happiful september 2021

“We have to approve of ourselves
first, instead of waiting for
validation outside of ourselves.”
“Often, when
we receive a
compliment we
feel awkward,
as if we don’t
deserve it “
Taking Denise’s advice, I try to
approve of myself first. I take
some time to look back through
some of my work, and make
a point of acknowledging the
positives in what I see. I also
think about my successes,
reading through my published
writing. I surprise myself by
enjoying the experience and,
by the end of it, I’m struck
by how I feel more positively
about myself as a writer.
The rejections that come
with a writing life seem less
important, less dominating, as
I acknowledge the positives.
Try taking time to
acknowledge your own
successes. Set aside half an hour
or so and write a list of your
achievements. At first, it may
feel challenging or forced, but
as you get going you may find
the words flow. Include things
that might seem small, but are
still important to you. This act
of self-approval can boost your
confidence and, in turn, makes
it easier to then share your
successes with others.
Denise assures me that the
more we start to talk more
positively about ourselves, the
easier it gets. “Your light will
begin to shine, and people will
take notice,” she says. “Also,
you are more likely to be seen
as a person who is capable and
confident, putting you in the
forefront for any promotions.
Each time we do this, our selfworth
grows along with our
confidence.” Talking positively
about ourselves and being open
about our successes can help
us feel better within ourselves,
as well as open doors to new
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