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true story<br />
Bringing the walls down<br />
Following the deaths of both his parents, Jason felt immense<br />
pressure to be ‘the man of the house’, and to bottle up his emotions.<br />
But, with time, he discovered the healing power of vulnerability<br />
Writing | Jason Wood<br />
What is your most vivid childhood<br />
memory? Mine is from 15 May<br />
1997. It was a chilly spring day<br />
in Chicagoland. The sky was<br />
painted an abstract portrait of greys, whites, and<br />
yellows. The home, where glorious memories<br />
were once made, had now been converted<br />
into a makeshift hospice. My dad, my hero,<br />
lay in a hospital bed, drifting in and out of<br />
consciousness. He had only been sick for a few<br />
months, but the end was near. The cancer had<br />
ravaged his body, much like how this event<br />
would eat away at me for years to come.<br />
I arrived home from school and came to his<br />
bedside. I was able to hold his hand one last time<br />
as he whispered, “I love you, Jason.” His body,<br />
yellow from jaundice, looked like a fragment of<br />
the man I once knew. This was my last memory<br />
with him. He breathed his final breath a few<br />
minutes later, and life changed forever. That<br />
is the memory that defines my childhood. It<br />
quickly trumped the joyful ones of holidays and<br />
fishing trips. My hero, my innocence, and my<br />
naivety died that day.<br />
“You’re the man of the house now,” he said<br />
just a few weeks prior, as Mom and I left the<br />
hospital. At 11-years-old, I needed to take care<br />
of Mom, who was chronically ill herself. My<br />
childhood was over. I needed to be an adult.<br />
The top priority was making sure Mom would<br />
be OK. To do so, I put up a front. I began to<br />
mask my inner fears and feelings because<br />
I could not appear weak. I started to lose<br />
touch with who I was, but chalked it up to just<br />
growing up under special circumstances.<br />
Fast forward to 2005, and it felt like my life<br />
was a terrible rerun. Mom, my last pillar, slept<br />
in a hospital room full of beeping machines<br />
and rattled breathing. After two successful<br />
battles with cancer, she was about to lose<br />
this one. I was only 19 – what the hell was I<br />
supposed to do? I was not prepared to be an<br />
adult yet. The wounds from Dad’s death were<br />
still fresh.<br />
I held her frail hand, she reminded me to let<br />
the dog out, and then she joined Dad. I was<br />
alone, really alone. My siblings had turned on<br />
me. They seemed like the enemy now. There<br />
was an age gap in our family, and I was the<br />
youngest by 15 years. They did not approve of<br />
my new party lifestyle. I didn’t approve either,<br />
but it was the only way to feel somewhat my<br />
age and escape the pain I felt.<br />
I faced eviction, arrest, a nasty estate battle,<br />
and a few dead-end jobs in the aftermath. I felt<br />
broken, I felt useless, but above all, I hurt. >>><br />
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