OCT 2021 Blues Vol 37 No. 10.1
OCT 2021 Blues Vol 37 No. 10.1 WE REMEMBER: We say good bye to a true hero, Senior Police Officer William “Bill” Jeffrey. FEATURE STORIES: • Biden Try’s To Eliminate Border Mounted Officers • Washington Try’s To Shift Focus From Drone Strike To Baseless Whipping Story At The Border • Who Wants To Be A Cop Part 6 DEPARTMENTS • Publisher’s Thoughts Part I. • Editor’s Thoughts • Your Thoughts • News Around the State • News Around the Country • Products & Services -Alternative Ballistics • Honoring our Fallen Heroes • Warstories • Aftermath • Open Road-Mustang Mach E Goes to Patrol • Healing Our Heroes • Daryl’s Deliberations • HPOU-From the President, Douglas Griffith • Light Bulb Award • Running 4 Heroes • Blue Mental Health with Tina Jaeckle • Off Duty with Rusty Barron • Parting Shots • Now Hiring - L.E.O. Positions Open in Texas • Last Page -Take Out the Trash
OCT 2021 Blues Vol 37 No. 10.1
WE REMEMBER: We say good bye to a true hero, Senior Police Officer William “Bill” Jeffrey.
FEATURE STORIES:
• Biden Try’s To Eliminate Border Mounted Officers
• Washington Try’s To Shift Focus From Drone Strike
To Baseless Whipping Story At The Border
• Who Wants To Be A Cop Part 6
DEPARTMENTS
• Publisher’s Thoughts Part I.
• Editor’s Thoughts
• Your Thoughts
• News Around the State
• News Around the Country
• Products & Services -Alternative Ballistics
• Honoring our Fallen Heroes
• Warstories
• Aftermath
• Open Road-Mustang Mach E Goes to Patrol
• Healing Our Heroes
• Daryl’s Deliberations
• HPOU-From the President, Douglas Griffith
• Light Bulb Award
• Running 4 Heroes
• Blue Mental Health with Tina Jaeckle
• Off Duty with Rusty Barron
• Parting Shots
• Now Hiring - L.E.O. Positions Open in Texas
• Last Page -Take Out the Trash
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Challenges and Strengths of Law Enforcement<br />
Families, Our Unsung Heroes<br />
According to the IACP resource<br />
page (<strong>2021</strong>), the job of a law enforcement<br />
officer is often stressful,<br />
demanding, and dangerous.<br />
The lifestyle and culture of law<br />
enforcement affects more than<br />
just officers. Spouses, partners,<br />
parents. children, and companions<br />
of law enforcement officers<br />
play an integral part in an officer’s<br />
health and wellness. Recently<br />
I read a posting in a social<br />
media forum asking for thoughts<br />
on the greatest challenges encountered<br />
by law enforcement<br />
spouses, partners, and families<br />
and what steps were taken to<br />
adjust or mitigate the consequences.<br />
The insight and feedback<br />
to this post was powerful<br />
and led me to dedicating this<br />
month’s article to our unsung<br />
heroes who support and love our<br />
law enforcement officers every<br />
day from the home front. This<br />
article will provide a very brief<br />
overview of some of the major<br />
challenges, strengths, and offer<br />
a few suggestions for resources.<br />
FEELING ALONE AND IN FEAR<br />
Many law enforcement spouses,<br />
and partners have described<br />
often feeling alone while their<br />
loved one is working and during<br />
rotating or ever-changing shifts.<br />
One LEO spouse anonymously<br />
shared the following experience,<br />
“It is difficult learning to do<br />
many things alone even though<br />
you’re married. I can’t tell you<br />
how many breakfasts, lunches,<br />
and dinners I have eaten alone<br />
at a restaurant because he got<br />
a call after we ordered or just<br />
never got to the restaurant at all.<br />
Then there are the missed holidays,<br />
birthdays, anniversaries,<br />
and family gatherings. You have<br />
to get to the point where you<br />
understand they are aware and<br />
just as upset or bothered by the<br />
things they miss. Being married<br />
to a LEO is not for everyone. It’s<br />
hard. Then of course there is the<br />
constant fear a spouse carries,<br />
worrying about their LEO, which<br />
has always been there but is<br />
compounded by the hate mongering<br />
these days. I had been<br />
living with the anxiety and fear<br />
for so long that I never realized<br />
the level it had gotten to until he<br />
retired. I was ALWAYS so proud<br />
of him, but the relief was so vast<br />
that for a while after I would find<br />
myself crying from relief at the<br />
weirdest times. Took me a while<br />
to figure out what was going<br />
on and why I was weepy sometimes.”<br />
LACK OF COMMUNICATION,<br />
HYPERVIGILANCE, AND PTSD<br />
It is not unusual to experience<br />
a change in communication<br />
patterns in law enforcement<br />
relationships and marriages. As<br />
a law enforcement officer becomes<br />
more ingrained in the<br />
policing culture and with more<br />
years on the job, he or she may<br />
DR. TINA JAECKLE<br />
become less communicative<br />
which can decrease intimacy.<br />
This is frequently a psychological<br />
and physiological response to<br />
the biological roller coaster of<br />
exhaustion and hypervigilance.<br />
Hypervigilance on a 24/7 basis<br />
can have profound consequences<br />
to all areas of an officer’s life,<br />
including mental health. Furthermore,<br />
the combination of critical<br />
incident(s), cumulative stressors,<br />
and emotional exhaustion from<br />
hypervigilance can lead to post<br />
traumatic stress disorder which<br />
can also have devastating consequences<br />
for both an officer and<br />
the family.<br />
STRENGTHS<br />
I have met countless law enforcement<br />
spouses, partners,<br />
and family members over the<br />
years. One of the most consistent<br />
and valuable characteristics<br />
most possess is resiliency. It is<br />
without question once of their<br />
greatest strengths. They often<br />
learn and grow to embrace that<br />
becoming a part of the blue<br />
family requires commitment,<br />
dedication, and understanding.<br />
A FEW RECOMMENDATIONS<br />
EXPAND YOUR IDENTITY<br />
According to a 2017 Police1<br />
article on marriage and relationships<br />
(Olson and Wasilewski),<br />
officers are often encouraged to<br />
be “more than a cop,” not because<br />
there is anything wrong<br />
with that identity, but it is an<br />
easy identity to get lost in and<br />
so is that of spouse or partner.<br />
Policing can become all-encompassing,<br />
not just for the ones<br />
wearing the uniform, but also for<br />
those who love them. The lifestyle<br />
can become “who you are”<br />
instead of just a part of who you<br />
are. It becomes essential to find<br />
your own purpose and identity<br />
outside of the blue family responsibilities.<br />
COMMUNICATION, TRUST, AND<br />
FLEXIBILITY<br />
One of the most central and<br />
impactful recommendations for<br />
LEO families is to learn how to<br />
enjoy birthdays and holidays on<br />
different days if needed and consistently<br />
practice flexibility for<br />
family events. Embrace the moments<br />
together and make time to<br />
communicate effectively and establish<br />
a safe place to build trust<br />
and intimacy. According to those<br />
in long term law enforcement<br />
marriages or partnerships, these<br />
steps are absolutely instrumental<br />
in having a solid foundation.<br />
RESOURCES<br />
Fortunately, there are now numerous<br />
resources today to assist<br />
law enforcement marriages,<br />
relationships, and families. The<br />
IACP has published very valuable<br />
information on their website,<br />
and I highly encourage you<br />
to take a deeper look and most<br />
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importantly please reach out to<br />
a mental health professional if<br />
you need help navigating any of<br />
these challenges.<br />
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