Beautiful Girlhood compiled by Debra Maffett

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you get restless and dissatisfied. You think that everyone is crossing you, when you are really crossing yourself! Watch the changes in your body. The dress you liked so well last summer — did not fit you at all when you got it out this spring. You looked almost comical in it, and you wonder why you ever liked it at all. The dress is just as it was — but you have changed! You have grown taller and taken on a new bodily form. Clothes must be cut <strong>by</strong> a different pattern now to fit you. You are changing just as fast in your likes and dislikes. Mother has been planning a special pleasure for you, possibly has begun your new dress. She explains what she is going to do and how she is going to do it; and when you have a chance to speak, you break her plans all to pieces. She has not pleased you at all, though Mother knows very well that what she intended to do was the very thing you wanted only a short while ago. She looks at you perplexed, and you are almost angry that she should have supposed you would have desired such a thing. Perhaps you speak pertly, and Mother reproves you sharply and calls you an ungrateful girl. You go away and cry real, hot tears — because you are so misunderstood. You, my dear, have changed and do not know it. It is not Mother — but the girl who lives in your body that so misunderstands you! When I was about fourteen, Mother was making me a new dress, and I wanted the upper sleeves made very full at the hand and open from the elbow down. They were very ugly and very unhandy, and always falling into everything, and it was winter and very cold — but I wanted my sleeves made that way no matter what was said to me. Mother set her lips together and said, "Well, you shall have them your way then." Her look called me to my senses, and I began to back down — but she said, "No, you shall have them just as you want them," and I had to drag and dribble those sleeves around until the dress was worn out. I found out that it was just a foolish notion, which lasted but a short while, that I wanted such sleeves, and that my real self despised them. Mother knew that all the time. 16 of 145
I am not blaming girls for being changeable — but I want them to see that they are changing — and not to expect everyone else to change with them! Again the girl finds herself feeling very awkward. It seems to her, that she is always splashing or spilling something and bringing down upon her head admonitions that irritate her. The fact is, that her arms and hands have grown so fast that she cannot measure the length they will reach, nor the force with which they will seize a thing. She has failed to keep acquainted with her own body. She need not be discouraged if she has trouble with awkwardness, for everyone who is growing fast has the same experience. Father himself would be just as awkward — if he were suddenly to gain a few inches in his height. It is hard for even a mother to keep acquainted with growing children. While she may misunderstand to some extent the present whim or mind of the boy and girl, she does understand conditions much better than they do and can see when their desires and impulses would lead them into wrong. A girl is not able "to be her own boss" until she has passed these changing years. Not until then, can she look upon things with a settled gaze. It would be very hard to judge a garden if one went <strong>by</strong> it on a run — and it is just as hard to judge as to what is best, as long as these swift, changing years are happening. If the girl can only be patient and obedient until she gets fully acquainted with herself, she will save both her own heart and her dear parents many hours of trial and anxiety. Strive to keep acquainted with your parents and teachers, so that you can understand their point of view. Look at things from their side. Because they do not agree with you, do not go off pouting and keep to yourself — but listen and really try to see. I could not keep acquainted with anyone, if I never sought her company; or if when I was with her, I always insisted on having my way. And you cannot keep acquainted with Mother if you are always contending for your own way. When you contend with anyone, you come up against their most unlikable side; and if you are continually 17 of 145
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Page 3 and 4: BEAUTIFUL GIRLHOOD by Mable Hale Gi
Page 5 and 6: HOME LIFE 77 A GIRL’S ORNAMENTS 8
Page 7 and 8: FOREWORD Every worthy book has a r
Page 9 and 10: merry, carefree days of youth, whic
Page 11 and 12: 2 FROM THE CHILD TO THE WOMAN "Who
Page 13 and 14: Childhood holds it promises; womanh
Page 15: 3 KEEPING UP ACQUAINTANCE WITH YOUR
Page 19 and 20: It is selfishness that would make a
Page 21 and 22: the moral standards of our childhoo
Page 23 and 24: Just so, no character is built good
Page 25 and 26: 5 THE STRENGTH OF OBEDIENCE "Behold
Page 27 and 28: matter, and her father had reproved
Page 29 and 30: 6 MAKING HERSELF BEAUTIFUL "Charm i
Page 31 and 32: In the cloakroom of a certain schoo
Page 33 and 34: 7 TAMING THE TONGUE "But I tell you
Page 35 and 36: But when the girl undertakes the ta
Page 37 and 38: 8 A SUNNY DISPOSITION "A happy hear
Page 39 and 40: Other people have the kind of smile
Page 41 and 42: 9 THE BEAUTY OF TRUTHFULNESS "Buy t
Page 43 and 44: The wickedest kind of lie, is one t
Page 45 and 46: Again, a girl in her thought makes
Page 47 and 48: ecause he smokes, when deep down in
Page 49 and 50: To be sincere is to have no pretens
Page 51 and 52: What is an ideal woman? What sort o
Page 53 and 54: love. But he was not a Christian, a
Page 55 and 56: these desires, will work and labor
Page 57 and 58: hampered and held back from doing w
Page 59 and 60: strong purpose, the individual beco
Page 61 and 62: is yet the one whose purpose and de
Page 63 and 64: heart is left as empty and hungry a
Page 65 and 66: she is going to do, while she lets
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An old friend is more to be prized
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esent any bold familiarity, and tha
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The girl should be able to launder
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17 THE OILS OF LIFE "Do not let kin
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thought! And some of these thoughts
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18 HOME LIFE "She watches over the
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obedient, kind, and thoughtful —
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The young person begins to feel the
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19 A GIRL’S ORNAMENTS "Your beaut
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There is yet another angle regardin
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for one minute that we approve of t
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At last he noticed, turned, and sou
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21 A NEW AWAKENING "Remember your C
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This awakening of the heart to its
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22 A CHRISTIAN "The disciples were
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There is something about a pure, no
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23 THE QUIET HOUR "Commune with you
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Those who would keep their spirits
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24 MAKING FRIENDS OF BOOKS "When yo
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If a girl is interested in history
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25 WAKING OF THE LOVE NATURE "Love
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This new love nature wants someone
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Girls who are guided properly throu
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— and sometimes they are foolish.
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27 THE GIRL WHO CAN BE TRUSTED "I h
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came home by falsehoods of what had
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28 GETTING READY FOR THE GREAT RESP
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eat properly and regularly, not mak
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29 CHOOSING A LIFEWORK "In her hand
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There is no work that is worthwhile
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30 A CONSECRATED LIFE "I chose you
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There are many kinds of work that a
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31 A PURE HEART "Blessed are the pu
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inward struggles that are so hard t
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upon him; when he undertakes to do
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of bruising her at all, she would s
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While it is true that customs chang
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Clear waters come out of a clean fo
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the neighborhood, in the congregati
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