365 days a year. Of those days, many of them<br />
are what we consider maintenance days—meaning, it<br />
would be very difficult to lose weight those days, so at the<br />
very least, do your best not to gain weight. Those days<br />
include:<br />
Friday and Shabbos: 104 days<br />
Erev Yom Tov and Yom Tov, including:<br />
• Pesach: 8-10 days<br />
• Sukkos: 8-10 days<br />
• Chanukah: 8-10 days<br />
• Rosh Hashanah: 2-3 days<br />
• Purim: 2-3 days<br />
• Shavuos: 2-3 days<br />
• Vacation and travel: 10-15 days<br />
• Simchahs and birthdays parties, vach nachts,<br />
upsherins, etc.: 25 days (2x per month on average)<br />
• Restaurant meals/meals prepared outside your<br />
control: 25 days (2x per month on average)<br />
It's also important to realize that unless a restaurant is<br />
specially prepared for your diet, the portion sizes will<br />
generally be larger and the preparation methods will<br />
result in higher calories, even if your choices are on track.<br />
This means that there are a total of almost 210 days a<br />
year that are not losing days! Which means there are<br />
only about 155 actual losing days per year—an average of<br />
less than three days a week!<br />
The key here is patience! It is so common to get<br />
frustrated by the slower-than-expected pace and quit.<br />
But if you stick to it and accept that life throws us many,<br />
many challenges, you will reach your goal! Just hang in<br />
there—because quitting often means gaining the weight<br />
back, at which point you will probably have to start this<br />
whole process again, but the same challenges will keep<br />
coming back!<br />
Hopefully this will give you a more realistic perspective.<br />
Best,<br />
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Weight<br />
Loss News<br />
You May<br />
Have<br />
Missed<br />
by Basya Kovacs<br />
November Issue<br />
Warning:<br />
Side effects may include weight<br />
loss! Just a couple of months ago<br />
the FDA approved a drug to help<br />
weight loss among overweight or<br />
obese adults. The drug, Wegovy<br />
(semaglutide), “induces weight loss<br />
by reducing hunger, increasing<br />
feelings of fullness, and thereby<br />
helping people eat less and reduce<br />
their calorie intake,” according to a<br />
company statement.<br />
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Several experts said<br />
that this drug has the<br />
potential to seriously<br />
change care of patients<br />
when it comes to weight<br />
loss. Wegovy is the first<br />
new medication approved<br />
for weight loss since 2014<br />
and this one is a game<br />
changer, promising up<br />
to 15% weight loss, with<br />
some patients getting<br />
more than 20% after<br />
taking the drug for about<br />
a year.<br />
While a healthy and<br />
portion-controlled diet is<br />
always the recommended<br />
way to lose weight, this<br />
new drug may help<br />
people who have been<br />
struggling with appetite<br />
and finding it difficult to<br />
keep their portion sizes<br />
in check. Of course, like<br />
all weight loss drugs, side<br />
effects are likely to be<br />
more than just weight<br />
loss—so please discuss<br />
this with your doctor.<br />
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Wegovy is the first new<br />
medication approved for<br />
weight loss since 2014 and<br />
this one is a game changer,<br />
promising up to 15% weight<br />
loss, with some patients<br />
getting more than 20%<br />
after taking the drug for<br />
about a year.<br />
Basya Kovacs is passionate about all things health<br />
and weight loss. She is a nutrition counselor and<br />
manager at Nutrition by Tanya as well as the<br />
managing editor of <strong>Health</strong> & <strong>Heels</strong> Magazine. She<br />
is also a product developer and is the wholesale<br />
and product director for the TAP food line. She<br />
writes for several magazines and newspapers,<br />
and in the past several years her entertaining<br />
and informative lectures and workshops<br />
have become very popular. When she<br />
is not flying off to Miami she lives<br />
with her husband and five children in<br />
Clifton, New Jersey. For questions or<br />
for speaking engagements, please<br />
contact her at<br />
347-938-9113.
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Let’s Get<br />
Cooking!<br />
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As the saying goes, families that eat together stay<br />
together. But sometimes we get stuck trying to find<br />
recipes that are both delicious and nutritious. This<br />
recipe section will present recipes that are easy to<br />
make, healthy and designed to please even your<br />
pickiest eaters. So let’s get cooking!
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Overnight<br />
Oats<br />
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Oats are a wonderful source<br />
of fiber and have antioxidants<br />
as well as protein. Oats may<br />
lower cholesterol, help relieve<br />
constipation, and may improve your<br />
blood sugar level control. PLUS,<br />
oats are super filling, so they’re<br />
great to have when you’re trying to<br />
stave off hunger for a longer time.<br />
This recipe is a no-cook preparation<br />
of oatmeal that is made by<br />
marinating the oats in milk and<br />
warm cinnamon spice. Topped with<br />
fresh or dry fruit, this makes for a<br />
hearty breakfast or healthy on-thego<br />
snack.<br />
INGREDIENTS<br />
• 2 cups old-fashioned oats<br />
• 2 cups unsweetened almond milk<br />
• 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract<br />
• Pinch of salt<br />
• 2 tablespoons sugar-free maple<br />
syrup or your choice of sweetener<br />
• 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon<br />
• 2 tablespoons chopped almonds<br />
(optional)<br />
DIRECTIONS<br />
1. Combine all ingredients in a<br />
bowl and mix well.<br />
2. Pour into a jar or small<br />
individual containers and<br />
refrigerate overnight.<br />
3. Top with fresh fruits right<br />
before serving.<br />
WHAT YOU’LL NEED<br />
• Mixing bowl<br />
• Jar or container<br />
YIELD: 4 Servings<br />
COUNT EACH SERVING AS: Breakfast
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Banana<br />
Oat<br />
Muffins<br />
Did you know that bananas may help<br />
with constipation, heartburn and<br />
stomach ulcers? They’re also a great<br />
source of energy as well as vitamins C<br />
and B6, potassium and manganese.<br />
WHAT YOU’LL NEED<br />
• Mixing bowls<br />
• Loaf pan<br />
• Spatula<br />
• Cooling rack<br />
DRY INGREDIENTS<br />
• 1 ¾ cups whole oat flour<br />
• 1 cup rolled oats<br />
• 1 ½ teaspoons baking<br />
powder<br />
• 1 teaspoon baking soda<br />
• 2 teaspoons ground<br />
cinnamon<br />
• ¼ teaspoon salt<br />
WET INGREDIENTS<br />
• 3 ripe bananas, mashed<br />
• ¼ cup coconut oil<br />
• cup sugar<br />
• 1 egg<br />
• 1 teaspoon vanilla extract<br />
DIRECTIONS<br />
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COUNT EACH SERVING AS: 1 Snack<br />
1. In a bowl, mix the wet ingredients. In a<br />
separate bowl, mix the dry ingredients.<br />
Gently fold the dry ingredients into the<br />
wet ingredients.<br />
2. Line a loaf pan with parchment paper.<br />
Pour the batter into loaf pan. Bake<br />
at 350°F for 1 hour, until a toothpick<br />
inserted into the cake comes out clean.<br />
3. Cool on a cooling rack for 1 hour before<br />
serving.<br />
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A NARROW PATH<br />
My Weight<br />
Loss<br />
Surgery<br />
Journey<br />
by Leeba Wein<br />
The night I decide to<br />
go ahead with surgery I<br />
am at my in-laws’. It has<br />
been a beautiful Shabbos<br />
and melaveh malkah<br />
is underway. I am on a<br />
“dieting break,” which is<br />
a term that may seem to<br />
suggest that I am conscious<br />
of what I’m eating while<br />
still allowing myself some<br />
leeway, but it is just an<br />
excuse to gorge myself on<br />
whatever I see, which is<br />
exactly what I had done<br />
all weekend, and the week<br />
preceding that weekend.<br />
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Yet I always tell myself,<br />
and honestly believe, that<br />
Sunday is the day I will<br />
make it all go away. The<br />
constant cycle of dieting<br />
and losing and letting go<br />
and gaining will all come<br />
to an end this coming<br />
Sunday, when I start yet<br />
again.<br />
It is my husband who<br />
had opened my mind to<br />
the idea of surgery, one<br />
I had always been dead<br />
set against. I am not<br />
one of “those people.” I<br />
don’t need to go under<br />
the knife to turn my life<br />
around. I am a mature,<br />
responsible adult, wife<br />
and mother of two little<br />
kids while holding down<br />
a full-time job, who has<br />
the intelligence and<br />
capabilities of sticking<br />
to a diet plan, eating<br />
healthily and sticking<br />
to portion control. I just<br />
know it is only a matter<br />
of time and I will finally<br />
do what it takes.<br />
Yet I don’t. And with<br />
the cycle of eating and<br />
dieting and failing once<br />
again comes a bitter<br />
sense of self-loathing,<br />
one that makes me<br />
promise that I will never<br />
touch another morsel<br />
of cake or kugel. And<br />
my husband, who has<br />
watched me struggle<br />
for the four years he’s<br />
known me, watched how<br />
every failed attempt at<br />
weight loss sends me into<br />
a spiral of poor selfesteem,<br />
how a (to him)<br />
small problem keeps on<br />
casting a shadow over so<br />
many aspects in my daily<br />
life, suggests I look into<br />
surgery. His friends have<br />
done it. So many people<br />
we know have done it.<br />
This could be the solution<br />
to get me where I want<br />
to get.<br />
I balk at the idea. I will<br />
kick this habit and I will<br />
do it myself. I will not<br />
admit to failure.<br />
Secretly, though, I am<br />
enticed. I am certain<br />
I am not going to go<br />
ahead with it, yet I am<br />
interested enough to do<br />
some research. I log onto<br />
an online community<br />
forum and anonymously<br />
request information from<br />
other women who have<br />
been through the journey.<br />
I read the responses as<br />
they come in, and I’m not<br />
sure if I would prefer that<br />
they be persuasive or the<br />
opposite. Some comments<br />
are negative. Most of<br />
them are extremely<br />
encouraging. Yet I am<br />
adamant, I do not need<br />
surgery. I can do this<br />
myself.<br />
Surreptitiously, without<br />
admitting it even to<br />
myself, I begin inquiring.<br />
When someone tells me<br />
they or their relative had<br />
the sleeve done, I ask for<br />
the doctor’s name and<br />
whether they are happy<br />
about their decision. I file<br />
this information in my<br />
mind, yet am determined<br />
not to actually use it.<br />
It is a few weeks later<br />
on a Motzaei Shabbos<br />
when the fateful decision<br />
is made. Nothing has<br />
changed, yet that is<br />
precisely what leads me<br />
to this moment. Nothing<br />
has changed, and I am<br />
about to make that<br />
change.<br />
I realize what I knew<br />
all along. I cannot live<br />
my life to the fullest on<br />
this roller coaster. I have<br />
been doing this for as<br />
long as I can remember,<br />
a minimum of 15 years<br />
since childhood. I have<br />
tried every diet plan,<br />
every diet hack. I have<br />
tried rewarding myself<br />
and punishing myself. Yet<br />
nothing has changed.<br />
I take a long and hard<br />
honest look at myself. I<br />
have two options. I can<br />
either continue living in<br />
denial, continuing to ride<br />
the ups and downs of the<br />
journey I have always<br />
been on, always hoping<br />
“I can do this myself”<br />
for a better tomorrow,<br />
or I can steer the ship<br />
in a different direction,<br />
allowing my journey to<br />
change course, hopefully<br />
dramatically.<br />
I feel a thrill, an<br />
excitement at the<br />
prospect of finally<br />
getting to the destination<br />
I have been trying to<br />
reach for years now. And<br />
I feel shame. I am one of<br />
“those people.” I cannot<br />
control myself and need<br />
a surgeon to do it for me.<br />
Sunday morning, I<br />
am energized. I reach<br />
out to a couple of<br />
acquaintances who I<br />
know have gone through<br />
bariatric surgery. I choose<br />
carefully, as I am loath to<br />
admit to anyone I know<br />
personally that I am<br />
considering surgery. Yet<br />
I connect with a friend<br />
of a friend and the wife<br />
of one of my husband's<br />
friends and I start my<br />
inquiries. I learn that<br />
the sleeve gastrectomy,<br />
my preferred option,<br />
is the best option. I<br />
get information about<br />
the best doctor, the<br />
procedure and its<br />
aftermath, and life<br />
after. Everyone I ask is<br />
extremely encouraging.<br />
Life has changed for<br />
them, and for the better.<br />
I bombard them with<br />
questions. I want to know<br />
everything. If I am going<br />
to do this, I want to do<br />
this right. I collect the<br />
information I need, and I<br />
sit down to evaluate my<br />
options.<br />
I choose to use the<br />
doctor I have heard<br />
about most, one who has<br />
performed the procedure<br />
on many women I either<br />
personally know or<br />
have heard about. Yet I<br />
cannot call him. I sit on<br />
this information for a<br />
week or so, thinking and<br />
rethinking and evaluating<br />
my options.<br />
My weight has been such<br />
a determining factor<br />
in my life. Every event,<br />
every day had centered<br />
around my weight at the<br />
time.<br />
My successes, my failures,<br />
my pregnancies and birth<br />
of my two beautiful girls,<br />
nothing had bypassed<br />
that aspect of my life. It<br />
is time to let go.<br />
I make the call.<br />
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Leeba Wein (a pen name) is a freelance writer living in<br />
New York. For inquiries, she can be reached<br />
at leebawein@gmail.com.
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ASK THE PHARMACIST: WITH<br />
Luba<br />
Surman<br />
-Hess<br />
Being friends with Luba for 25<br />
years has many perks, but one<br />
of my favorites is never having<br />
to Google the name of any<br />
medication and hoping the info is<br />
accurate. Luba is a knowledgeable<br />
and experienced pharmacist with<br />
lots of experience in small and<br />
large pharmacies. As a woman<br />
herself and having dealt with many<br />
women over the years, Luba knows<br />
the real inside scoop on any meds<br />
and vitamins relating to women.<br />
In this ongoing column Luba will<br />
answer anything you want to know<br />
about meds without having to<br />
resort to Google and its dubious<br />
results. Send in your questions to<br />
Lsurman@gmail.com.<br />
QWhat over-the-counter medications<br />
A<br />
(OTCs) for allergies are safe<br />
to use during pregnancy and<br />
breastfeeding?<br />
You are pregnant or nursing a baby,<br />
you are tired, your back hurts, you<br />
might start crying at any moment...<br />
And now on top of everything you<br />
are dealing with allergies. Sneezing,<br />
runny and stuffy nose—those allergy<br />
symptoms are unbearable. But<br />
being pregnant or nursing puts a<br />
lot of restrictions on which overthe-counter<br />
medications you can<br />
use to treat allergies. It has been<br />
reported that 10 to 15 percent of<br />
women take an antihistamine to<br />
treat allergic symptoms. There is<br />
even a condition called pregnancy<br />
rhinitis (drip or runny nose) that<br />
may affect 20 percent of pregnant<br />
women and may present during the<br />
last six or more weeks of pregnancy<br />
without respiratory infection or<br />
allergic cause. The safest OTC<br />
options include saline nasal spray<br />
to decongest and loosen mucus,<br />
as well as nasal strips (e.g., Breath<br />
Right) to open up nasal passages.<br />
Antihistamines such as Doxylamine<br />
and Loratadine are considered a<br />
safe option during pregnancy to<br />
relieve sneezing and runny nose. For<br />
breastfeeding moms, according to<br />
LactMed (a peer-reviewed database<br />
part of the National Library of<br />
Medicines), second-generation<br />
antihistamines such as Claritin or<br />
Zyrtec are recommended over firstgeneration<br />
antihistamines such as<br />
Benadryl because the latter may<br />
decrease milk supply, especially<br />
before lactation is well established.<br />
Always check with your doctor or<br />
pharmacist before starting any new<br />
medication.<br />
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Luba Surman-Hess is a mom to two amazing children and<br />
a practicing pharmacist for 15 years. She is excited to be<br />
part of this incredible community and share her knowledge,<br />
empowering all women to take better care of<br />
themselves and their families.<br />
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Get Out<br />
of ‘Me’<br />
Way!<br />
by Aliza Polstein<br />
Just today I got a<br />
phone call from<br />
one of my dearest<br />
childhood friends.<br />
I could barely<br />
believe it had been<br />
16 years since we<br />
had last spoken.<br />
I always admired<br />
and—if I’m being<br />
completely honest—<br />
envied this friend.<br />
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She was born into a prominent<br />
rabbinical family whose illustrious<br />
lineage could be traced back many<br />
generations. She was smart and<br />
talented and it was clear from a<br />
young age that nothing would stand<br />
in her path toward greatness. Not<br />
me, though. I was born to people<br />
who had only recently discovered<br />
their Jewish faith.<br />
My lineage constitutes many<br />
generations of Jews ignorant of a<br />
Torah lifestyle. I was an average<br />
student without the benefit of<br />
having parents with a strongenough<br />
background to ever be able<br />
to help me with my limudei kodesh<br />
schoolwork. My parents were typical<br />
baalei teshuvah, learning the ropes<br />
as they went along, but some of the<br />
nuances that come from growing up<br />
frum were lost on us. I remember as<br />
a child telling my friends that I was<br />
going to “Agooda Midwest” for camp<br />
that summer. That’s how my parents<br />
pronounced “Agudah” and it was<br />
the source of tremendous comical<br />
entertainment to my sixth-grade<br />
friends. As a teenager I pushed the<br />
limits in different areas, and even<br />
within the confines of halachah I<br />
expressed myself more uniquely<br />
in my mode of dress than others<br />
around me. My entire framework of<br />
a frum lifestyle was based on the<br />
small community I grew up in, which<br />
provided me a very limited view.<br />
What I learned was: the stronger<br />
your Jewish background, the more<br />
successful you will be. Though I was<br />
socially popular and felt admired<br />
for my sense of style and talent for<br />
singing, in the things that “really<br />
mattered” I would never<br />
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measure up. And the thing was, I<br />
knew everyone else knew this too.<br />
Moving to a new city, I was able<br />
to shed some of that insecurity,<br />
feeling I could reinvent<br />
myself and be whoever<br />
I want. But regardless<br />
of how successful or<br />
accomplished I would<br />
become in certain areas<br />
of my life, deep down I<br />
suffered from imposter<br />
syndrome, afraid of being<br />
discovered for who I really<br />
was, incapable and unfit.<br />
I had trained myself<br />
as a young girl to view<br />
myself only in reference<br />
to the people around<br />
me. I existed in relation<br />
to my friends and their<br />
capacity to succeed, their<br />
level of intelligence and<br />
their overall proficiency<br />
in existing in our frum<br />
“system.”<br />
In catching up with my<br />
friend and telling her<br />
about my life—my job and<br />
accomplishments—she<br />
responded with<br />
sentences like<br />
“I’m shocked!”<br />
and “how do you<br />
know how to do<br />
that?”<br />
Right then and there I<br />
realized how paralyzed<br />
I had been for so many<br />
years, shooting myself down<br />
with those same responses,<br />
shocked at my aspirations<br />
and questioning my own<br />
abilities. It dawned on me<br />
that I had been seeing<br />
myself through the eyes<br />
of others—or at least<br />
what I assumed they<br />
saw—and therefore blind to my own<br />
self worth, capabilities and strengths.<br />
I have begun to crawl out of the hole<br />
that was conceived by my perception<br />
of other people’s expectations for<br />
me. I am no longer the person<br />
binded by what others believed to<br />
be inaccessible to me based on my<br />
upbringing and background. I feel<br />
liberated by the knowledge that<br />
the only person keeping me from<br />
accomplishing my dreams is me. And<br />
I pray for the courage to get out of<br />
my own way.<br />
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Aliza Polstein is the program coordinator for Chicago Torah Network and<br />
has led trips to Israel, given weekly chaburos and maintained relationships<br />
with Jewish women from all backgrounds. Aliza is a role model to women<br />
throughout the community as they navigate their lives. She is very passionate<br />
about women’s learning and growth. Recently, she launched Soul Purpose,<br />
an organization created to give frum women opportunities for<br />
connection, mentorship and personal growth.
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Sunny Levi<br />
Several months ago my mother invited me<br />
to Chicago to participate in a program she<br />
was organizing, called Soul Purpose. The<br />
program, an inspirational two-day seminar<br />
for women from frum backgrounds, boasted<br />
an impressive itinerary filled with workshops<br />
and lectures designed to allow us return to<br />
our everyday lives inspired and empowered. It<br />
all sounded amazing. Just not for me.<br />
I would love to say I was hesitant because I am<br />
incredibly busy with work and family, which I<br />
am. But if I am being honest, it’s actually that<br />
I have a very short attention span, and<br />
tend to be somewhat of a cynic when<br />
it comes to group inspiration. (Of<br />
course this is exactly why my<br />
mom invited me.) So I spent<br />
the next few weeks trying<br />
to politely decline.<br />
tickets<br />
from Newark,” I<br />
told my mom, several<br />
days before the event.<br />
“I found one leaving from<br />
LaGuardia on Sunday morning,”<br />
she replied. “But they are<br />
ridiculously expensive,” I<br />
informed her. “Abba and I<br />
are happy to pay for it,” she<br />
countered almost before I<br />
said it.<br />
I totally saw that one<br />
coming. But I don’t<br />
want to, I whined<br />
(to myself). “But<br />
the kids, work,<br />
“I checked, and<br />
there are<br />
really no<br />
clients...life...” I continued feebly, knowing it was<br />
just a matter of time before I caved. One thing<br />
about my mother is that she is highly persistent.<br />
And so a few days later I resignedly packed<br />
an overnight bag and headed to Chicago for<br />
two days of “doing what I gotta do to make<br />
mom happy.” I rescheduled my clients, made<br />
arrangements for my children, and got on<br />
the plane, hoping the program wouldn’t be a<br />
waste of time. At least I’ll get to see my mom, I<br />
consoled myself.<br />
Well….let me just say...sometimes mothers really<br />
do know best. I was completely blown away by<br />
the event. The first thing that struck me was<br />
that everyone there was just like me: normal,<br />
down-to-earth women juggling families, work<br />
and other obligations. Each one had sacrificed<br />
to take a few days out of their busy schedules to<br />
focus on personal growth.<br />
The entire event surpassed all expectations<br />
(okay, not that difficult considering I had come<br />
with pretty much none), but the highlight of the<br />
program was the keynote lecturer named Sunny<br />
Levi.<br />
A little about Sunny: Aside from being a<br />
motivational speaker, Sunny Levi is a<br />
mother of six, a seventh-degree black-belt<br />
taekwondo master, personal trainer, and a<br />
yoga and self-defense instructor. Sunny<br />
was like no one I had ever met before.<br />
Low key and unassuming, with an<br />
understated sense of humor, Sunny<br />
captivated us all with the story of<br />
her personal journey of growth<br />
and connection with Hashem.<br />
She spoke several times over<br />
those two days, leaving us<br />
awed and empowered in a<br />
way that was completely<br />
unexpected.<br />
So when this magazine<br />
actually began taking<br />
shape, I knew I needed<br />
Sunny on board. And true<br />
to form, in her no-fuss,<br />
low-key way, Sunny agreed<br />
to share her story with our<br />
readers. And so, I present<br />
to you….<br />
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Some call me out-ofthe-box.<br />
Others call<br />
me an anomaly. I just<br />
call myself me, Sunny<br />
Levi. A mom. A wife. A<br />
G-d-loving Jew.<br />
I’m also a seventh-degree black<br />
belt taekwondo master.<br />
And to put that into<br />
perspective, there are fewer<br />
than 10 female certified<br />
seventh-degree black belts in<br />
the country, and I am one of<br />
them. With all due humility,<br />
I’m proud to say, my name is<br />
inscribed on a wall somewhere<br />
at the revered “Kukkiwon,”<br />
the World Taekwondo<br />
Headquarters, in Seoul, Korea.<br />
I’ve won many medals and<br />
trophies at state, national<br />
and international martial arts<br />
competitions.<br />
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Once I got my driver’s license<br />
and could drive myself<br />
downtown to acting classes<br />
and auditions, I worked hard,<br />
got those coveted callbacks,<br />
and prevailed my way into<br />
commercials and films,<br />
becoming a card-carrying<br />
member of the Screen Actors<br />
Guild.<br />
I married a Harvard-grad Jew<br />
who spent time meditating in<br />
the ashrams of Southeast Asia,<br />
a classic Bu-Jew. Following our<br />
Orthodox Jewish wedding, we<br />
honeymooned for five months<br />
in Thailand, toured around<br />
Two years ago we picked up<br />
and moved to Arizona. Now,<br />
one of my favorite pursuits is<br />
sharing my story in hopes of<br />
inspiring others to become their<br />
true selves.<br />
So how did this all come<br />
together?<br />
Well, to understand me better<br />
we need to put some things in<br />
context. Let’s go back in time<br />
to 1968 when my story began.<br />
To be continued…<br />
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I got involved in martial arts<br />
“by accident” when I was eight<br />
years old, and I immediately<br />
fell in love with it. It spoke to<br />
me. The discipline, the rigor, the<br />
certainty—I don’t know what<br />
exactly. But ever since then,<br />
for the past 35 years, I’ve been<br />
training, competing, teaching,<br />
preaching and coaching<br />
empowerment.<br />
Some of my other passions<br />
include eating green, clean,<br />
natural foods, hiking and<br />
yoga, giving birth at home and<br />
cracking up on the couch with<br />
my husband and six kids, and<br />
talking to G-d.<br />
Three of our kids are black<br />
belts, with the younger three<br />
poised to move up the ranks.<br />
My oldest daughter, Eden,<br />
wrote and published a book for<br />
teens on emunah, faith.<br />
I grew up in Chicago, the third<br />
of six kids, the oldest girl—we’re<br />
three and three—sandwiched<br />
between my youngest brother<br />
and my older one, who is blind<br />
with severe mental disabilities.<br />
Growing up, Hollywood and the<br />
Olympics were my lodestars.<br />
Bangkok on a motorcycle, and<br />
two years later made aliyah to<br />
Israel.<br />
Fast forward to today, my<br />
husband Daniel, the son of<br />
a Reform rabbi, boasts three<br />
Rosh Hashanahs spent deep in<br />
prayer at the tomb of Rabbi<br />
Nachman of Breslov in Uman,<br />
Ukraine.<br />
Between adjusting to my<br />
brother’s disabilities, my<br />
dad’s illness and death, my<br />
autoimmune condition, and<br />
more, Emunah and hitbodedut<br />
have been pivotal in my life.<br />
Sunny Levi is a mother of six, a seventhdegree<br />
black-belt taekwondo master,<br />
personal trainer, yoga and self-defense<br />
instructor, inspirational speaker, writer and<br />
teacher of personal prayer. In addition to<br />
teaching and coaching women and children<br />
both in person and online, Sunny also works<br />
as a martial arts therapist at Kids Kicking<br />
Cancer where she helps children with chronic<br />
illness overcome the fear and physical<br />
discomfort of their condition and treatment.<br />
Sunny is passionate about spreading<br />
emunah, eating clean, drinking green, hiking<br />
and talking to G-d. She and her family<br />
recently moved from Chicago to Scottsdale,<br />
Arizona. You can keep up with her on<br />
Instagram at @sunnyblackbelt or<br />
Facebook at Sunny Ariella Levi, or<br />
Sunny’s Martial Arts and Fitness.
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Reflections<br />
by Tirzah Suissa<br />
The Torah<br />
answers a<br />
question that<br />
science does<br />
not: How shall<br />
we live?<br />
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While science explains how the world came<br />
to be, Torah congruent with science goes<br />
beyond the creation of the physical. It<br />
has, in fact, to do with our moral and<br />
spiritual situation in the universe. Some<br />
may argue that Torah is a compilation of genealogies,<br />
prophecies and laws. However, it previously tells us the<br />
most fascinating stories of the relationship between G-d<br />
and His people, who were created in His image.<br />
This column will examine the life of female characters in<br />
Tanach. These women were perverse queens, prostitutes,<br />
prophetesses, rich, poor, married, single, widows, young<br />
and old. Far from being fictional characters, they are real<br />
women who fought tragedy, or perhaps were the cause<br />
of it. Women who risked their reputation for others, full<br />
of compassion and wisdom to overcome challenges. Their<br />
life stories can depict the similarities between their lives<br />
and ours, helping us understand and thereby enrich our<br />
relationship with G-d.<br />
Succeeding the creation of Adam and Chava in Bereishit,<br />
the scenery to the story rapidly changes from paradise<br />
to a fallen world. As the stories unravel, it exposes the<br />
nature of the biggest problems in the human race and<br />
the origin of our worst sufferings. Throughout Tanach<br />
we learn to recognize the battle that mankind has been<br />
grappling with: our search for our Creator, the search to<br />
fill a place in our existence that belongs to a relationship<br />
with the Almighty.<br />
Chava’s name means “mother of all life.” She was<br />
conceived in a world that was at complete peace with its<br />
Creator. She lived in Gan Eden with Adam and enjoyed<br />
all the pleasures of a pure life. She had not known<br />
shame, hurt, jealousy, bitterness or suffering. Ultimately,<br />
she was tempted by the serpent who persuaded her to<br />
eat the forbidden fruit that G-d strictly commanded them<br />
not to eat. Soon afterward, they heard Hashem’s voice<br />
and hid from embarrassment, fear and shame.<br />
From that moment, Chava was punished and the<br />
punishment centered on pregnancy and childbirth. The<br />
Talmud asserts that Chava was given 10 curses, seven of<br />
which are learned from Bereishit 3. It says, “And to the<br />
woman He said, ‘I will make most severe your pangs in<br />
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childbearing; in pain shall you bear children. Yet your<br />
urge shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over<br />
you.’” Man and woman were banned from Gan Eden and<br />
were destined to live a life of arduous work until finally<br />
their bodies returned to dust.<br />
Chava was the first woman to conceive a child and the<br />
first to have a fertilized egg in her uterus. Despite the<br />
pain during labor, she recognized now that her life was<br />
indeed in Hashem’s hands: “Now the man knew his wife<br />
Eve, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, ‘I have<br />
gained a male child with the help of the Lord.’” On this,<br />
Rashi adds that men and G-d were copartners in the<br />
creation of life.<br />
Throughout centuries, women had to bear the results<br />
of labor, the pain, confusion and disorder associated<br />
with the birth of a child. However, what arises from this<br />
experience is the magical connection between mother<br />
and a child, something that only the Creator of life could<br />
provide to mankind.<br />
I once heard from a mother at a hospital share: “I think I<br />
understand G-d better. I generated something that I love<br />
deeply but I can’t control.<br />
”Perhaps we can take some time while davening to go<br />
to a quiet place, surrounded by the beauty of creation,<br />
and meditate on how life must have been in Gan Eden.<br />
Imagine how it could be to live life in peace with all<br />
your relationships, not ever feeling shame or confusion.<br />
Maybe we can thank Hashem for creating us capable of<br />
reflecting on love, truth, strength, goodness, wisdom and<br />
beauty.<br />
Thus, Torah answers the question that science does not:<br />
the Jewish understanding of G-d and humanity. We are<br />
G-d’s ezer kenegdo. As the rabbis say, we are His shutaf<br />
bema’aseh bereishit, His partner, His helper, in the work<br />
of creation.<br />
From that covenant between G-d and the human<br />
individual we have gradually, over the centuries, learned<br />
to build a society founded on relationships. First by<br />
creating a marriage. Then by creating a family. Then<br />
by creating a tribe. Then by creating a nation. And,<br />
ultimately, by creating a world.<br />
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philosophy and the aspects of emunah in daily life. She was born in<br />
Brazil, moved to Israel at the age of 18 where she attended the Hebrew<br />
University of Jerusalem, and later seminary. Tirzah currently<br />
resides in Brazil as she completes her medical degree. She<br />
is frequently in the United States working for Shabbat.<br />
com, representing its social media as global ambassador.<br />
Please feel free to reach out to her through Shabbat.<br />
com or through getemunah@outlook.com. Follow her on<br />
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I love that I can<br />
effect change in<br />
Heaven.<br />
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Rav Moshe Cordovero teaches us in<br />
Sefer Tomer Devorah that when we<br />
express mercy toward one another, we<br />
bring this element of Heavenly mercy<br />
into the world. Plain and simple.<br />
Except that it’s not that simple.<br />
Emulating Hashem’s 13 Attributes of<br />
Compassion is not how we are wired.<br />
It goes against our nature to not take<br />
revenge and/or give the benefit of<br />
the doubt. We have to be committed<br />
to conquering that nature in order to<br />
have a chance at success.<br />
It can be confusing where to focus on<br />
getting started with change. We are<br />
inclined to say things like, “From now<br />
on I’m going to be a better person”<br />
or “I am going to start being nicer<br />
to people.” It sounds like a plan but<br />
it’s really our yetzer hara leading us<br />
to failure by offering up a plan that<br />
quiets that nagging voice of “I really<br />
should be working on my middos” but<br />
doesn’t offer any kind of real direction<br />
or practical, measurable results. So<br />
what do we do?<br />
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I find the attribute “Mi kamocha, Keil—<br />
Who, Hashem, is like you” an excellent<br />
place to start. It’s an easy middah<br />
to understand once we learn it, and<br />
there are many practical opportunities<br />
to emulate it in our day-to-day<br />
interactions. “No sin has ever been<br />
committed unless at the very instant<br />
the person was sinning, Hashem was<br />
knowingly granting him the power<br />
to exist and move his limbs.” When a<br />
person does an aveirah, he sins with<br />
the very gifts G-d gives him! Certainly,<br />
Hashem could withhold those gifts at<br />
any given moment, but He doesn’t.<br />
Instead, He “endures and tolerates<br />
disgrace until the sinner returns in<br />
teshuvah.” In simple words, Hashem<br />
could seal a person’s lips together or<br />
make all of his teeth fall out while he<br />
shares a juicy piece of gossip but He<br />
doesn’t. Instead, Hashem “bears the<br />
insult and endures the offense until we<br />
do teshuvah.” Wow—that’s pretty nice<br />
of Him.
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SO HOW DO WE EMULATE<br />
THAT IN OUR INTERPERSONAL<br />
RELATIONSHIPS? LET’S LOOK AT<br />
SOME SCENARIOS:<br />
You really need help with a shul fundraiser that you are<br />
chairing and your good friend Malkie is not rising to the<br />
occasion. She keeps telling you about how busy she is and<br />
her crazy schedule. What is her problem? Does she think<br />
you have tons of free time to work on this? You are so<br />
frustrated with her and filled with judgment. A few months<br />
later she is working on a fundraiser for the school. She asks<br />
you if you could take a few small things off her list. What<br />
do you do?<br />
You participated in making the time surrounding Pessi’s<br />
simchah special (cooking, decorating, hosting, etc.). It was<br />
a ton of work but you were happy to participate. After<br />
all, your families have been friends for years. When it was<br />
time for your simchah, she was one of the few friends who<br />
didn’t do anything. Your feelings were hurt but you decided<br />
to let it go. In time, you brought over a beautiful dinner to<br />
comfort her family during a time of loss. When you needed<br />
a comforting dinner soon after, she once again dropped the<br />
ball. How are you feeling about the friendship right now?<br />
A close, extended family member did something that<br />
affected your plans and it made you mad. When she calls<br />
you that afternoon, you don’t pick up the phone. As a<br />
matter of fact, you’re not even going to respond to her text.<br />
The next day you hear some good news that you would<br />
typically share with her regarding another family member,<br />
but you decide to keep it from her. Is this now the new<br />
relationship?<br />
In all these cases, you have<br />
been harmed and hurt. It seems<br />
reasonable and fair to withhold<br />
your good in the future. But guess<br />
what? These are custom-made<br />
opportunities to emulate Hashem.<br />
The first thing is to recognize<br />
them and the second is to seize<br />
them! By giving others the benefit<br />
of the doubt and not withholding<br />
your good you will experience<br />
the delectable flavor (fat free)<br />
of conquering your nature, give<br />
Hashem nachas, and be the<br />
catalyst for bringing this element<br />
of mercy into the world!<br />
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Amy Lefcoe is a Jewish educator<br />
and loves sharing her passion for<br />
Torah and Jewish outlook. She is a<br />
teacher at BINA Girls High School<br />
in Norfolk, VA, and speaks for<br />
women’s groups locally and in Israel.<br />
Amy is a graduate of The Fashion<br />
Institute of Technology and has<br />
pursued Jewish studies over the past<br />
three decades. She is a certified<br />
emunah and marriage coach through<br />
Machon HaAdam HaShalem and<br />
remains an active participant in the<br />
organization’s personal growth and<br />
G-d-centered chaburas. In addition,<br />
she is a graduate of the revolutionary<br />
Shiras Sarah Teachers Training<br />
Fellowship. Amy spends her time with<br />
her husband Kevin, children, family<br />
and dear friends. She can be reached<br />
at alefcoe626@gmail.com.
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Attitude of<br />
Gratitude<br />
by Lisa Stein<br />
It was only after the loss that I was able<br />
to appreciate what was in front of me. Of<br />
course after the loss of a loved one we<br />
mourn and wish they were still with us.<br />
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The loss I’m talking about is<br />
the loss of the ability to use<br />
my arms and legs. Painful<br />
arthritis is part of a chronic<br />
condition I have had since I<br />
was 20 years old.<br />
When my Crohn’s disease flares, the<br />
arthritis can come on strong and can be<br />
debilitating. It was right around the time I<br />
was getting engaged to my husband that<br />
the arthritis was so bad, my arms could<br />
not even lift the telephone to speak to my<br />
then-fiancé. It was extremely hard for me<br />
to feed myself, dress myself, and do other<br />
activities of daily living. And right before<br />
my wedding, which was another stressful<br />
time, my legs decided to give out. I could<br />
not climb stairs, it was hard for me to turn<br />
over in bed, and obviously walking was<br />
a chore. I was afraid that I wasn’t going<br />
to be able to dance at my own wedding!<br />
But with help from my doctors and of<br />
course the love from Hashem (and some<br />
prednisone) I recovered just in time. Those<br />
two separate incidents taught me to be<br />
grateful every single day for these things<br />
that we take for granted.<br />
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Being thankful and showing gratitude—it’s<br />
something we all have access to every day of<br />
the year. It doesn’t cost a penny, doesn’t take too<br />
much time, and the health benefits both mentally<br />
and physically are enormous. Gratitude reduces<br />
a multitude of toxic emotions. Our brains have<br />
neuroplasticity, which means whatever we feed it<br />
is the way it’s going to grow. So if you are a more<br />
positive person, your brain will start to make those<br />
connections, and instead of going to the negative<br />
first you’ll think of something more positive to get<br />
you through.<br />
Gratitude is also known to reduce envy, which is a<br />
very big problem these days. With everybody on<br />
social media showing their “perfect” lives, it’s hard<br />
to look inward and be grateful for all that you have.<br />
But doing so will help you realize that Hashem has<br />
given you everything you need at that exact moment<br />
to do what you need to do in this world. That doesn’t<br />
mean you can’t pray and hope for more, but just<br />
remember that you may not need whatever you’re<br />
asking for at that exact time.<br />
Gratitude can lead you to feel better about your<br />
circumstances, which in turn will make you feel<br />
better about yourself. Expressing gratitude to our<br />
significant other results in improved quality of the<br />
relationship. Showing our gratitude to loved ones is<br />
a great way to make them feel good, make us feel<br />
good, and make the relationship better in general.<br />
Another benefit both to ourselves and others is<br />
that gratitude can decrease our self-centeredness.<br />
Evidence has shown that promoting gratitude can<br />
make one more likely to share with others even at<br />
the expense of themselves and even if the receiver<br />
was a stranger.<br />
My husband and I were extremely grateful recently<br />
to be able to host for Shabbat an Israeli soldier who<br />
unfortunately lost both of his legs from the knee<br />
down during his time in the Israeli army. He came to<br />
New York to receive new prosthetics, which he does<br />
every few years. Even though we never met before,<br />
it was my honor to open my home to him and his<br />
family. Even with the language barrier, there are<br />
nonverbal ways to communicate and “speak” to one<br />
another. When he left, again I was brought back to<br />
the time where I unfortunately briefly had trouble<br />
with my own legs. I can’t even imagine what he<br />
was going through! The way he went up and down<br />
my stairs with his prosthetics was nothing short of<br />
amazing! And he did it with a smile, which makes<br />
him my hero. How many people do you know who<br />
spend their life complaining, agonizing over this and<br />
that, and always looking at the negative side? Even<br />
during COVID I’ve heard of couples meeting in the<br />
most unusual ways, which they wouldn’t have if not<br />
for the pandemic. And many people recuperating<br />
from COVID are so grateful to be alive and well.<br />
No two people have the same exact lives, and you<br />
have a unique purpose in this world to fulfill. Instead<br />
of looking outward, try to look inside of yourself and<br />
see what you could be grateful for in your own life.<br />
Start by asking yourself what is going well in my life right now,<br />
what and whom have I taken for granted, in which area can my<br />
growth really make a difference? Maybe it’s in your marriage; do<br />
you truly appreciate what your spouse brings to your relationship?<br />
When was the last time you told him/her? I hear this all the time<br />
in my private practice; we think our spouse is a mind reader and<br />
that if we’ve been married for so many years, then why don’t they<br />
know what we need! This is a terrible assumption. Try to spend at<br />
least half an hour a day face-to-face with your spouse, not talking<br />
through walls, and always looking at each other’s faces to build<br />
emotional connection.<br />
To me health is everything. But without experiencing trying<br />
times in our lives it’s difficult to remember to thank G-d for what<br />
we have. There is a prayer that I say before lighting Shabbat<br />
candles that includes the line “Thank You for the periodic times<br />
that are difficult for me for only that way they enable me to fully<br />
appreciate the good times, for only after being in the darkness<br />
one can appreciate the light.”<br />
Lisa Stein is a psychotherapist practicing in Great Neck, New York.<br />
She works with adults, has a general practice, and specializes in<br />
trauma. She welcomes your comments at steinismine@gmail.com.<br />
Lisa Stein, LCSW EMDR Therapist<br />
Great Neck, NY / 516-592-9877<br />
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wellness & beauty<br />
November Issue<br />
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makeup<br />
by Lisa Buono
Hi! I’m Lisa and I<br />
have seen a lot of<br />
faces. Trust me, no<br />
two faces are alike!<br />
So learning to wear<br />
makeup suitable for<br />
your skin, eyes, and<br />
face is so important.<br />
Trendy makeup styles are fun but simply do not work<br />
for everyone at every age. Keeping skin youthful is<br />
the best way to look your very best. Learning about<br />
your skin’s needs and taking care of your skin is a big<br />
reason celebrities look so fabulous. Simple makeup<br />
tricks can create amazing illusions, but placed<br />
improperly or using too much for the wrong occasion<br />
can be a disaster. Starting with good skin care,<br />
understanding your facial features, and working some<br />
Hollywood makeup magic are some great steps to<br />
creating the very best version of you! You can be red<br />
carpet ready all the time! Remember, a trend is fun<br />
and fabulous but good skin care and correct makeup<br />
will be timeless!<br />
wellness & beauty<br />
fact<br />
All cosmetics are primarily made of two main<br />
components. Pigment and vehicle. Pigment is<br />
color and vehicle is the substance used to move<br />
the pigment. So if you have a nude illuminating<br />
foundation it would consist of nude pigments and<br />
a form of silicone to give you that dewy, youthful<br />
look. Other examples could be setting powder.<br />
The vehicle may be mineral-based with pigment.<br />
Some brands use more vehicle than pigment,<br />
creating sheer-coverage cosmetics.<br />
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So until we speak again, remember:<br />
Beauty is not only skin deep, but healthy skin is the<br />
picture that displays every bit of you. So join me here<br />
for some of Hollywood’s best-kept secrets.<br />
Oh, by the way, I’d love to answer some of your skin<br />
and makeup questions and share solutions that can<br />
benefit everyone! It takes a village!<br />
Send them to LisaBmkup@gmail.com.<br />
Thanks for reading!<br />
Love, Lisa<br />
tip<br />
If your foundation has a<br />
silicone or silicone derivative<br />
then your cleanser may not be<br />
removing all of it. Using a makeup<br />
remover first is the best assurance to<br />
completely removing our cosmetics<br />
and leaving your skin ready for<br />
washing, toning, serum and<br />
moisturizer!<br />
Lisa Buono has been working on some of<br />
Hollywood’s most beautiful faces for more than<br />
three decades. Whether it’s red-carpet ready or<br />
ready for their closeup, esthetics and makeup<br />
artistry have been her passion for a long time. Her<br />
incredible journey began as a cosmetology student<br />
in 1985 in Eatontown, NJ, and in 1989 Joe Blasco<br />
School of Professional Makeup Artistry, Hollywood,<br />
Ca.<br />
Her film and television credits include Mr. and Mrs.<br />
Smith, Fight Club, Introducing Dorothy Dandridge,<br />
Gone in 60 Seconds, Once and Again, Bones, CSI<br />
NY, Wizards Of Waverly Place, Corey In The House,<br />
Dancing with the Stars, Blue Collar, Bold and the<br />
Beautiful, Jeopardy, The Middle, Ellen’s Game of<br />
Games, Jimmy Kimmel Live, and KABC News. Her<br />
celebrity list includes Jennifer Aniston, Olivia Wylde,<br />
Selena Gomez, Drew Barrymore, Matt Damon,<br />
Pierce Brosnan, Michael Douglass and so many<br />
more!<br />
Join her here for tricks and tips<br />
on how to keep your mature skin<br />
beautiful and your makeup perfect<br />
for every age, every occasion, and<br />
every season.
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Hair Today<br />
Gone Tomorrow<br />
by Devorah Soroka<br />
The most<br />
current trends<br />
in hair and wig<br />
styling.<br />
Devorah is a<br />
mom of nine;<br />
five boys and four<br />
girls in ages ranging<br />
3 months to 19 years<br />
old. She’s a marathon<br />
runner who has qualified<br />
for Boston several times. Her<br />
passion for hair styling and<br />
cutting began as a young girl<br />
living with five sisters. She always<br />
loved styling their hair along with<br />
her mother’s for fun. This talent<br />
quickly turned into a passion and<br />
she began babysitting in exchange for<br />
hair-cutting classes during her high school<br />
years.<br />
While studying for a master’s for speech<br />
therapy in Israel, she noticed that she<br />
was living in an area where not many<br />
were servicing wigs and it was not easy to<br />
access an American wig line. She took the<br />
opportunity, and slowly but surely, began<br />
introducing wig lines and her services to the<br />
community. It took off from there and she was<br />
faced with a decision: go after her passion or<br />
stick to speech therapy?<br />
Since what she was doing brought so much joy<br />
to the women she serviced and helped them<br />
cover their hair in a way that made them feel<br />
so beautiful, she followed her passion and<br />
never looked back. She has created a positive,<br />
warm, accepting and loving environment for so<br />
many. It gives her the ability to do something<br />
she loves while still being able to be there for<br />
the ones she loves—her family.<br />
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When women sit in her chair, in her beautiful<br />
and vibrant studio in Chicago, the bonding<br />
and friendship is palpable.<br />
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Hi, friends! Here are the three styles I want to highlight this season:<br />
Crimped: the<br />
‘80s are back!<br />
Crimpy waves are fresh and very in vogue this season—and you can<br />
achieve this look at home!<br />
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WHAT IS CRIMPED HAIR?<br />
The crimped hair look is when you style straight or straightened<br />
hair with a crimping iron to create a zig-zagged, wavy texture.<br />
Different from loose curls and wavy hairstyles, crimped hair<br />
provides a purposefully frizzy, super-voluminous look.<br />
STEP #1: Start With Freshly Washed Hair or Wig.<br />
STEP #2: Blow-Dry Your Hair. In order to use your<br />
crimping iron, your hair must be completely dry. After<br />
all, burnt hair is not a good look. Wait until your hair has<br />
mostly dried on its own, then blow-dry it the rest of the way.<br />
STEP #3: Brush Your Hair. Using a smoothing bristle brush,<br />
detangle any knots in your hair so you have a perfectly<br />
smooth surface before you begin crimping.<br />
STEP #4: Section Your Hair. Just like with curling or<br />
straightening your hair, the best way to achieve this style is<br />
to split your hair or wig into sections. Part your hair into a<br />
top and bottom section, and divide each of those sections<br />
into a left and right side. Use lobster clips to keep the hair<br />
that you’re not working with out of the way.<br />
STEP #5: Prep Your Crimping Iron. You have two options:<br />
You can either use an old-school crimper or a newfangled<br />
zig-zag iron.The new zig-zag irons create wider crimps for<br />
a modern touch that slightly resembles geometric waves.<br />
Regardless of which tool you choose, plug it in and set it on<br />
the lowest setting that allows you to style your hair without<br />
having<br />
to<br />
make<br />
multiple<br />
passes.The<br />
thinner the hair,<br />
the lower setting you<br />
can get away with.<br />
STEP #6: Crimp Away! Using your<br />
crimping iron of choice, start going section by section to<br />
crimp your hair. Split each of your four sections into smaller<br />
sections to create a volumized end look that’s full of<br />
definition and texture. When crimping, sandwich the plates<br />
of the iron horizontally across your hair to give you the<br />
look you’re going for. Hold down the crimping iron for five<br />
to ten seconds per section to achieve the look. Depending<br />
on the thickness of your hair, you may need to hold it for<br />
longer. Feel free to experiment until you get it just right.<br />
The second style is the<br />
beachy wave.<br />
1. Take one small section of your hair in the iron and<br />
pull down almost till the end, but leave some<br />
room at the end.<br />
2. Turn the iron and roll it back up.<br />
3. Untwist the curling iron and pull away.<br />
4. Go through it with your hands.<br />
5. Your beach waves are done!<br />
TIP:<br />
A super-easy way<br />
to achieve this look<br />
is by simply braiding<br />
your hair or wig and<br />
leaving it to set<br />
overnight.
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The third style that’s super in this season is the<br />
straight<br />
blunt<br />
style.<br />
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HERE’S HOW TO<br />
ACHIEVE THIS LOOK:<br />
1. Take an ear-to-ear<br />
section from the bottom<br />
of the head.<br />
2. Using a straightening<br />
iron, take a small section,<br />
place the iron at the root<br />
and glide over your hair,<br />
holding the plates tight<br />
together.<br />
3. Repeat in sections<br />
until all your hair is<br />
straightened.<br />
Devorah Soroka has also created a social media<br />
community where she has upward of 18k followers,<br />
or friends, as she likes to call them. She shares<br />
all things hair and wigs, lifestyle, health,<br />
womanhood, home, kids, running and inspiration.<br />
She looks forward to connecting with you<br />
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Fall<br />
Fashion<br />
The color of the season is…brown! There’s no such thing as<br />
black anymore. The colors that are now in are brown, off<br />
white, and winter white. The times of black and gray in the fall<br />
and winter are over!<br />
Colors seem to warm<br />
up when it cools down.<br />
This colorblock look is<br />
the perfect transition<br />
from summer to fall.<br />
There are many ways to accessorize and plan your outfits<br />
based on these colors. You can add a vest or a jacket to bring<br />
your outfit to the next level. Here are some pictures to inspire<br />
you to bring these colors into your wardrobe!<br />
Who said you can’t<br />
wear white after<br />
Labor Day? This<br />
look is the perfect<br />
winter vibe! There’s<br />
a reason snow is<br />
white and only falls<br />
down in the winter!<br />
So glamorous! A<br />
paid skirt, blazer<br />
and chunky black<br />
booties: the<br />
perfect combo<br />
with a fedora hat.<br />
This look can be<br />
transformed from<br />
day to night!<br />
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Beige, black and white:<br />
the colors that most<br />
people feel comfortable<br />
and look good in.<br />
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Beige is<br />
atmosphere. It’s<br />
ivory, it’s cream,<br />
it’s stone. It’s the<br />
color of fall and<br />
it’s warmth; it<br />
makes me want a<br />
cappuccino and<br />
warm toast.<br />
They say fashion is<br />
what you buy. Style<br />
is what you do with<br />
it—and I couldn’t<br />
agree more.<br />
Friends<br />
who dress<br />
together stay<br />
together.
Every season has<br />
its specific clothing<br />
pattern trend, and<br />
just because you<br />
don’t usually like<br />
prints it doesn’t<br />
mean you can’t<br />
wear houndstooth.<br />
Style is a way to<br />
say who you are<br />
without having to<br />
speak. We’re in<br />
love with this heart<br />
sweater that adds<br />
the perfect funk to<br />
any plain skirt!<br />
Stock up on your essentials. Blue, black, brown and white<br />
tops will match even the funkiest colors of fur. Go ahead,<br />
step outside your comfort zone.<br />
You can’t ever go<br />
wrong with black<br />
and white. The<br />
classic colors blend<br />
with everything.<br />
Throw on a pair of<br />
statement shoes or<br />
jewelry and you’ll<br />
be the classy star of<br />
the show.<br />
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Jen Sharbani<br />
November Issue<br />
Dear Rachel,<br />
I hear your struggle and I am<br />
here to guide you! First, I want to<br />
congratulate you on taking the step<br />
toward becoming more modest!<br />
To start, modesty is a frame of mind.<br />
When many women choose to wear<br />
modest clothing they feel they are<br />
giving themselves the power over<br />
their own body and mind.<br />
Out there in our world we’re<br />
constantly bombarded with<br />
messages and images that<br />
contradict modesty and make<br />
immodest dress the norm.<br />
However, you are not the norm:<br />
You are beautiful inside as well<br />
as outside and wearing modest<br />
clothing (protecting your outside)<br />
can help you better develop who you<br />
are inside and shine!<br />
Picture Kate Middleton in her<br />
beautiful, modest attire and see<br />
Dear Modestly Yours,<br />
I grew up in a Modern Orthodox home where my mother wore<br />
pants and so did I. I want to wear more covered clothing but I<br />
always felt it’s boring and restrictive and not very pretty.<br />
How can I start to wear more modest clothing?<br />
Rachel L., Cedarhurst, New York<br />
how dignified and respected she is<br />
throughout the world. She looks so<br />
elegant and refined. By dressing<br />
modestly you are the queen of your<br />
own domain!<br />
I would first suggest starting with<br />
an area that you’ll be the most<br />
comfortable committing to, such<br />
as covering your elbows or your<br />
knees. Find an amazing modest<br />
top or skirt and put it on in front<br />
of a mirror. Look at yourself and<br />
reaffirm why you are choosing to be<br />
modest as well as how much more<br />
beautiful and respectable you look!<br />
You may even notice how people<br />
treat you differently—positively<br />
and negatively. Keep that in mind<br />
when you go outside and keep your<br />
affirmation in your head to remind<br />
yourself as you get feedback from<br />
people.<br />
Positive feedback is obviously the<br />
most flattering and will take you<br />
higher! If you encounter negative<br />
feedback, realize that it often comes<br />
from others’ insecurities about<br />
themselves or fear of change. Keep<br />
reminding yourself how strong and<br />
beautiful you are in your modest<br />
attire—like royalty!<br />
You’re a diamond, darling; go out<br />
there and sparkle!<br />
I wish you well on your journey of<br />
modesty and keep me posted on<br />
your progress!<br />
Modestly Yours<br />
Jen Sharbani, aka Modestly Yours, is<br />
a Great Neck, New York, native, living<br />
in the fashion capital of the world.<br />
Modestly Yours most recently created a<br />
designer collection of modest swimwear<br />
women can feel proud to wear from day<br />
to night! CVRGE is made for modest<br />
women seeking to look their very best<br />
while being gorgeously modest. Jen has<br />
had a passion for fashion from a very<br />
young age, attending college at FIT and<br />
from there landing at top European<br />
fashion houses, Valentino and Chloe,<br />
before taking some<br />
time out to raise<br />
her three children.<br />
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Coffee<br />
Break<br />
A Candid<br />
Chat with<br />
the Bosses<br />
by Karen Behfar<br />
Hi, everyone,<br />
my name is<br />
Karen Behfar.<br />
I’m a real estate broker and owner of a busy Brooklyn<br />
residential real estate firm, The Behfar Team. I used<br />
to be a special-ed therapist for many years and I’m<br />
always intrigued by different frum women business<br />
owners. I will use this column to share with you different<br />
business topics and bring to you various frum women<br />
in business to answer business-related questions that<br />
can help you. If you have any suggestions for business<br />
topics, we would love to hear. You can email<br />
submissions@healthandheelsmagazine.com.<br />
How do you juggle running a business and running<br />
a home? We all run very busy lives; just being a frum<br />
wife and mother and managing everything at home<br />
keeps you busy enough. Add to that working full time<br />
and running a business and it can literally take over<br />
your life. Let’s see how these women do it.
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THIS MONTH’S TOPIC IS:<br />
The Juggling Act.<br />
Tanya Rosen<br />
Nutrition by Tanya<br />
Balance and juggle are funny words to<br />
me. I gave up on them long ago. I prefer<br />
to be present and focused. What that<br />
means is trying to be there (whether that<br />
is work or home) both physically and<br />
mentally. It means that when I’m at work,<br />
I’m at work. When I’m home, I’m home. But<br />
before you falsely think I’m one of those<br />
amazing people who shuts their phone off<br />
at 5 p.m. and doesn’t look at it until the<br />
next day, let me explain. As I got to know<br />
myself better over the years, I realized<br />
two things:<br />
I do better with quality versus quantity.<br />
Hours on end? Not good. A quality<br />
hour or two at a time? Much better. I’m<br />
a better and more present mom when<br />
it’s focused on short intervals versus<br />
distracted long ones. I like doing things<br />
outside the house with my kids/husband<br />
versus finding ways to connect at home.<br />
This translates both into errands and into<br />
dates. I go on a date with each kid and<br />
my husband almost every week. These<br />
aren’t long but they’re consistent and<br />
they’re on a schedule so that it actually<br />
happens. And…delegate! Whether it’s at<br />
work or at home, delegate whatever you<br />
can (and don’t micromanage whoever is<br />
doing it).<br />
I don’t cook.<br />
I don’t clean.<br />
I don’t do paper work.<br />
I don’t do bank and accounting stuff.<br />
I don’t do recipes or product development.<br />
There’s a lot more I don’t do so that I<br />
have more time and headspace for what<br />
I do do. I also think that the more you<br />
involve your kids in your work life and the<br />
more you involve your staff in your home<br />
life, the more everyone will understand<br />
you and feel a part of it too.<br />
Tanya Rosen is the founder and owner<br />
of Nutrition by Tanya, with 12 locations<br />
throughout New York, New Jersey and<br />
Israel. Tanya is also the creator of the<br />
TAP (Tanya-approved products) food line<br />
sold in all major supermarkets throughout<br />
the U.S., which includes pastries, meals,<br />
kugels and more, all healthy, of course.<br />
In addition, Tanya has published two<br />
cookbooks, multiple workout DVDs, and<br />
is a regular columnist for many popular<br />
Jewish magazines. She lives in Brooklyn<br />
with her husband and five beautiful<br />
children.<br />
Tanya Rosen<br />
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Odette Rishty<br />
It’s All A Gift<br />
First and foremost I prioritize being able<br />
to smile at everyone at all times. If I don’t<br />
feel like I can do that when I wake up in<br />
the morning, I know I need to slow down.<br />
Downtime at home usually solves this.<br />
Tefillah, a cup of coffee, some chesed,<br />
and a chat with a best friend while<br />
cooking up dinner or planning a meal<br />
will usually resolve it. I ask all business<br />
associates and shidduch communications<br />
to start off as texts so that my phone<br />
isn’t constantly ringing—and when it does<br />
ring it’s family and I can be present for<br />
them when they call. My rabbi explained<br />
early on that I always have a business<br />
partner—Hashem—and then my husband. If I<br />
prioritize family, my most important task, then<br />
Hashem will cover the rest. I love cooking, I<br />
love serving my family, and It’s All a Gift is a<br />
love of serving our Jewish community at large.<br />
I love finding gorgeous jewelry and gifts, so<br />
while it’s a struggle to always feel pulled in<br />
many directions, I love and want to smile and<br />
be present for all. I can’t say I don’t get tired.<br />
But a fulfilled family—who smile and hug me at<br />
every meal—and customers who over and over<br />
again send thank yous and photos of their<br />
happy purchases exhilarates me too!<br />
Odette Rishty is the owner of It’s All A Gift,<br />
which sells fine 14k and sterling silver jewelry<br />
and unique gifts. She has been proudly serving<br />
the Midwood and Flatbush area and beyond<br />
for over 12 years. Odette can be reached at<br />
itsallagift.com or on instagram @itsallagift.<br />
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Yocheved Gross<br />
Wigs<br />
Everybody has to figure out the science of their life. Everybody<br />
has different family dynamics, personalities, strengths and<br />
weaknesses, and with that awareness it becomes easier to<br />
tackle everything that gets thrown at you.<br />
I’m in the service business; I have to know that I can only do<br />
hair for a certain amount of hours a day and only willing to<br />
travel a certain amount so that I can be home in time for my<br />
kids for supper, bath and bed.<br />
People ask me all the time, “How do you do it all?” First<br />
and foremost you have to have a supportive spouse across<br />
the board. It’s much harder for a woman to be strong and<br />
successful in both raising her family and running her business<br />
without a husband to stand<br />
behind her. There will be a lot of<br />
decisions to be made and a lot<br />
of trial and error. There will be<br />
times when you do things and<br />
your husband may not be so<br />
happy about it, and you realize<br />
that might not be something<br />
that works for us, so next time<br />
we are going to change things.<br />
Second is communication: One<br />
of the keys to my successful<br />
business is a supportive spouse,<br />
and even my supportive<br />
kids! I can’t not acknowledge<br />
them. When the family unit<br />
is supportive of each other’s<br />
endeavors and each other’s<br />
things it makes it much easier to<br />
conquer all. Just like I am supportive of my husband’s Hatzolah<br />
volunteer work, there is an equal understanding of each other’s<br />
needs to be successful.<br />
Yocheved Gross<br />
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How do I juggle Yom Tov and work?<br />
It’s very simple: lots of cooking in advance or knowing you<br />
have to cook fresh. If you don’t have time to cook in advance<br />
because you were busy at work, just plan to cook fresh that<br />
day. I do not take jobs on Fridays. On Fridays I do my grocery<br />
shopping and I make Shabbos. It’s my time to do all the things<br />
I couldn’t do during the week. There are many times I get calls<br />
to take jobs on Fridays but I won’t do it because I understand<br />
that in order for my science to work and in order for me to be<br />
able to do what I do I can’t take jobs six days a week.<br />
Yocheved gross is a hair and wig stylist for over 22 years. She<br />
is one of the CEOs of Hair and Blush Academy. She runs a<br />
support group for mothers who have autism, and runs Ohr<br />
Malka, an organization that provides free hair and makeup for<br />
simchahs for people who aren’t able to afford it. Aside from<br />
working full time, Yocheved, along with her husband, is busy<br />
raising her five beautiful children.<br />
Freidy (Amy)<br />
Guttmann<br />
Hands on OT Rehab, Hands on<br />
Approaches, H.O.P.E Foundation<br />
The first thing I want to share about managing my<br />
work life, family life and community life is that I really<br />
view it more as a counterbalance, not so much a<br />
balancing act—because I don’t think as frum women we<br />
really can live our lives in that definitive way. I make<br />
sure I always have time at the start of the day before<br />
my youngest child is up to have a half hour to 45<br />
minutes where I am alone with no interruptions. I will<br />
tell you that when my children were very young and I<br />
was nursing them, and they were waking up 4:30-5:00<br />
a.m., it was really hard to wake up at 4:00, 4:30 or even<br />
5:00 in the morning to try to get that half hour in, but<br />
it was a saving grace for me and that is how I learned<br />
to counterbalance.<br />
The way I think about counterbalancing is that you<br />
have to commit, in your mind, to which area you are<br />
going to focus on that week and then bring it down to<br />
the day.<br />
I do the Miracle Morning, which is a six-step idea of<br />
silence, and make sure<br />
to have silence for five<br />
minutes. I do affirmation,<br />
which for me is prayer. I do<br />
visualizations, I exercise for<br />
20 minutes, and then I read<br />
something that interests<br />
me outside of my work, and<br />
I write. It takes about 40<br />
minutes to do all that and<br />
that’s the way I allow myself<br />
to reset and make sure my<br />
priorities are straight and<br />
I’m doing things that allow<br />
me to be there for the rest<br />
of my family, community<br />
and work.<br />
Freidy (Amy) Guttmann<br />
So, to summarize, taking<br />
that time for self care and<br />
the activities mentioned<br />
above help me be there for my family and full-time<br />
business.<br />
Friedy (Amy) Guttmann, one of the “Guttmann Sisters,”<br />
is a neurodevelopmental therapist and director of<br />
Hands on OT Rehab, Hands on Approaches, and the<br />
H.O.P.E. (Hands on Parent Empowerment) Foundation.<br />
Her focus as an international film speaker and lecturer<br />
is in educating and empowering the community to help<br />
children with anxiety, processing and learning issues.<br />
She can be reached at<br />
info@handsonapproaches.com.<br />
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Dear Yael,<br />
I’m looking to purchase a home. I have $50,000<br />
saved up and I can borrow $100,000 from<br />
family and friends. Is it better to have a larger<br />
down payment or a higher mortgage payment?<br />
To give full details, the purchase price is<br />
$500,000 and the taxes on the house is $8,500.<br />
Property is located in Jackson, New Jersey.<br />
~ Shani Y.<br />
I’m really excited that you are<br />
purchasing a home!<br />
A property is usually the biggest<br />
purchase in one’s life if they’re not in<br />
the RE field. Real estate usually<br />
appreciates 2% per year (national<br />
statistic), although the homes have<br />
gone up much more than 2% in the<br />
the past couple of years.<br />
Therefore it would make sense to put<br />
10% down as after five years you will<br />
have 100% return of your<br />
initial investment in equity in your<br />
home.<br />
Additionally, Fannie and Freddie<br />
don’t allow one to borrow for a down<br />
payment. A person is only<br />
allowed to get a gift accompanied by<br />
a gift letter.<br />
The reason is that a person tends to<br />
pay back a friend faster than paying<br />
a faceless bank, and that can lead to<br />
defaults.<br />
The only reason I would advocate for<br />
a larger down payment is if you have<br />
a hard time affording the<br />
mortgage payment with the higher<br />
loan amount and additional MI. (MI<br />
is mortgage insurance, which is<br />
an extra expense added because you<br />
are putting down less than 20% of<br />
the purchase price. MI is priced<br />
on this particular scenario at $104<br />
a month provided your credit scores<br />
and debt-to-income ratios are good.<br />
The mortgage insurance can get<br />
removed by paying down the loan to<br />
80% ltv or by paying your<br />
mortgage on time between one-two<br />
years (depending on the lender) and<br />
getting a new appraisal showing the<br />
value went up.<br />
I hope this answers your questions.<br />
Give me a ring if you have any other<br />
inquiries.<br />
Best of luck,<br />
Yael<br />
Yael Ishakis is the vice president and<br />
branch manager of FM Home Loans.<br />
Yael has made it her mission to provide<br />
mortgage financing to all her clients<br />
from their first home to their investment<br />
building and entire portfolio. Yael is a<br />
frequent speaker on mortgage-related<br />
issues, and her book “The Complete<br />
Guide to Purchasing a Home” is already<br />
on its third printing cycle. When not in<br />
the office, Yael enjoys tennis and is a<br />
voracious reader. To reach Yael,<br />
email yishakis@fmm.com or<br />
call her cell phone at<br />
845-548-9075.<br />
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YOUR STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE FROM<br />
Accepted<br />
Offer to<br />
Closing<br />
Table in<br />
New York<br />
by Karen Behfar<br />
Both parties sign, and the contract is fully<br />
executed now and the mortgage process can<br />
now begin.<br />
Once you have a commitment and are cleared<br />
to close, you’re ready to schedule closing.<br />
A walk-through of the property is generally<br />
done a day or two before closing. A walkthrough<br />
is there to ascertain that the home<br />
is in the same condition when you went into<br />
contract. We also make sure that the home is<br />
“broom clean.” Kudos to the sellers who take<br />
great care to leave the house as presentable<br />
as they would want to find it. It’s an uneasy<br />
feeling when the walk-through is taking<br />
place and the house was left dirty and not<br />
presentable. Besides being a legal obligation<br />
to be “broom clean,” it leaves a bad taste to<br />
the buyers. In short, leave it presentable!<br />
Once sitting at the closing table, the buyer<br />
will sign all the paperwork that has been<br />
prepared. Be aware that this process can take<br />
some time and there are more than just one or<br />
two papers to sign. Actually there is an insane<br />
amount of papers to sign, so make sure you’re<br />
well rested . You will typically sign the<br />
documents at your attorney’s office. However,<br />
before any final signing occurs, a few things<br />
will happen:<br />
1. The attorney will draft up all paperwork to<br />
transfer the deed.<br />
PPurchasing a home is an exciting time,<br />
but there are many steps and processes<br />
required before the home becomes your<br />
own. In New York, to complete the real<br />
estate transaction you will want to work<br />
closely with a real estate attorney when<br />
closing on your new property.<br />
2. The buyers will be informed of their final<br />
closing costs. This will include the down<br />
payment on the home, all closing costs, any<br />
unpaid taxes or utilities, etc.<br />
In addition to signing the papers, the buyer<br />
will also pay their attorney the final closing<br />
cost in the form of a cashier’s check. Once all<br />
documents are signed and the transaction is<br />
recorded, buyers will receive their keys (a gift<br />
from their broker
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Dear Readers,<br />
It is such a pleasure to be able to<br />
introduce Elana Mizrahi to all of<br />
you. Elana and I met through a<br />
mutual friend, but I got to know<br />
her more intimately as she was my<br />
doula at the birth of my first child.<br />
I can therefore tell you first-hand<br />
that not only is Elana an amazing<br />
practitioner, but she sincerely cares<br />
for her clients. Elana is a women’s<br />
healthcare practitioner certified as<br />
a life coach, integrative healthcare<br />
counselor, massage therapist and<br />
more. She helps women with trauma,<br />
anxiety, stress, infertility and the list<br />
goes on and on! More than her work<br />
in healthcare, Elana is a true source of<br />
inspiration as a rebbetzin and Torah<br />
teacher. I am so grateful to have her<br />
as a mentor and guide; I learned so<br />
much from her course on parenting<br />
and shalom bayis, and look forward<br />
to her weekly parsha emails, which<br />
provide me with relatable inspiration<br />
every week. Elana’s lessons, and<br />
the personal guidance she provides<br />
whenever I call her, are always rooted<br />
from a place of truth and a sincere<br />
desire to grow closer to Hashem. She<br />
Sharona<br />
is truly someone special!<br />
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A PEEK INTO THE LIFE OF<br />
Elana<br />
Mizrahi<br />
facilitated by Tova Potesky<br />
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Hi, Elana! Thank you so<br />
much for agreeing to this<br />
interview! I know you<br />
are so busy so we really<br />
appreciate the time!<br />
My pleasure; I am thankful for the<br />
opportunity!<br />
I see you have so many different<br />
certifications related to women’s<br />
physical and emotional health.<br />
Before we discuss the incredible work<br />
that you do, can you tell us a little<br />
bit about what your life was like<br />
growing up?<br />
My grandparents were chicken<br />
farmers and made everything from<br />
scratch. I therefore grew up with<br />
the appreciation of having a simple<br />
and down-to-earth life. I learned to<br />
appreciate all the small things in life,<br />
and this definitely helps me today in<br />
all the work and counseling that I do.<br />
I also grew up with the concept<br />
of doing “doable hishtadlus.” This<br />
concept helps me tremendously in<br />
my work because health has so many<br />
aspects to it, and therefore I try to<br />
tell everyone to only do things that<br />
are doable for them.<br />
How did you get interested in the<br />
fields you work in?<br />
My husband and I weren’t having<br />
kids, so we started treatments. The<br />
treatments went on for a number of<br />
years, but throughout the process<br />
we just felt there was no one to talk<br />
to, and we were extremely lonely.<br />
It was a very impersonal journey,<br />
and we felt very disconnected with<br />
the medical system. It was very<br />
emotionally draining. After a few<br />
years of trying many treatments that<br />
were all failing, we decided to take<br />
a break. That was when we made<br />
the move to Israel from Mexico City<br />
where we were living at the time.<br />
About a year later we decided to<br />
try treatments again. The treatment<br />
we were to be given was one that<br />
we had already tried and we knew<br />
wouldn’t work. However, we didn’t<br />
stand up for ourselves, and when the<br />
treatment did not work, I finally just<br />
broke down. I couldn’t handle the<br />
medical system any longer.<br />
Wow! That sounds really hard! So<br />
what happened next?<br />
At that point, a friend of mine<br />
suggested we try something natural<br />
instead of trying another treatment.<br />
We decided we may as well go for<br />
it, and from then on we changed<br />
our diet and started taking various<br />
herbs and supplements. We also<br />
strengthened our emunah and<br />
bitachon that if Hashem wants us<br />
to conceive, He will make it happen.<br />
Baruch Hashem, a little while later<br />
we conceived and had a healthy<br />
baby boy.<br />
I was so thankful, so right then and<br />
there I decided I want to help women<br />
going through similar situations. The<br />
first thing I did was learn massage<br />
therapy, because touch in itself is<br />
healing. I then went on to learn<br />
reflexology, and then I became a<br />
doula. I then went on to learn the<br />
different aspects of nutrition. I kept<br />
going from one thing to the next,<br />
as I have an extreme passion for<br />
learning. I tried learning as many<br />
therapies and techniques related to<br />
women’s health as possible. I even<br />
asked a Yemenite lady to teach<br />
me a uterine massage that I had<br />
heard about; however, she said she<br />
couldn’t teach it to me because I am<br />
not Yemenite, so it’s not part of my<br />
mesorah!<br />
Ha! That’s pretty funny!<br />
It was! Eventually I found an Indian<br />
program that I wanted to join but<br />
it wasn’t Jewish, so the schedule<br />
wasn’t working with Shabbos and<br />
the Yomim Tovim. I kept telling<br />
myself that if I am meant to join<br />
the program, Hashem will make it<br />
work for me. Shortly afterward I was<br />
directed to a woman in England who<br />
was a teacher of this same program.<br />
She was in the same time zone as<br />
me and therefore might be able to<br />
accommodate my needs. It turns<br />
out that she was very interested in<br />
visiting Israel, and a few weeks later<br />
she came to visit and was able to<br />
teach me all the techniques that the<br />
program had to offer in my very own<br />
hometown according to the schedule<br />
that worked for me!<br />
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A few months later I came to America<br />
and got certified in prenatal care.<br />
Also, around that time I was seeing<br />
a lot of correlation between trauma<br />
and birth so next I learned trauma<br />
therapy.<br />
That is tremendous siyata dishmaya<br />
at play! How long did it take to get all<br />
the certificates you have?<br />
It’s still an ongoing process. I started<br />
studying in 2008, and I got my first<br />
certificate in 2009. After that I kept<br />
going for more and more, and am still<br />
working on additional certifications<br />
until today.<br />
You really never stop learning!<br />
That’s right. I am constantly learning<br />
new things and am constantly adding<br />
to my array of knowledge and<br />
experience. I think I was just born<br />
with this desire to know everything<br />
about the world; I’ve always loved<br />
science, history, nature and pretty<br />
much everything there is to learn. I<br />
have also always had a desire to help,<br />
and I am passionate about helping<br />
women achieve their dreams of having<br />
a happy, healthy family. I also love<br />
helping people create and maintain<br />
better relationships and connecting to<br />
their inner wisdom and instincts. My<br />
desire to help definitely came from my<br />
experience, and I am so thankful to<br />
finally be able to be on the giving side<br />
instead of the taking side.<br />
What is the typical age of your<br />
clients?<br />
I work with people of all ages, except<br />
young children. My youngest clients<br />
are in their teenage years, and the<br />
oldest client I ever had was 90 years<br />
old.<br />
One thing I try very hard to instill in<br />
women is that each and every woman<br />
should feel like she is a whole person<br />
and not just a problem!<br />
I also always strongly believe that<br />
when dealing with women we need a<br />
certain level of acceptance—because<br />
at the end of the day Hashem<br />
controls our health but we need to do<br />
our hishtadlus to make ourselves as<br />
healthy as can be.<br />
That’s a beautiful way to look at<br />
things. Which certification do you find<br />
yourself using the most?<br />
I focus on all aspects of women’s<br />
health so I am using many of my<br />
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certificates constantly. A lot of my<br />
work involves fertility and postnatal<br />
care so those certifications are helpful.<br />
I also focus on helping busy women<br />
find the practical balance between<br />
their family, work, and alone time. The<br />
truth is that many of the different<br />
certifications overlap and enhance the<br />
effectiveness of the others.<br />
So practically speaking, what does a<br />
typical day in your life look like?<br />
There is no typical day! Due to the<br />
fields that I specialize in, many things<br />
tend to be last second; for example,<br />
I never know when a client may go<br />
into labor. So I am constantly running<br />
from one thing to the other and I<br />
keep my schedule flexible. Generally,<br />
in the morning and night I’m teaching,<br />
coaching and helping clients either<br />
through Zoom or in person. But no<br />
matter how busy my schedule is, I<br />
always make sure to exercise, daven,<br />
and learn every single day. I also<br />
always sit down to have breakfast with<br />
my husband every day. Many nights<br />
I get very little sleep and I daven to<br />
Hashem that the amount of sleep<br />
that I got should be enough for me to<br />
function and do everything I need to<br />
get done.<br />
Have you ever had a client you<br />
couldn’t help? And if so, what do you<br />
do?<br />
Of course! I have definitely had clients<br />
I couldn’t help. I always daven that<br />
I should be the right shaliach for<br />
the person I am working with, but I<br />
understand that sometimes I am not<br />
that person. In those cases I try to see<br />
myself as part of their journey, part of<br />
their process.<br />
How do you manage to balance it all<br />
with your family life?<br />
I always make sure to make family my<br />
priority. I only work in the mornings<br />
and at nights so I can dedicate my<br />
afternoons to my family. I am also<br />
great at multitasking, so I am able to<br />
get a lot of housework done while I<br />
am working. (I am actually currently<br />
ironing as I talk to you
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Empowered<br />
Parenting<br />
facilitated by<br />
Tanya Rosen<br />
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I admit, it’s hard to hold my attention.<br />
So when I heard Blimi speak at an<br />
event and actually did not get bored, I<br />
was intrigued.<br />
I love Blimi’s straightforward, practical<br />
and blunt approach to parenting. She<br />
says it like it is and doesn’t waste time<br />
on fluff. I had a great time interviewing<br />
Blimi and hearing her out-of-the-box<br />
and honest answers. I hope you learn<br />
as much as I did. Stay tuned for future<br />
tips from Blimi.<br />
What got you into this field?<br />
My own experience as a child plus my experience as<br />
a parent. I remember thinking as a child: I don’t like<br />
being punished, and it doesn’t make sense to me,<br />
so I began reading parenting books and created<br />
a vision of what kind of mother I would be. Then I<br />
became a parent and realized I was acting in all<br />
the ways I told myself I wouldn’t. I hated it and so<br />
did my child. When my oldest daughter was four<br />
years old I hit my parenting rock bottom and knew<br />
I needed a motherhood revival. I found incredible<br />
information that helped transform my parenting.<br />
I became so passionate about it that I started<br />
sharing it with anyone who would listen. I then<br />
realized that people love this, and they’re thirsty for<br />
this information.<br />
What is your approach based on?<br />
It’s largely based on attachment theory. The bottom<br />
line is that the relationship we have with our<br />
children is the most important thing. (Dr. Gordon<br />
Neufeld)<br />
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It is also based on the concept of consciousness, of<br />
becoming aware and conscious of our own triggers,<br />
patterns and conditioning and asking ourselves<br />
things like: “What’s happening for me in this<br />
moment? What am I feeling?” so that we can make<br />
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conscious parenting choices rather<br />
than just reacting based on what<br />
we’re feeling or on what our parents<br />
did.<br />
Do you feel like you can’t<br />
lose it in public?<br />
Yeah, absolutely! I wish I could say<br />
that I don’t care what others think,<br />
but if I’m honest, I do feel pressure in<br />
public! I even feel like my kids can’t<br />
lose it in public because I’m worried<br />
about how others might perceive<br />
that!<br />
The fascinating thing is that I<br />
constantly tell parents that it’s only<br />
normal for kids to act like kids,<br />
and I truly believe that. But I think<br />
our culture believes that a parent’s<br />
success is based on how well behaved<br />
their child is, and although I largely<br />
disagree with that idea (and that’s<br />
an entire conversation on its own), I<br />
know that’s how others might judge<br />
me or my children.<br />
What’s the number-one<br />
question people ask you?<br />
How do I get my kid to listen to me.<br />
What’s your best<br />
quick tip?<br />
Hmmm… In every interaction,<br />
especially the ones you’re struggling<br />
with, stop for a moment.<br />
Exit your own agenda, and meet your<br />
child where they are. Ask yourself:<br />
What’s happening for my child?<br />
What do you wish all<br />
mothers knew?<br />
I wish that (and I’m including myself)<br />
we trusted the process of maturity<br />
more. The way Hashem designed<br />
kids is that they naturally mature,<br />
according to the environment they’re<br />
in. If they’re in an environment where<br />
they receive nurturance, love and<br />
respect, they mature beautifully. We<br />
don’t have to constantly teach them<br />
every little thing. We don’t have to<br />
make everything into a teachable<br />
moment. We don’t have to push<br />
them toward independence. Maturity<br />
doesn’t happen through discipline.<br />
Discipline is what we do to make up<br />
for the maturity that is still lacking<br />
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in the child. Values are imparted to<br />
our children through modeling and<br />
through relationships.<br />
Slow down the teaching, start<br />
showing by example, focus on the<br />
relationship and trust the process of<br />
maturity.<br />
Any tips for fathers?<br />
They should know they’re very<br />
important in their children’s life.<br />
Studies show that fathers contribute<br />
to the development and wellbeing of<br />
their children in unique and valuable<br />
ways.<br />
What is an embarrassing<br />
child moment that<br />
happened to you?<br />
Oh, my goodness, I have so many!<br />
I once drove away from my oldest<br />
when she was two years old and left<br />
her on the curb because she refused<br />
to get in the car. I was horrified that I<br />
was even capable of doing something<br />
so negligent and, quite frankly, cruel.<br />
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What about when a child<br />
is just born difficult?<br />
I love that; such a good question!<br />
Every child is born with a different<br />
temperament and we have no control<br />
over that. Some children’s nervous<br />
systems are more sensitive to input<br />
so their reaction to physical or<br />
emotional stimuli will be more intense<br />
than your average child. It can be<br />
hard for them to be them because<br />
they experience things more deeply<br />
and are often highly misunderstood.<br />
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So… anything we can do<br />
as a parent?<br />
Yes! If we take the time to<br />
understand them and what they<br />
need, it can be empowering for both<br />
the parent and child, and the child<br />
can flourish. This doesn’t mean the<br />
child’s temperament will change. To<br />
a certain degree some things will<br />
always be more challenging for them.<br />
The Orchid and the Dandelion book,<br />
by W. Thomas Boyce M.D, is very<br />
helpful and explains why some kids<br />
struggle and how we can help all<br />
of them thrive. The orchid is the<br />
sensitive child who requires a large<br />
degree of care to grow, while the<br />
dandelion is your average child who<br />
can grow well in many environments.<br />
P.S. In a typical large family there’s<br />
usually at least one child like this.<br />
What makes you different<br />
from other parenting<br />
I don’t do behavior management,<br />
and I don’t do reward charts or<br />
punishments. While those may work<br />
in a superficial sense, I believe we’re<br />
missing a precious opportunity to get<br />
to know our child better and to truly<br />
help them from the inside out.<br />
I’m always looking for the root and<br />
the why of the issue. I’m looking for<br />
what the behavior is communicating<br />
and helping parents look for that as<br />
well. I’m not trying to put a bandaid<br />
on a booboo; I try to figure out why<br />
we have a booboo in the first place<br />
and how we can lovingly address it.<br />
How has Instagram<br />
affected or helped your<br />
business?<br />
It’s been amazing!!! It gives me a<br />
platform to share far and wide. So<br />
many parents have told me that<br />
their parenting has been positively<br />
impacted solely through what I share<br />
on Instagram, even without having<br />
used my services, and I’m so grateful<br />
for that. That’s why I do what I do. I<br />
want to help create change for both<br />
parents and children.<br />
Wow… any negative to<br />
being on Instagram?<br />
Thankfully, I rarely experience<br />
negativity on my account. However, in<br />
general, there is a lot of negativity on<br />
the platform. Unfortunately, people<br />
use it as an outlet for the pain and<br />
negativity they carry inside. I try not<br />
to scroll too much because of that,<br />
but I still find myself doing it!<br />
Blimie Heller is a mom who is<br />
passionate about helping parents<br />
build relationships with their children<br />
based on respect and trust.<br />
She can be reached through her<br />
website www.blimieheller.com.<br />
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A Date, a Window and a<br />
Lesson Learned<br />
“Finish your bagels before I leave the house; bagels are<br />
a choking hazard,” I warn my 10-year-old twins. “Text me<br />
when you are out of the shower,” I remind my teen before<br />
running off to work in the morning. “I know people who<br />
have slipped.” “Make sure you unplug the toaster, text me<br />
when you get there, don’t run near the steps.” My list of<br />
worries sometimes seems ridiculous, but my kids are great:<br />
they humor me and do as instructed. I wasn’t always this<br />
cautious. In fact, I used to be a pretty carefree mom. My<br />
story of extreme overprotectiveness, bordering on insane,<br />
dates back to when my oldest children were just babies.<br />
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Miracle<br />
by Basya Kovacs<br />
We all have miraculous<br />
events that give us<br />
pause, and sometimes<br />
even reshape our lives.<br />
Reminding ourselves<br />
about these experiences<br />
allows us to stay<br />
focused on the endless<br />
blessing Hashem gives<br />
us. Sharing these<br />
defining moments<br />
can inspire others to<br />
appreciate Hashem’s<br />
endless kindness.<br />
Fifteen years ago I was 22 years old and already the<br />
proud mother of a son and a daughter, Simcha and<br />
Sarah*, born 14 months apart. They were pretty easy<br />
babies, and as they got a bit older, they were super<br />
cooperative and well behaved, allowing me the illusion<br />
that I was a supermom. They slept well, they ate well,<br />
listened well and delighted me with every new stage and<br />
milestone. While other children got into mischief and<br />
danger, mine played nicely and seemed to naturally stay<br />
out of trouble. The fact that my son didn’t talk at all and<br />
was almost two years old did not concern me at all. I knew<br />
he understood what I was saying, and I could usually<br />
figure out what his one word “ba” meant. We had an<br />
understanding. Life was good. Being a mother was easy.<br />
It was a beautiful Sunday in May and excitement was in<br />
the air. My younger sister Adina had moved to Monsey<br />
after seminary and was dating a guy she seemed to like.<br />
Today was date number three, and since my parents<br />
still lived in Chicago, my husband and I were to have<br />
the honor of hosting my sister, meeting the guy she was<br />
dating, and seeing them off. I was feeling honored, and<br />
pretty excited, as not much usually happened in my sleepy<br />
neighborhood in Staten Island.<br />
We cleaned the house until it shone, dressed our two little<br />
ones in clothing that my sister deemed cute enough, and<br />
set out some cold drinks. Adina got herself ready and my<br />
husband and I calmed her nerves as well as our own, and<br />
then...it was time. Moshe walked up the path to our little<br />
townhouse, and we welcomed him into our home for some<br />
awkward conversation about traffic and the weather. We<br />
were impressed by Moshe’s maturity and struck by his<br />
handsomeness, and while there wasn’t much time to get<br />
to know him, we liked what we saw. When we felt we had<br />
done our fair share of chit chatting and analyzing we sent<br />
them off with our blessings.<br />
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As soon as they were out the front door I scooped up<br />
Simcha, who was almost two at the time, and ran upstairs<br />
to my bedroom window to sneak one last peek as they<br />
walked to the car. I opened my bedroom window and<br />
Simcha and I climbed onto my bed and gave Adina<br />
one last wave and two thumbs up...and off the adorable<br />
couple went. “Job well done,” Yehuda and I congratulated<br />
ourselves, feeling very mature. Yehuda went to our nearby<br />
shul to learn and I put Sarah down for a nap.<br />
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With Sarah peacefully asleep, I went back downstairs<br />
for some puttering and Tehillim. I davened that the date<br />
should go well and that Adina should have a great time,<br />
and more importantly, to have the clarity to know if<br />
Moshe was the one. After a few minutes I noticed that<br />
the house was very quiet. Too quiet. “Simcha,” I called. No<br />
answer. No “ba.” “Simcha, where are you?” I called louder<br />
this time. My house was small. Where was he?<br />
Simcha was well behaved but he was never this quiet.<br />
Despite being pretty much nonverbal, we usually kept up<br />
a little banter while he played and I puttered. Suddenly<br />
panic stricken, I took the stairs two at a time, calling out<br />
my son’s name and flinging open doors. Bathroom first—<br />
what if there was water in the tub! No water. No Simcha.<br />
Kids bedroom—just Sarah sleeping peacefully. “Simcha,<br />
where are you?” I hollered. Then I noticed my bedroom<br />
door was open and my eyes went straight to the window.<br />
The window. The window that I had opened a few minutes<br />
before to wave one last goodbye to my sister. The window<br />
that just a few minutes before had a solid screen and was<br />
now a wide gaping hole….<br />
I ran over to the window with dread. “Simchaaaaaaa”.... I<br />
didn’t need to look because I already knew. But I forced<br />
myself over to the bed—forced myself to look out the<br />
wide, gaping hole and there, lying on the concrete two<br />
floors below, in a pool of blood, was my son. Terror-fueled<br />
adrenaline took over. I flew down the stairs, ran out the<br />
front door and scooped up my son. I remember thinking<br />
I was holding my dead baby in my arms. In retrospect I<br />
should have never moved him, but at the time my brain<br />
was off; I was in absolute panic.<br />
Another miracle. On Monday when I came to relieve Yehuda of his<br />
shift at Simcha’s bedside in the PICU, I was greeted with a surprise.<br />
“Mommy, I got booboo.” Yes, Simcha spoke his first full sentence in<br />
the hospital crib. It was as if Hashem was telling me that not only<br />
would my son be okay, he would be more than okay. We came home<br />
with Simcha on Wednesday, feeling for all the world like we had<br />
experienced techiyas hameisim.<br />
I was different, though. Changed. I no longer let my children out<br />
of my sight even for a moment. And I no longer thought of myself<br />
as a supermom. I began to understand that while my children<br />
were well behaved, cooperative and easy, they still needed to be<br />
watched carefully. Every moment that my children were safe and<br />
healthy became a gift that I would never again take for granted.<br />
Yehuda and I started a window gate gemach, to help parents<br />
cover the expense of childproofing their home. And I became the<br />
overprotective mother that I still am today. The way I see it now is<br />
that I have been entrusted with precious gifts and can never be too<br />
careful.<br />
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My Irish neighbors had been sitting outside enjoying the<br />
particularly beautiful weather when they heard a thud. At<br />
first they figured we must be doing some spring cleaning,<br />
and were tossing discard bags out the upstairs window,<br />
but when I flew out the door a moment later and grabbed<br />
up my son, they quickly pieced together what happened<br />
and called an ambulance, which came just moments later.<br />
In a daze, I raced off to the hospital while they graciously<br />
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fall must have been broken by the awning several feet<br />
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healthy families<br />
The<br />
Meaningful<br />
Marriage<br />
Manual<br />
by Debbie Selengut<br />
November Issue<br />
Dear<br />
Readers,<br />
The responsibility of writing<br />
an article about marriage is<br />
scary because although my<br />
goals are to talk about what<br />
is great in marriage, and<br />
discuss many positive ways<br />
in which we can enhance our<br />
marriages, I realize that this<br />
topic might cause pain to<br />
women who are struggling.<br />
Possibly, if someone is going<br />
through a difficult time, they<br />
might feel like the mountain<br />
is too hard to climb.<br />
The last thing I would<br />
want to do is cause anyone<br />
pain. My belief is, though,<br />
that any step in the right<br />
direction, no matter how<br />
small you think it is, will<br />
have a positive outcome,<br />
even if only you see it.<br />
I also appreciate our<br />
diversity. If we are married,<br />
then by definition we share<br />
commonalities, but each<br />
one of our lives are going<br />
to look different from each<br />
other.<br />
Through these articles,<br />
my hope is that you each<br />
realize how blessed you are,<br />
and learn how to create an<br />
even better, closer, more<br />
satisfying relationship. And<br />
for some, it brings to the<br />
forefront where our work is.<br />
I would like to use the<br />
platform of this article to<br />
highlight and hopefully<br />
shed some light on the<br />
day-to-day components of<br />
marriage—what we would<br />
call “life.”<br />
When thinking of a starting<br />
point, I decided to look at<br />
something that I believe we<br />
all struggle with at some<br />
point (or points), and that<br />
is the very human tendency<br />
we have to compare. We<br />
can’t help it.<br />
It’s very easy to look at<br />
another couple and feel like<br />
in some way they have it<br />
better, communicate better,<br />
look better together, have<br />
more fun, work as a team<br />
better.<br />
MEANINGFUL MINUTE<br />
Remember when you went to camp? Remember<br />
color war, watching the other team and seeing<br />
them looking so “busy,” so energized, what is<br />
everybody doing?<br />
We have no idea what is going on with any couple<br />
or inside any other relationship. We can feel a<br />
lot of pressure from what we perceive, and then<br />
in turn put a lot of pressure on ourselves, on our<br />
husbands, on our children…<br />
Let’s think about that. Realize that people show<br />
us the slice of life that they want us to see.<br />
I want to attach a small, attainable goal. I love the<br />
ability to create a new habit, and attaching the<br />
exercise to an activity that we do regularly helps it<br />
become a habit.<br />
Take something that happens daily—i.e., brushing<br />
your teeth, driving a carpool, dropping off a<br />
baby at a babysitter—and attach to that “event”<br />
a minute of thought in which we can focus on<br />
something about our husbands we are grateful for.<br />
So, let’s say, as I wash the breakfast dishes each<br />
day, I will think about one positive thing about my<br />
husband, or something that he did for me that I<br />
appreciate.<br />
Looking forward to the journey,<br />
Mrs. Debbie Selengut<br />
Mrs. Debbie Selengut serves as an assistant principal in Bnos Bracha of Passaic. She serves as<br />
a consultant in schools and does teacher/new teacher training. She is a graduate of the Yesod<br />
Ma’ala New York Regional Fellowship of Principals, a division of Torah Umesorah. She teaches<br />
post-high school education, pre-marriage education, parenting and adult education courses. She is<br />
married to Rabbi Dovid Selengut, a rebbe at Joseph Kushner Hebrew Academy, and a therapist<br />
in private practice. She is a mother and grandmother.<br />
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last<br />
healthy humor<br />
licksby Maya Karasanti<br />
Dieting can<br />
be hard...like...<br />
for real?!<br />
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healthandheelsmagazine.com<br />
I had no idea!<br />
It’s not like I’ve<br />
been struggling<br />
with these extra<br />
rolls all my life.<br />
I’m 1 roll short<br />
of opening<br />
Maya’s Bakery.<br />
And while it’s a bakery filled with<br />
sweet rolls, pastries, breads, and<br />
doughnuts, the deliciousness makes<br />
the pounds pile on like a stack of<br />
pancakes! Mmm... pancakes... with<br />
syrup... maybe some strawberries...<br />
definitely whipped cream... lots and<br />
lots of whipped cream.<br />
NO MAYA! Stop it! That’s what<br />
founded your body bakery in the first<br />
place! OY I say! OY!<br />
But now, let’s call it like it is:<br />
Dieting IS<br />
hard! Not<br />
“CAN be”... It<br />
IS IS IS!<br />
There is no getting around it because<br />
you need to change your eating<br />
habits, moderate your food intake,<br />
eat less of all the bakery things you<br />
love, among other tasty things like<br />
fried foods. And now I want fried<br />
foods. It’s a never-ending cycle.<br />
But you’re not alone. And this is where<br />
the eye roll comes in... *cue eye roll*<br />
Because let’s face it... by now we<br />
all know we’re not alone. We know<br />
there are so many women, girls, and<br />
people in general that struggle with<br />
a healthy lifestyle on a regular basis.<br />
For some it may be easier than for<br />
others but we have all had a taste, a<br />
dollop, a portion of what it’s like to<br />
struggle with better food decisions.<br />
It’s hard for everyone because even<br />
if you’re working to MAINTAIN your<br />
weight, that’s still effort. Let alone if<br />
you’re trying to lose or gain weight.<br />
The key is to find the better ways<br />
to make it work. Cahoot with a<br />
nutritionist, friends, family. Get that<br />
support system in place that will help<br />
you and share your healthy lifestyle<br />
with others.<br />
I’ll help you get started... Now I<br />
wanna hear everyone, all together, in<br />
your loudest, booming, can-do voice...<br />
“WE CAN DO THIS!” And...<br />
“WE DON’T NEED JUNK”<br />
And... “WE WILL MAIL ALL OUR<br />
JUNK TO MAYA INSTEAD”<br />
Excellent! I heard you loud and clear<br />
and I believe in you!<br />
Thank you in advance for your junky<br />
donations, I will be expecting them<br />
shortly.<br />
Sincerely, Maya’s Bakery<br />
Maya Karasanti has always believed that smiles<br />
are contagious and we should all be humorously<br />
infectious. Throughout her life, Maya has always<br />
enjoyed putting smiles on people’s faces, whether<br />
friends, family, at her job and even strangers. A<br />
simple smile does go a long way. It’s no wonder<br />
she brings her sassy sense of humor to Nutrition<br />
by Tanya and <strong>Health</strong> & <strong>Heels</strong>. She<br />
loves to put a humorous twist to<br />
most situations, especially dieting.<br />
Make sure to check out Nutrition<br />
by Tanya social media to see<br />
videos on her take on<br />
nutrition.
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